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    Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    I am working in a software company. From the past 1 month I have been working overtime in order to complete a very important project. But due to this I am facing many personal problems as my family members are annoyed because I am not able to spend any time with them. They are not ready to understand my condition. What should be done in such a situation?

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    It is very important for your family members to understand your situation,and cooperate with you accordingly.You have to make them realise your point.Look,if you get promotion,they are the ones who will be most happy. But without hard work one cannot expect any promotion.The same thing goes with you too. You can discuss the issue with them in this way. If they still disagree with you, then may them clear to them , for the sake of your job it is essential for you to work so long . If the project fails, then a huge responsibility of such failure will be burdened upon you.This you may say is the last weapon for you to make you understand your point.

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    Hello,

    This is a very common problem these days for a person working in a software company.
    Work schedule is very hectic in software field and you have to complete work within a
    stipulated time frame. This makes job very hard but pay package is also very rewarding.
    You shouls try to spend some quality time with your family members in weekend. If possible
    you should take a leave for a period of three four days and visit some place for relaxation. This
    will cool the situation.

    Bye,

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    Dear..

    This kinda situation always occur in offices when ever they receive some important task to complete and it is a bitter truth that we do not have any option other then working more in order to get the task done in better and in timely manner. This problem increased a lot in software companies as the target are very high and the deadlines are very narrow which gives a platform to such kinda situation.

    You can do few things to overcome this kinda situation.

    1. First of all try to spend weekend time with your family
    2. Book a holiday for your family and book the date which is obviously after your deadline of the project and tell them that you have planned this for them and you will take them to a holiday once you complete the task. I am sure they will understand that you are really in pressure and then they will understand you better
    3. Take them to a movie. Believe me a 3 hour outing can give you a very good result
    4. gift them something so that they can chance their belief about you
    5. One thing also you can do is to share your problem with them and tell them that this project is very important for your growth. If you try to convince them then they will surely understand you
    6. Talk to your higher officials and tell them that you are in such a situation and i am sure they will give you a proper solution
    7. Spend at least a day in a week with your family. This will make them happy.

    REMEMBER LIKE YOUR COMPANY NEEDS YOU, YOUR FAMILY ALSO NEEDS YOU.

    Try to balance everything as the situation is not going to remain for very long time.

    Hope it will help

    Cheers...!!!

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    It is understandable that due to the importance of the project you are not able to spend time with them. You have to make your family understand that due to high work pressure this is happening and whatever hard work you are doing is for them. Working hard in such important projects can only make your and yours family future well. See you have to make them understand that this is professional world and the competition is huge and thus the profession has to be given highest priority at times to survive. Tell them that it is not like that you don't want to spend time with them, you also think to spend good time with time but sometimes things cannot be according to your wish. Make them understand that it is for few days and when the project will complete things will automatically get into place.

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    Hi,

    Your work is important along with this your personal life is also important.

    You must explain about the completion of the project to your family members.
    They should understand that it is important for you complete the project on time.
    It is your duty to work and you cannot come out of this situation even if you want to.

    Tell them the profits of completing this project successfully.
    Such a condition is very common in software companies.

    You should also take some time out for your family members.
    Not much time but atleast one hour once a week.
    Give them some quality time or go out for dinner.
    This will make them feel comfortable that instead of so much work , you got some time for them.

    Family members are supportive pillars to working person in the house.
    They will surely understand your situation.

    good luck

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a software company. From the past 1 month I have been working overtime in order to complete a very important project. But due to this I am facing many personal problems as my family members are annoyed because I am not able to spend any time with them. They are not ready to understand my condition. What should be done in such a situation?
    Dear Aspirant,

    It is quite natural to be unhappy with your conditions.In order to get rid of such problems,you can share this matter with your boss.He may advice you to take at least weekly leave to spare your time with your family members.Even if he does not advice to do so,pl.do it yourself.

    Also meanwhile you should convince your family members that it is an temporary problem.I will not have such work load ever.Since doing job is the only means to lead our lives happily,I can't deny the officer's order.Now we will have one day in a week or whole family.

    I think your family members will be then happy with you.

    Thanks & good luck.

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    First of all you should decide till waht time you have to work overtime
    If it is for just another one month than you can tell your family that it is jsut for another one months
    Also during your off days you should give full time to your family
    Go for some outing in the city
    Have patience and explain the things again as you can tell them how important is the project for you and your company
    You can also say that in todays worls people has to give some extra time in office

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    Hello,
    You should also spend your time with your family it is important.It is about time that fathers struggling to combine work and family life get the same level of attention as mothers do.
    1)[FONT=arial,helvetica][FONT=Arial]Spend Time with Kids Everyday
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    [/FONT][FONT=arial,helvetica][FONT=Arial]Try to Have Family Dinner Daily
    3)
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    [/FONT][FONT=arial,helvetica][FONT=Arial]Discuss Big and Small Issues with Your Child
    4)[/FONT]
    [/FONT]
    [FONT=arial,helvetica][FONT=Arial]Avoid Spending Time only in job.
    thanks..........

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    family should be always given time i know your work pressure and work time target set by the company to complete your scheduled project work.. but you should time atleast 1 hour to spend time with them convince them, make them understand your work pressure its temporary because you have less time for completion of project. so when they don't understand its better don't try to explain them too much you should take them out on sundays make them happy and then when they are in happy mood try to explain them what are your compulsions and pressures your facing at office.. definitely they can understand because family members should be carefully handled and you should explain them with love and you cannot try to explain in forcible manner....

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problem as my family members are happy with this

    Dear friend,

    I think You have to make them realize your point.
    Look,if you get promotion,they are the ones who will be most happy.
    But without hard work one cannot expect any promotion.
    The same thing goes with you too.
    You can discuss the issue with them in this way.
    If they still disagree with you, then may them clear to them , for the sake of your job it is essential for you to work so long .
    If the project fails, then a huge responsibility of such failure will be burdened upon you.
    This you may say is the last weapon for you to make you understand your point.

    So don't worry

    Thanks!!!
    all the best...........

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    First you please explain/share the working problems to your family members especially to your beloved wife. Dont try to hide any matter with your wife and convince her with love and affection the present working scenario at company. Explain her the benifits which comes thru hard work in the future and how they will help the family members. Understanding between the couple is most important than the other. please spend the time as maximum as you can with your family members during off times. receive them always in a heartful/pleasant way.

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    Not giving time to your family due to excessive work then you should find a solution for the same as this may lead to some serious problem in your personal life.
    Dear family and Work both are important but if you not work for some days then that work will be done by any other person , but if you not spend time with your family then no one gonna make it for you, so you should choose what is important for you family or work.
    I am not saying you to quit the job, i am saying that go to your boss and say that your wife is not in good condition nowadays and there is nobody to take care of your kids if its possible to get leave for one week or can i go to my home early , if you speak like this to your boss then he will definitely undertsand the situation and they will either give you leave or they will make your working hour less, so you need to say some lies to save your personal life and also one thing , you should make your family realise that how you have taken the leave so that they also understand that how much pressure you are handling , if they not know that then they will never know the things thats happening with you.

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    Re: Working overtime is leading to many personal problems as my family members are happy with this

    It can be easy to understand this due to fact that the actual job you cannot spend more time them. You must make your loved ones recognize that resulting from great do the job force this can be going on and also what ever hard work you are doing is ideal for them. Making an effort in such important jobs can just design your and also your own household upcoming well. View you really these individuals recognize that this can be professional globe and also your competitors is large and therefore the actual occupation ought to be presented most important occasionally to survive. Tell them it is never that adheres to that you dont want to spend more time these individuals, you also believe to pay out very good moment after a while yet in some cases issues cannot be with respect in your wish. Cause them to become have an understanding of it is to get couple of days and also once the job will total issues will instantly wind up in place.
    It is quite organic to get unhappy along with your conditions.In sequence to lose these kinds of difficulties,you can promote the following topic along with your boss.He may perhaps assistance that you consider no less than each week depart to give up your time and efforts with your loved ones members.Even if perhaps he doesn't assistance to accomplish this,pl.do it yourself.

    Additionally scenario you need to coerce your loved ones customers this it becomes an short-term problem.I will not have these kinds of work load ever.Since doing employment is actually the only way to cause our everyday life fortunately,I can't not allow the actual officer's order.Now we shall have got one day per week or even complete family.
    You have to clarify with regards to the conclusion in the job to your loved ones members.
    They ought to recognize that it is vital in your case total the actual job upon time.
    It is your job to be effective and you simply can't leave this situation even if you would like to.

    Tell them the earnings associated with finishing the following job successfully.
    This sort of a medical condition is actually quite common throughout program companies.

    You must also take some time away to get your loved ones members.
    Almost no moment yet at least 1 hour every week.
    Provide them with a number of time or even step out to get dinner.
    This may cause these individuals feel safe this rather than a whole lot do the job , you got some moment to get them.

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