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    What necessary step should I take to stop spreading rumours about me?

    I am a female employee in a consultant company working with a staff of 60 members. I am close to someone and share with them about some of my personal matters to get suggestion from them. But One of them has taken advantage of it and has been spreading rumours related to my personal matters. And now everyone's behaviour towards me has changed and they are looking in a such a manner as if they are questioning my character. How to find out who has spreaded the and what should I do so that the environment in the office becomes normal without giving details about the matter to anyone.

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    Ashok Array
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    Re: What necessary step should I take to stop spreading rumours about me?

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    I am a female employee in a consultant company working with a staff of 60 members. I am close to someone and share with them about some of my personal matters to get suggestion from them. But One of them has taken advantage of it and has been spreading rumours related to my personal matters. And now everyone's behaviour towards me has changed and they are looking in a such a manner as if they are questioning my character. How to find out who has spreaded the and what should I do so that the environment in the office becomes normal without giving details about the matter to anyone.

    Dear Aspirant,

    It is quite common to spread rumours when one pair of opposite sex are in close contact.The best way to be mentally free is not to care any voice & be perfect in yourself.Whenever any one doubts you,you can reply it is just our closeness as a brother & sister & nothing else.Because it is very difficult to go on giving clarification to each & every one.If any one teases you,you should not tolerate it & threaten them to bring the matter to the police station.Being human being,it is our right & need to be close to some one,but it should not be taken otherwise by any one.

    The only thing your mate should be with you & he should not go against you.If both of you are one & fair,the others can not do any thing for which you should have full determination.
    Thanks & good luck.

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    Re: What necessary step should I take to stop spreading rumours about me?

    hello frnd.. firstly u should not share ur personal things to every one. because people do not under stand the feelings.. and now if u want to recognize that person dnt get angry and just talk some one who were most close to u.. and tell him whole story. may be he will help u..and dont over react in office everyone's mouth will be close

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    Re: What necessary step should I take to stop spreading rumours about me?

    Hi, First of all, you should never discuss personal matters with your colleagues at work place. Always maintain a distance with your professional friends and carry formal or casual (not personal) conversations with them in free time. Now, that you have realized this, I would suggest you not to worry too much about their reaction, rather continue behaving normal with them and continue maintaining focus on your work. Gradually with passage of time, people will forget all your conversations and will start behaving normally with you. Stay busy at work and have a positive attitude. Time is the greatest heal and the matter that you have discussed is not that serious one. So take a chill pill...Thanks.

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    Re: What necessary step should I take to stop spreading rumours about me?

    These are all common in a organization. so please don't be upset and go ahead with your work schedules to be completed in due course. Meanwhile have a keen look and find out who are giving trouble to you. If you found anybody in this regard, tell them in a polite way not to interfere in your personal matters. If they continues the same and creating problems among others, then do not hesitate report the matter in written mentioning your problems being faced if necessary with proof to the higher officials for enquiry and necessary action against them. Everything will be set right. regards

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    Re: What necessary step should I take to stop spreading rumours about me?

    As you are a girl and somebody spread rumours that you are having loose character then you should find it by any of the employee whom you think is a good person to find out who is spreadind all these things, if you find that person then you should give him the verbal dose and after that you need to prove that in front of the higher authorities that he did such kind of thing to you.
    Before that one thing i need to say to you is never trust any one to share your personal views because nowadays many people are in the society who thinks that if any girl is having a frank behaviour then she is character less, many of my colleagues i have seen think like this, but you need to make some limitation of yours if you dont want that anybody make such rumours against you.
    Because if you stop sharing your views in front of them then they will not know any thing about you and after that they will think twice to spread rumours like this.
    Trust only those who are close to you but never to the unknown person , because you dont know what the other person is thinking about you.

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