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    Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    I am working in a MNC. Recently my manager distributed cards and sweets to everyone for his daughterís marriage. He has made it compulsory for everyone to attend the marriage.But I have a very important family function on that day which I cannot afford to miss.But I donít know what will happen if I donít attend my managerís daughter marriage.How to get out of this situation?

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    Vinod Singh Bisht Array
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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    Dear Friend,
    If you are thinking so much about your manager's daughter marriage then you tried to attend this. And if you think that your family function is too important then you should attend your family function. Understand both requirements and after effect.
    Now you can attend both the funtion, tried to find the total distance between two funtion location if it's not too far and it will take two hour journey to return back from one location to another then you should try this plan.
    Other options are you can make many excuses.
    All the best.

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    This is common for everyone that he/she expects all the invited people to be present for the occasion for which he/she has invited.The same is with your manager.He wants everyone to join in his happy time and share the happiness with him.This is also a kind of respect for the manager.So,you should not completely avoid the manager's daughter marriage.Instead you can implement the following suggestions.

    -Try to atleast go for the ceremony if not for a long time.
    -Meet your manager,congratulate him and wish his daughter for the new journey.
    -After that express your inability to the manger regarding your inability to stay there for a long time.
    -Explain the compulsion and urgency of your presence in your family function.
    -Say sorry and wish him for carrying out everything properly and for a new journey on departure of his daughter into a new home.
    -If any situation arises that you are completely unable to attend the manager's daughter marriage then you should speak to your manager much before the occasion.
    -Talk to your boss and express your inability to attend the occasion and also express sorry.
    -Explain the cause for your inability and also the urgency of it.
    -Request for cooperation from your manager regarding this issue.
    -Wish him and his daughter good luck for the new beginning.
    -Also promise that you will surely pay a visit to his house and meet his daughter and her husband very soon.

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    Hello,

    Your case is very simple. Tell your boss that you respect his invitation but you have your own
    family matter to attend. Tell him to see the matter from your point of view. I believe he will
    definately understand your situation. After all he has his own family.

    Bye,

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    Are are not making idea that which function is most important for you to attend?

    If boss's daugher's marraige is important than attent it.

    If the family function is more important then attend that function.

    But if both have same importance then try to attend both functions.

    If the distance between both venues is between 100 Kms then attend both functions.

    In a single day one can attend multiple functions.

    It will be better if in place of not attending function you atleast go for one hour.

    In this situation your manager/ family members will not angry with you.

    But if distance is more then one option will be in your hand; attend the most important one.

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    hi
    first of all you need to go the manager before the marriage, maybe a week ago with a well maintained marriage card and a nice gift for him and his daughter and then you should keep your problem of not attending his daughter's marriage. you should try to convince him in a very polite manner. i hope eventually, the boss will agree to your condition and approve your leave.
    gud luck

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    Hello ,
    I think it wont be nice to completely decline the idea of attending your managers daughter not because he is
    your manager . There are associated sentiments and the boss will always appreciate you to join in their happiness
    and should spare some time off .

    It might happen that you get some time off during the function is going on , I guess so should look for such a
    chance and just pay a visit to the marriage
    (INCASE ITS POSSIBLE , distance and time wise ) . I am sure your boss
    will be very pleased on your gesture .
    Do not take this a means to impress and all (nothing like that) , your boss will be happy to see you there as you
    managed some time for such a big event in his life as well .
    No need to stick around , you can mention the time constraints which you have and just go and wish the couple
    a good future ahead .


    Although , If there is a a very big family function where you presence is required the full time , then you should convey
    the message to your manager before hand . You could simple explain him that :: As much as you wanted to attend the marriage,
    it is beyong you to do so before of the function on the same day .

    It is understandable for you to be busy with all the preparations and arrangements before the event . He would
    be going through the same during that time .
    Explain your gratitude on being invited to attend and convince him on your parts that it would be very difficult to make it .
    The wish your boss and his daughter for a bright and exciting new life with his husband .
    Definitly give them a visit in the next 2-3 days . It will be good gesture as you could not
    attend the marriage .

    I am sure that your boss will not mind anything as you have a geniune reason which he will definitly
    understand . So do whatever favours you that day itself .
    Thank you .

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    Hi,
    It is not that much of problem to worry .You are also have important function in your family.So say it your boss he can understand no need worry about it.you have to manage your family life and job.you explain the problem and say how important it is to you.So First say it your boss and then take a decision whether you must attend or not.If it is not possible to say directly then try to say it by phone call.It is better to say your wishes to your manager on that day by sending greeting or any kind of gift and convey apology for your absence.

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    First of all try to see if you can make it to both places like..
    ->goto your manager's daughter marriage.
    ->Meet your boss and his daughter and your manager about the function at your home
    -> and then get back to your house.
    If you can't make it to both places then just goto your manager's office and tell him your situtaion.He'll definately understand it and will let you go.

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    Quote Originally Posted by Vinod Singh Bisht View Post
    Dear Friend,
    If you are thinking so much about your manager's daughter marriage then you tried to attend this. And if you think that your family function is too important then you should attend your family function. Understand both requirements and after effect.
    Now you can attend both the funtion, tried to find the total distance between two funtion location if it's not too far and it will take two hour journey to return back from one location to another then you should try this plan.
    Other options are you can make many excuses.
    All the best.
    Dear Aspirant,

    It happens very often to attend more than one functions the same day.To find the way is the solution to it.It may be possible to attend both the functions if the distance between the two function places is manageable.So see the possiblities.If it is feasible to attend both the functions,do it positively.Otherwise see the importance between the two functions.Attend the most important function physically & you can convey your good wishes & congratulations over phone to the head of the next function.At the same time you may be present in the next venue after few days.

    So decide according to the situations & feasibility.

    Thanks & good luck.

    Ashok..

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    Re: Unable to attend my manager's daughter marriage

    Hi friends,

    I think your problem very simple.
    You can go for and tell your boss sat to sorry.
    You can tell him your problem and don't mind am not coming your invitation tell him.
    I think your manager definitely understand your problem.
    you can invite the your manager in your house .
    I think your manager definitely relation continue the your and your family also.

    Thanks!!!

    GOOD LUCK.............

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    Dear this is very critical situation for you means when your manager asked you to attend the marriage of his daughter then you must go there but you have mentioned that your family also planed for program at the same date then it is also necessary for you and you may not leave it so that in this situation, you should go to your manager and tell them about your problems, wish them with congratulations and tell them that you are really unable to attend the marriage party of their daughter because you have also planed for some program at the same date and that is more important for you and also tell them that if possible then you will definitely for a short time and i would like to say that you should go their for at least 30 minutes because there is nothing happens to attending the party for a few time and go there wish their daughter and tell to your boss that you are really unable to stay here for a long time and bring any good gift for their daughter and do not forget to invite your boss at your family program because if you will not invite them then it would not be fair for them from you so that if you will invite them for a same day then they may understand your problem and allow you to attend your own program

    All the best

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    Hi aspirant

    I think you should do what your heart says. If you think that you can't miss your family function and also are equally excited to attend the same, then you should definitely attend it and give a miss to your manager's daughter marriage. I know that it is a very tricky situation for you but you should not do anything under compulsion. I can understand why you are giving so much importance to your manager's daughter wedding as you want to remain in his good books and don't want to lose your reputation with him.

    But don't worry friend, you just happily attend your own family function and I am sure everything will take care of itself. Later on if your manager asks you about your absence, you can tell himj the truth that you have loved to attend his daughter's wedding but sadly couldn't do so due to an important family function. you hope that he will understand you. Also you can present him with some gift for his daughter's wedding and I am sure he will not hold any grudge against you.

    Good luck friend. I hope you enjoy your family function

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    It will be the desire of a father that all their subordinates attend his daughters marriage so try to show his richness..If anyone fails to attend it he will be disappointed..But you are having a valid reason..Go to him and tell him about it..He will surely allow you..Thank you..

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    I think it wont be nice to fully decline the thought of attending your managers female offspring not as a result of he's
    your manager . There area unit associated sentiments and also the boss can forever appreciate you to hitch in their happiness and will spare it slow off .

    it would happen that you simply get it slow off throughout the perform goes on , i suppose thus ought to search for such a probability and simply pay a visit to the wedding (INCASE ITS doable , distance and time wise ) . i'm certain your boss
    are more than happy on your gesture .
    don't take this a way to impress and every one (nothing like that) , your boss are happy to check you there as you
    managed it slow for such a giant event in his life likewise .
    No have to be compelled to stick around , you'll be able to mention the time constraints that you've got and simply go and want the couple a decent future ahead .

    Although , If there's a a awfully huge family perform wherever you presence is needed the total time , then you must convey The message to your manager before hand . you may straightforward make a case for him that :: the maximum amount as you needed to attend the wedding,
    it's beyong you to try and do thus before of the perform on identical day .

    It's intelligible for you to be busy with all the preparations and arrangements before the event . He would
    be browsing identical throughout that point .
    make a case for your feeling on being invited to attend and persuade him on your components that it might be terribly troublesome to form it .
    The want your boss and his female offspring for a bright and exciting new life along with his husband .
    Definitly provide them a visit within the next 2-3 days . it'll be smart gesture as you may not
    attend the wedding .

    I'm certain that your boss won't mind something as you've got a geniune reason that he can definitly
    understand . thus do no matter favours you that day itself .
    It happens fairly often to attend quite one functions identical day.To find the manner is that the answer thereto.It may be doable to attend each the performs if the gap between the 2 function places is manageable.So see the possiblities.If it's possible to attend each the functions,do it completely.Otherwise see the importance between the 2 functions.Attend the foremost necessary perform physically & you'll be able to convey your smart needs & congratulations over phone to the top of consecutive perform.At identical time you will be gift within the next venue when few days.

    Thus decide in line with the things & feasibleness.

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    Re: Unable to attend my managerís daughter marriage

    hi dude.,
    confuse
    ??????? hey jus think for a while., listen to yourself., wether you boss daughter's wedding or attending yor family function;
    it doesn't matter what happens next cozzz;
    if you really want to attend your family function just visit there., if not then go for the next option;
    if you do what you really like you can give an appropriate answer when you are questioned.,
    because you know about yourself;
    what ever decision you take; you have to give explanation for either of them;
    so think which is important;
    it all depends on
    THANKYOU


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