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    Should I ask one of my colleagues to help me as he has very good connections?

    I am working in a government organisation. I have some personal work for which I need good connections. One of my colleagues has very good connections but I havenít interacted with him much. So I am really hesitant in asking him to help me. What to do in such a situation?

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    Re: Should I ask one of my colleagues to help me as he has very good connections?

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    I am working in a government organisation. I have some personal work for which I need good connections. One of my colleagues has very good connections but I havenít interacted with him much. So I am really hesitant in asking him to help me. What to do in such a situation?
    Dear Aspirant,

    Man is a social animal.A single man can not survive,because man/human being needs many things such as shelter,clothes,food,relationship with another one etc to survive in this world.A single human being can not meet all requirements alone,so a human body needs contact & relationship with other human being.

    Since you are required to do some personal works which can not be done alone & you are in good contact with some one.In this connection,it is nothing wrong in asking your contact person for help.As a human being,you should keep it in mind to help him in his need.Like that you can develop a good friendship for ever.The friendship is spoiled when your self interested is dominated & same condition applied with others also.

    So you can very well try for help.

    Thanks & good luck.

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    Re: Should I ask one of my colleagues to help me as he has very good connections?

    Hi,Human beings are part of this society. You live in this society with each other. Every one needs the other person and cannot survive without the help of other human beings.You must not hesitate in asking such help to your colleague. He is your colleague so you can ask him any thing you need. Be bold enough to ask for help from other people when you need. You should never ever feel shy when you need help. Asking for help is not a small thing. It will not make you small. It is the thing which every person needs in some cases of life. You cannot go on to succeed without any help.You will also make a good friendship with him during the time. Just interact and ask in friendly manner. He will surely help you. And remember in life you should always be ready to help others and receive their help when you need.All the best

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    Re: Should I ask one of my colleagues to help me as he has very good connections?

    Hi Dear,

    In my opinion, as you need assistance in getting your personal work done, you can always approach or seek assistance of your friends. In fact, all of us are dependent on each other in a society and we need our friend's and family's support at different stages of our life. If we start hesitating or develop an ego and start inculcating the feeling that we can always do our work on ourselves, we would always be caught in the cobweb of troubles. So, the crux of the matter is that we have to take each other's help every now and then.

    My dear friend, do not shy away from asking your friend to help you but talk to him in a mature and humble manner. Although, you do not know him personally but I am sure if he is a mature individual, he would never take it otherwise.

    Henceforth, be confident and go ahead and talk to him without expectating too much from him. If you will not have exaggerated expectations from him, you will not get hurt if he refuses to do your work. But, there is no harm in trying your best.

    Wish you luck!
    Ritz

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    Re: Should I ask one of my colleagues to help me as he has very good connections?

    Hello Friend,


    Yes, you should take his help in this regard. Asking for help is a sign of strength and not weakness. There are certain areas in which we are not at all familiar with and need assistance from someone who knows it well. As a part and parcel of our society we just can't ignore people to people contact. This is a very rare and valuable art and not many people can do that.

    So, you should not hesitate to take help from that person to sort ou your personal work. I don't think this is a big issueas we all take help during our time of need. Talk to him share your ideas and thoughts with him and develop a good professional relationship with him. Best of luck.

    Bye,

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    Re: Should I ask one of my colleagues to help me as he has very good connections?

    Hi,
    One of your colleagues has very good connections but you havenít interacted with him much, so you just need 1 step ahead and interact with him. If he is good person then i am pretty confident that he help's you. Because connection is just increase with good and healthy communication.
    So do not hesitant and approach with good and polite manner, definitely you will find good and positive response.
    Thanks

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    Re: Should I ask one of my colleagues to help me as he has very good connections?

    Asking for the help is not a bad thing if the person is not having any objection to help you , so before asking for the help you need to know that whether your work is good fo help or not or the person you are asking for the help is good enough to help you for the same.
    If he is not able to help you then you must not ask him to help you because he might get you in trouble for the same.
    As you said that he has good connections then you should try once for the help may be he will help you for the same as he might help you in a very good manner.
    First of all you can offer him the money for helping you because nowadays no one is helping anyone without money , so at least you should try once.
    If you think that the person is not good by nature then you should not ask for the help because he will not help you for the same.

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    Re: Should I ask one of my colleagues to help me as he has very good connections?

    Hesitation and relations donít make it a match for making a good network connections which you are being looking for so donít hesitate to mingle with your colleagues its not that your shy be mature and have a good attitude in making friends .. yes, its really difficult to mingle with others if you find them different and you tend to have a fear of being ignored and ego comes into play so you are being moved away from emotions of being reserved.. so you should never let this feeling come up in you donít think about how others behave with you or how they react with you you can really cannot guarantee oneís behavior.. your relations with colleagues is very important one as because work environment with perfect work friendly relations can do wonders for your self being corned feeling should be vented out from your mind and your body..

    Respect your colleague with whom you want to have relations for making good contacts .. you should go up to him and ask for help its you who needs to go up and ask him guidance its not that your mean and your making relations for your wants keep out the feelings as a humans we all have needs and wants so in a relation to co exist you need to have mutual understanding and you both should be helpful to each other when you donít have a purpose and also if there is no need then relations donít exist this is hard core reality.. we make friendship for assistance and help in daily activities if you were to do all things then relation has no meaning and purpose.. so donít feel shy and deprived be the one to move one step a head and offer your friendship and who knows the other person will take 100 steps to give his hand to your relationship.. immediately donít ask for help ask his assistance in work or create a feeling that you need his help in solving your problems.. never feel shy be confident and try to impress people with your good nature .. the one foremost thing that you need to develop in your mind is that you should never dream of having good people around you you can never expect that but instead you should always offer olive branches even you donít like them this will have to happy always and its sometimes people are so mean that they talk only if they have work with you avoid such actions even you have faced it .. you can ask for help donít fear that you will be ignored the mistakes these young generation does is that they have ego feeling come into their relation take out the feelings that he should talk with him not me this sort of self feeling will not serve any purpose with you and relation tend to be in down fall mode be the first to initiate good relation mingle with him ask for guidance tell him to teach something which your not good at be ignorant in learning from others .. so its high time that you move forward and make friends and move along with them have ideas that benefit of you .. all the best donít be in denial and hesitation I wish you have good relation with him and also you find good number of connectionsÖ

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    Re: Should I ask one of my colleagues to help me as he has very good connections?

    Sir if you are being hesitated from your colleagues then may be that you did not ever talked about it to your colleagues because you have never faced such type of situation and personal works are there where connections are necessary on the time and if we have good connections in our life then we may see that our works are being done with the support and quickly that is why connections are necessary in life because necessity may be generated anytime in our life so we should be in touch of higher officials who are useful for the society

    If you have not made very good relations with one of your colleague then you should not worry because if you have not very good interaction then you have not fought with him and you never did anything wrong in your office and having very good image too then you should not worry because may be that you do not talk too much with anyone in the office but if your behavior and work is good then everyone know you for that and respect a lot with kindness so you should trust in yourself that you did good then you will get positive reply

    First of all you should contact to that colleague but not in office but you can ask him about this when he is free from all the work or having rest in lunch time and only when he is alone then it would be a very good way to get your work completed then you should request them and mention your issue that you have to solve soon and if your colleague has really good connections and able to work for you then he will never refuse you and if he accept then you should thank him a lot but if he say that nothing can be done in it then you should not force that employee because he is not abide of your work then you may create a good atmosphere between relations and if they reject then also do not worry and get angry and basically he will not say no for your work

    All the best

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