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    The rumours of my alleged affair with my colleague have even reached my boss

    I am working in a private firm. From quite sometime now the rumours of my alleged affair with one of my colleagues have been doing the rounds. But now this has crossed its limits as the rumours have even reached my boss. This is very ridiculous indeed. What to do in such a situation?

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    Re: The rumours of my alleged affair with my colleague have even reached my boss

    Hello,


    You should do nothing at all. If the rumours of your affair is not true then you have to learn
    to ignore such thing. Morever, you don't have to explain it to anybody , if they ask you only then
    you can say waht you believe. This thing can create problem in working condition and you should
    be cautious about it.

    Bye,

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    Hi friend,

    I think this is bad situation
    You can explain to your boss what was the mater
    You can maintain distance to your colleague
    You can don't afraid
    You can complain to this mater to your boss also
    You can warning your colleagues

    Thanks!!!
    all the best.............

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    hello,
    try to give a strict warning to the person whos is spreading the rumour and give him some good quoting and ask him if he repeats it again then you will take strict action and say him you will go to higher officials regarding it.
    if he stops then its better and if he does the same then give a police complaint.
    thank you..............

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    Re: The rumours of my alleged affair with my colleague have even reached my boss

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a private firm. From quite sometime now the rumours of my alleged affair with one of my colleagues have been doing the rounds. But now this has crossed its limits as the rumours have even reached my boss. This is very ridiculous indeed. What to do in such a situation?
    Hello Aspirant,

    Such types of rumours spread very quickly.You should not worry for such problem.The rumour may or may not be true.If both of you are agree,no one can punish you,because there won't be any evidence for others to punish you.So if your boss ask you in this regard,you can deny for it & you can request to confirm the matter with my colleague.You should convey the matter to your colleague also.

    Hope you will over come such problem.

    Good luck.

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    Hello,
    Their are some suggestion to stop the rumors-
    1.Never say "no comment".
    2.Don't confuse taking a stand for integrity with 'being defensive''.
    3.
    Determine what lends credibility to the rumor, and stop it.
    4.If you have credible evidence to the contrary, state "That simply cannot be true because...." and keep it simple.
    5.Broadcast the rumor.
    6.Address the rumor-mongering comprehensively.
    7.If you do work out who has started the rumor it is best to avoid a harsh confrontation with them
    .
    Thanks.....

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    Re: The rumours of my alleged affair with my colleague have even reached my boss

    before they misunderstand the situation you should clear the air i mean you should come clean tell your friends what exactly the relationship with her is.. if your clean at your character don't worry for the controversy surrounding you.. be the first person to dare and speak if your not wrong ..its important that you clean your image rumours keep on spreading you cannot stop people each and every one so its important that you always maintain your dignity and if your asked about the relationship be brave and defend yourself from controversies untill your right at yourself..

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    It is very bad to gossip and spread rumors about such things in a working enviornment, either it is true or not there should be no such practice followed by anyone to talk about some one else personal life. You should complain to your boss about this matter and make him clear that you don't like such things talked about you in the office, tell him that such things greatly distracts you from doing your work properly and thus can effect your
    work. Tell your boss to please look in to the matter and help you to have a control in such things in the office. If you will talk with your boss clearly about this and show him that you are not at all liking it, he will understand and thus will take appropriate action.

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    I can understand that you are fear. You are much worried about your reputation. But you know public memory is very poor. Today they are busy in spreading rumours about you. The very next day they will make somebody else their target. So its better you give them a damn. Be very clear to yourself. Otherwise don't be bothered on what they say. They will talk behind your back, making you famous. There is no need to give your boss any explanation. If he asks you about this issue, then just tell him what is true. If he is intelligent enough, then he will understand your point.

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    Dear, personal matters should never be discussed at work place; however, if rumours have already been spread; you cannot do much about it. You just need to ignore such rumours and continue your focus on work because at the end its only work that is counted. I don't think even your boss would give much importance to such hearsay, yet if he discusses your personal life with you, you can always explain him the truth. In addition, be professional with your female colleagues and try avoid being over friendly with anyone. Give importance to work and not to what people say about you or about anyone. Ultimately, people will get tired of gossiping around and will respect you for your work.

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    Re: The rumours of my alleged affair with my colleague have even reached my boss

    hi
    what is the problem of being having an affair with a collegue. You have your own personal life and nobody has the right to interrupt you with that.
    If you are having an affair then be a man to accept it and tell everyone that its none of their business to peep into your matter. And if you do not have any kind of affair, then straight away tell them I do not have any kind of affair with anybody, therefore stop troubling me with your ruthless allegations\

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    Re: The rumours of my alleged affair with my colleague have even reached my boss

    Whats wrong with that if your boss know about the affairs, as you said that it is a rumour then you should not worry for the same as these things will always into the organisation.
    Just listen the words of the colleagues and boss for some days but never do the mistakes anytime because that will be directly joined with the rumours and you will be scolded for that.
    Try to convince your boss that all these things are just a rumours and you are not involved in any such kind of things.
    Try to get that colleague with you and also let her explain the situation, they your boss will listen to you and understand the situation and never say anything for both of you.
    if things are getting worse then you shopuld complain for that to the higher authorities but never leave the job due to these things.

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    Re: The rumours of my alleged affair with my colleague have even reached my boss

    This sort of varieties of whispers propagate very quickly.You probably should not worry intended for this kind of problem.The rumour may or may not be true.If both of you are acknowledge,no person can give a punishment anyone,mainly because there won't be any data for some individuals in order to give a punishment you.So if your employer check with anyone in this regard,you may reject for doing it & you may inquire to ensure the matter by using my own colleague.You should show the matter for your co-worker also.
    It is quite poor in order to chat plus propagate rumors about similar things throughout a functional enviornment, either it's correct you aren't there should be no this kind of apply with someone to talk over some a single more very own life. You ought to protest for your employer concerning this topic plus make him crystal clear which you don't such as similar things pointed out anyone at work, inform him of which similar things significantly distracts through doing all of your work effectively and thus could result a person's
    work. Inform your employer to impress look into your topic plus help you to possess a control throughout similar things within the office. If you'll engage with your employer evidently concerning this plus exhibit your pet that you are not in any respect loving it, he's going to comprehend and thus is going to take correct action.
    very own is important won't be mentioned on workplace; nevertheless, when whispers have been propagate; anyone cannot do very much about it. Simply ignore this kind of whispers plus proceed a person's target deliver the results mainly because towards the end it is just deliver the results that is counted. I actually do not believe possibly your manager gives very much value in order to this kind of rumour, nonetheless when he discusses your personal lifetime on hand, you could make clear your pet your truth. On top of that, be expert with all your girl peers and check out avoid being around welcoming by using anyone. Offer value to work plus to not ever what folks point out your self or even about anyone. Eventually, folks are certain to get fed up with gossiping about and may admire anyone intended for your task
    Whats wrong with that if your employer understand the matters, while you reported that it is rumour don't worry intended for exactly like these matters will to the organisation.
    Simply pay attention what in the peers plus employer for quite a few a short time yet by no means perform the errors when mainly because that will be specifically joined together with the whispers and you'll be scolded intended for that.
    Make an effort to coerce your manager of which all these items are simply a whispers and you are not really involved with such style of things.
    Make an effort to obtain that co-worker by using you together with additionally permit her to make clear the specific situation, that they your manager can pay attention to you together with view the circumstances and not point out anything for both involving you.
    when items are becoming worse you then shopuld protest for your on the larger authorities yet by no means get away from the job because of these types of things.

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