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    Personal issues coming in the way of my professional life

    I and my wife are working in the same company and on the same project. But recently I had a fight with my wife over some personal issues and we have not made up till now. This is also affecting our project as we donít talk to each other much and thus are not able to co-ordinate. Please suggest me a way to get out of this situation.

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    Re: Personal issues coming in the way of my professional life

    Hi aspirant

    You should definitely not let your personal issues come in the way of your professional life. If you and your wife had some fight over some personal issues then you should make sure that it doesn't affect your professional life.Even if you are not on talking terms at home then you should atleast not let your project suffer due to this. You should definitely co-ordinate with each other and make sure that you interact with each other properly when you are working on your project.

    First of all you both should make up with each other and promise each other that you will never fight over such issues again. You have to do this if you want to make your professional life successful. As you both are on the same project you both should be responsible to see that you finish it on time and also to finish it in the best way possible. If you let it suffer due to personal indifferences then you surely don't deserve to be in this company and you would be cheating the same company which has given you so much in the past few years.

    I hope you get my point and make up soon. Good luck

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    Re: Personal issues coming in the way of my professional life

    Hello there !!!

    this is so called story of every house
    but it don't mean that you won't talk with one another on the professional project.
    and this is genuine in 99.99% of the cases.

    so, anyone from both of you have to make it up.
    either you or she.
    because this can ruin your professional life alongwith your personal life.
    and in most of the cases husband has to say sorry.
    so don't wait we are made for saying sorry only although we have not committed any mistake

    if one sorry can make it up, than what is wrong in this.
    so don't have much ego,go and tell your wife sorry. ok ??

    this will help you out from your problem.
    and try to be professional with your wife too.

    thanks for posting in EALP.
    pushp ranjan singh

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    Hello,

    Firstly you have to learn to keep separate your personal and professional life.If you mix these two,then it is evident that you will face issues.And this is what that has happened in your case.You are not supposed to bring your office load to home.If you bring it home then there will always be scopes for any sort of conflict or misunderstanding.Both of you are different individuals,having different ways of thinking.So it is not necessary that both of you will agree to the same point.I will suggest you to convince your wife asking to keep personal relationship aside while working.If you can do this then there will be much less conflict of interest.Request her to end up the misunderstanding and take her for outside dinner to a good restaurant.

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    Hey!
    This is a situation where you need to strike a balance between personal and professional life. Situations like these do crop up when husband and wife are working in the same organization. This is one of the banes of working together and to add to it on the same project. At the same time the two of you have to behave like responsible individuals and make sure that your personal issues are not coming in the way of your professional life.

    I am sure that the two of you are not at ease because of the fight that you have had and hence this must be affecting not only your efficency but also your coordination at work. This can be a major set back for the project that you are working on and can hence be a disadvantage for the organization. You as a good employee need to address the situation at the earliest. You need to make sure that your personal issues do not cause a huge damage to your professional issues.

    The best thing to do in such a situation is to make up with your wife at home. I am sure that she must be feeling the same way as you are and she also wants to amend things between the two of you. It is just the hesitation that is preventing the two of you from sorting out the issue. If you sort out the issue at home it will serve a dual purpose for you. It will ease tensions at your home and also at your work place.

    You should keep in mind that considering that you are working in the same organization as your wife then the responsibilty of working sincerely and efficiently on your shoulders is double. It might also happen that some of your colleagues notice this odd behaviour of yours and hence try to poke their nose into your life. This might aggravate the situation and lead to further problems for the two of you. I am sure that you do not want this to happen.

    All the best for your future.

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    Dear personal issues should be personal and do not let them enter in your professional life because there is a huge difference between both of these and if you would try to avoid your personal fight at your office then it would be good for the career of both of you because if you will keep your personal matters in the office then it may affect your working performance and your time of working because the personal issues are really personal and critical and you are a married person and there has been fight between both of you which is common in the married life but still you need to focus at your work in the office and if you think about the personal matters then you should come back to the home and take some rest and be cool in thinking and call your wife to talk to you and consult about your personal fight because both of you are husband - wife and this relation forms after so many swears and your familiars believes in both of you that you would be happy with each other so that you should keep that trust stable in front of them and as for as your office project is concerned so that both of you are responsible for that project and if you both will not co-operate each other then what would happen of your project and you would spoil your image in the office so dear if possible then try to solve your personal fight as soon as possible because it is affecting your office work and be cool and do not fight again otherwise i may also affect your married and happy life and try to understand each other so that your married life could become great

    All the best


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    Re: Personal issues coming in the way of my professional life

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I and my wife are working in the same company and on the same project. But recently I had a fight with my wife over some personal issues and we have not made up till now. This is also affecting our project as we donít talk to each other much and thus are not able to co-ordinate. Please suggest me a way to get out of this situation.
    Dear Aspitant,

    It is very common in life.Each & every individual has own nature.No one wants to compromise with his/her nature.But being husband & wife,both of you have one day leisure time to discuss the issue & come to point of agreement for progress in life.Both of you should not be adamant.Being a male member,you should take more interest to bring the situation normal.

    This is good for your happy life,otherwise there is no use of earning money.If it is not possible,get your transfer to some other project.Here also you may not find mental peace.So it will be better to live together happily.

    Thanks & good luck.

    Ashok..

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    Hi.......................,


    Firstly you need to built a good relationship with each other.
    Once your personal issues are solved all your problem will be solved.
    So improve your current relation feel sorry to her.
    Girls are impressed when someone gifts her chocolate .
    So improve personal relation and all other problems are not a issue.

    Thanks

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    Dear friend personal issue must not come at your working place.Alaways try to remain far away about personal affair if you begin to quarrel with each other in the ie (wife & husband) then nobody will help you to stop your personal affair.As a result atmosphere of the working place will go to hell.
    There are probabality of errors much more between you and your wife's work, as always you both will think each other.If there is any loss due to major blunder then manager of your company will asult you roughly, will it be better fo you both as well as company too.Never, such situation never be weocome .Now both of you do not talk with each other as a result official work will be disturbed heavily, such situation who will bear or tackle silently?

    My advise for you both you must feel each other as colleague never feel like husband and wife because you know office is office and house is house.When you work in office you must work accor4dingly never feel as home atmosphere, this method will be helpful to continue/resume your
    work normally, if there is any branch of your office stand's near by then either you or your wife can take a transfer to solve your personal problem thus atmmosphere of working place will be normal.

    Thank You,

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    Re: Personal issues coming in the way of my professional life

    Hi friends,

    I think you first learn to keep and separate your personal issues and professional life.
    You can mixed this two issues you can faces the problems.
    You must think about the your personal issues in your house only.
    You can focus the your professional life most important, because personal issues commonly face you.
    You can balance the your personal issues and profession life.
    You can ask the your wife in a personal issues.

    So you can prefer the your personal issues.

    Thanks!!!

    GOOD LUCK

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    Re: Personal issues coming in the way of my professional life

    Hello

    Fights are a very common issues between husband and wife.
    And this is not a big deal.
    If you had a fight then be the first one to patch up.
    Plan a surprise or a dinner and spend some quality time and clear out the things between both of you.

    Moreover if you have a fight then try to be proffesional and dont mix your personal life with work

    so try o avoid this situation specially in the work

    Thank you

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    Re: Personal issues coming in the way of my professional life

    hello friends..

    ## do not take personal issues in your professional issue

    ## that spoil your career and your job also

    ##solve your personal issue at your home

    ##if you come to office no need to think about your personal issues

    ##after ending the office think about your personal issue

    ## other wise work will be disturbed

    all the best

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    Re: Personal issues coming in the way of my professional life

    Dear,
    I have something to say you.

    1. Remember one thing. Where is the time to hate, there is a little time to love.
    2. All hatred leads to destruction and you are seeing the effect.
    3. So my suggestion is that remove the guilt from your mind.
    4. Talk to your wife immediately and solve the matter.
    5. Start negotiation from your side first, do not wait for other side to talk or bow down. This will drag the problem.
    6. You will see things are getting ok slowly.
    7. It is not that important that both husband and wife work in the same office, but it is important that they maintain relationship even better under pressure also.
    8. Because love can solve the hardest of problem
    Bye take care..

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    Re: Personal issues coming in the way of my professional life

    HELLO SIR

    Really this situation comes in many cases...!! But these situations are interreleated to each other. If you want to get your professional life successful, you must be good in your personal life. If you want your personal life successful, then your professional life (project work) should be successful.
    without having one cleared you cant be successful in the other one.
    The other thing you can do is you can change your project partner, and be successful in your professional life.
    otherwise you just go on a tour, leaving all the tensions...so that you could be free and good in personal life..!!


    HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND THE SITUATION...THANK YOU....!!!


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    Re: Personal issues coming in the way of my professional life

    There should be a clear difference between personal and professional life.
    Now in Married couples there are fights that happens , but eiter of you should try to make sure that you patch up.
    If your wife is not doing so, you should come forward and try to patch up with your wife
    You should discuss the issues at home.

    Also in office you are working on a project.
    Company pays you for that, so you have to give 100% of your effort to make sure that the project is sucessful

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    Re: Personal issues coming in the way of my professional life

    You must certainly not make your very own issues come with respect to the expert life. In case you and your spouse had a number of deal with more than a number of individual issues then you ought to make certain that it doesn't have an impact on the expert life.Even if you aren't for communicating terms on home then you ought to atleast certainly not make any project go through caused by this. You must co-ordinate collectively and just be sure you share data collectively adequately when you are repairing your project.

    Initially you each ought to compose collectively and promises one another you won't ever deal with more than these issues again. You have to do this kind of if you would like build your expert lifestyle successful. Since you both are about the same venture you both ought to assume responsibility for you to see that a person finishes that by the due date as well as to conclude that within the easiest way possible. In case you allow it to go go through thanks to non-public indifferences then you unquestionably don't ought to have to stay in tag heuer and you will be being unfaithful the identical enterprise which includes given an individual a whole lot previously few years.
    The actual most important step in this particular circumstances will be to compose together with your spouse on home. I know she should be experience exactly the same way as you're and she furthermore desires to amend items among the 2 regarding you. It is simply your doubt that's protecting against your pair of you out of organizing the issue. In case you deal with the difficulty at home that assists any two function regarding you. It will eventually ease worries in your house possibly at your projects place.

    You should keep in mind that taking into consideration that you're doing work in the identical company because your wife then the responsibilty regarding functioning really and effectively for the shoulders will be double. That could also take place which most of the friends recognize this kind of weird actions regarding your own house and hence attempt to poke his or her nose within the life. This will irritate the problem and lead to help promote problems for the 2 regarding you. I know which probable disappointment this kind of for you to happen.
    It is rather frequent within life.Each & each one provides personal nature.No one desires to compromise having his/her nature.But currently being hubby & spouse,both of you possess at some point leisure time to discuss the difficulty & arrived at reason for agreement for progress within life.Both regarding you shouldn't always be adamant.Being any male associate,you need to carry extra awareness to create the problem normal.

    The following will work for the happy lifestyle,usually there is absolutely no by using building money.If that isn't feasible,make your transfer for you to another project.Here furthermore you will possibly not discover thought peace.So that will improve to call home collectively happily.

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