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    One of my colleagues not able to understand my feelings for her

    I am working in a software company. I am quite serious about one of my female colleagues but she has never been able to understand my feelings for her. Hence from the past few months i am not able to concentrate on my work and my performance is going down. What should I do in such a case?

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    Re: One of my colleagues not able to understand my feelings for her

    Dear guest,For a fact your colleague will never understand your feeling towards her if you don't tell her.. So please tell her your feelings. But before you do that you need to be sure that you are prepared for the worst. Let's face the fact that there must be a 50% chance of you being rejected. But you need to be confident. Cause as you say, the silence is hindering your growth. So you need to go out there and fight your own problem. Muster courage and then tell her. Am not asking you to propose her directly. Ask her for a coffee, you will get to know her and she will get to know you better. And so you will be happy and your work will run just fine..Thank you...

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    Re: One of my colleagues not able to understand my feelings for her

    Hello,

    You need to adopt professional attitude in work place. Officce (Software) is not the place for romance. You
    need to get a grip of your emotions otherwise you may loose your job. If you have any feelings for her then
    take her to any coffee shop and express your feeling for her. Honest and straight talk is the need of the hour.
    Girls have the quality to hide their feelings so you should adopt a strategy to counter that. If she does not pay
    you attention then either she is interested in you or not interested in you. Talk to her.

    Bye,

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    Re: One of my colleagues not able to understand my feelings for her

    Hii friend, tell your feelings to your colleague directly with out hesitation and be frank,the you will get reply on her behalf and be a good person after hearing her reply whether its yes or no if good congratulations and move on in life with her sincerely. But when problems is when the reply is no then you need to control your self,its important that you behave like true gentleman .. You losing your concentration on work is not good for your career your at fault. first be good to your self have feelings to yourself ,love yourself first try to concentrate on work.. if your focus is diverted from work then its your career is under s a serious problem. don't waste your time in conveying your feelings to her if the reply is no all the best love your parents they are the best people with whom you can share every thing they can put you in the right path your life and career as well

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    Re: One of my colleagues not able to understand my feelings for her

    my dear friend,,,,
    this is the most complicated stage of our life.
    actually feelings and emotion varies person to person.you can not force anyone to think in same way as you think.
    these are personal.if you have the felling for her you should express in front of her but in case she don't think about you in same manner you should understand the fact and accept it.
    it happens always in our life.so,forget it and concentrate on your work.in case,you are felling uncomfortable in presence of her then you should change your firm because career is most important than her.
    so,try to concentrate.
    all the best!!!! thank you !

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    Re: One of my colleagues not able to understand my feelings for her

    Your's personal feelings should not effect your work, so differenciating both is necessary. If she can't understand your feelings, so better you need to tell her directly. In this situation, acceptance or rejection from her is possible. So you need to well adjust your mind and heart to cope in case of rejection. If your manager notices your downfall in qualifty of work then it may have a negative impact on your job. Even if rejection comes from her side, never get into depression because the world has not ended here. When you are in office you only need to concentrate on work.

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    Re: One of my colleagues not able to understand my feelings for her

    Well dear as you are saying that you have feelings for a female colleague in your company.due to which you are unable to concentrate on your work.
    I think the best solution for your problem is that you should go and tell her about your feelings for her.you should be prepared for both positive and negative results.when you will get the result you will be able to concentrate on work surely.thank you

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    Re: One of my colleagues not able to understand my feelings for her

    Dear if you are being attracted to your female colleague in the office then there is no problem because it happens sometimes due to our feelings and mind attraction to any person but this is not going good in office premises because there are some rules in the company that should be followed by every single employee of the office that is why you also should be in discipline of the office and think about the respect and image of your company that has provided you a job to survive and if you will do this type of activities in the office then your boss may give you resignation letter to sign that is why first you should think about the place because this is not good in professional arena

    If you really likes her and wants to share your feelings towards her then you must not stop yourself and try to get her contact number of Email ID because if you will not mention anything about your feelings to her then she will avoid you every time that is why you should say everything clearly and keep confidence in yourself that you will win at this time and try to mention about your situation and about your work because you are taking your performance down because of a female so also share all the problems you are having in professional and in person life and I am sure that if your love is true to her then she will definitely understand but before that you should try to be like that what she demands in a man then say and if she rejects then you should not accept your fall in this case and be continue on your way because one day you will get your target and this type of matters takes a long time so be sincere and care for your work

    If you will not perform good in company then your company will not give you preference that is why you should be careful about your future and try to keep your performance consistence to get good profit and try to impress her through your work and attitude and rules then get your goal

    All the best

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