1. #1
    Unregistered

    Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    I am working in a software company. Recently two of my colleagues got promoted. I was also expecting my promotion but unfortunately wasn’t selected for it. Now one of those colleagues is throwing a party to celebrate his promotion but I don’t have the heart to go to his party as I myself am very sad for not being promoted. How to refuse his invitation?

  2. #2
    luv Array
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Posts
    268

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    hello..

    I understand your situation friend, but feeling sad and refusing his invitation will also not work in your promotion. Understand one thing believe in yourself , all thing happen for a good reason. Trust yourself and your ability to work, because being sad will not help you in any condition, and refusing his invitation will show your negative attitude. Go to him, congrats your friend and move forward in life . Trust yourself , you will do good.

  3. #3
    Mahesh.423 Array
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    25

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    Hi Friend,

    Promotion is given to him becuase he also capable. It is not good to reject his invitation. First of all congratulate him. If you don't want to join the party that is upto you. But manage the situation you know by saying 'I really want to be there but i have an urgent appointment. So next time i will try. Have a great day for you all'.

    So that there will be no negative impression on you. In a corporate world it will happen and most expected thing. But we have to cope up with the situation to win the race.

    Hope this helps you..

  4. #4
    Rituja Array
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Posts
    702

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    Hello,

    I can understand your situation, that you are extremely upset for not getting the promotion.But let me tell you,our life is made up with a number of ups and downs.May be the present time is not favourable for you,thats why you didnot get a promotion.This doesnot mean that this was your last chance of getting a promotion.You will get plenty of other opportunities where you can excel yourself! It would be wise to accept the present situation,and move forward with a fresh mind so that you can focus more on your work.You have to be sporting,and my suggestion to you will be to join your friend's success party.Set your mind in such a way so that you have the strength of your mind to accept the present circumstances and at the same time aim towards your own progress!

  5. #5
    john215 Array
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Posts
    796

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague's party

    Dear friend...,

    I understand your situation friend, promotion is given to him because he also capable.
    It is not good to reject his invitation because your friend invite them.
    If you don't want to join the party that is up to you.
    I think you can go and your friend happy .

    So you are not going that there will be negative impression on you.
    You can go definitely happy .
    Off course you are busy the tell the your problems and next time i will try .
    So you must attend this parties because develop the relationships.

    Thanks!!!

    ALL THE BEST...............

  6. #6
    beborocks Array
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Posts
    117

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    hi friend

    I know that how you would be feeling now as you didn't get your promotion when you were expecting the same. But i think you should be sporting enough to take part in the celebrations of your colleague and not act in such a way. You should be supportive enough and attend his party. This will also make you forget your own grief when you will enjoy there with all your friends. Otherwise you will keep on thinking about your own unhappiness only.

    You can definitely work harder and with more dedication and I am sure that you will definitely get your deserved promotion next time. You can also talk to your manager regarding this and tell him that what went wrong that you didn't get the promotion this time when you were expecting it so much. then he will tell you your shortcomings and you can work upon them so that the next time you will definitely get your due. I hope you understand my point.

    So friend I hope that you will take part in your colleague's celebrations and enjoy as much as you can. Good luck

  7. #7
    Sai Deep Array
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    388

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    Hello
    This kind of situations are quite tough to handle where you will be sad and don want to be a part of the success celebration of your colleague.
    But even though you are sad and unhappy about not getting your promotion , You should go to the your friend's party and celebrate his success.
    You should be the part of the celebration otherwise your colleagues may think that you are selfish and envious.
    They will be happy to see you and you will have a strong bonding.
    Thank you

  8. #8
    manojbadoniya Array
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Posts
    802

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    Dear you should not refuse or run away from this type of situation and you must face this type problem because if you will run away from the party then you are not going away from the party but you are going away from your promotion because when you can not see the happiness of any person then how will you make yourself happy in future that is why you should go to their party and show your good attitude that you deserve for this and you really happy with the party and promotion of your colleagues and if you will go then you will see so many happy persons including your colleagues and when you will see them then your heart will fire and will call you that you also should do something good and better than both of them who got promoted and then you will try to do your best for the company and then you will get promotion that is why until you will fire your heart you may never get success that is why you should be ready to face such type of challenges and get the success in your life

    All the best

  9. #9
    Srishti Array
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Posts
    388

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    hiii,
    i can understand your situation. well but these promotion should not come in way between your friendships and normal life. you should not deny the party proposal at first place. promotions , wages , bonus etc they all are not going to matter in your life much when you have good friends and good nornal life to get crazy. if you have not been promoted now then you will be promoted next time for sure and you know that. everything happens at right time. so just relax and attend the party. and i no you will get a promotion soon. till then you should enjoy.
    thanks

  10. #10
    Its ams Array
    Join Date
    Jun 2013
    Posts
    210

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    Hi,

    This is not correct friend. You must attend his party and congratulate him. Because you did not get promoted , you will not attend his party , this is absolutely wrong.Go and enjoy his promotion.May be next time you will get promoted.

    Do not feel bad about yourself.Work hard and be happy always.If you will stay happy then more happiness will come to you.So enjoy your life and work hard and smart.You will also get promotion.

    For now just chill and prepare yourself to attend the party of your promoted colleague.
    All the best for your future.

  11. #11
    Boss Array
    Join Date
    Jul 2012
    Posts
    1,649

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    Promotion is provided so that you can your ex because young drivers . capable. It's not necessarily great so that you can reject his or her invitation. First off congratulate him. If perhaps you don't want to become a member of a occasion that's upto you. Nonetheless cope with your situation you are aware of through stating I must say i plan to be there however offer an important appointment. And so the next occasion i am going to try. Have got a fantastic day time pertaining to every person '.

    To ensure that there won't be any detrimental perception on you. In a corporate community it may happen and a lot likely thing. Nonetheless we will have to handle upwards using the circumstance so that you can earn a race.
    I'll fully grasp your needs, that you're very irritated pertaining to to not get a promotion.But without a doubt,your daily life is comprised along with a variety of advantages and also downs.May possibly be the prevailing occasion is not beneficial for yourself,thats dui attorney las vegas didnot have a promotion.This doesnot imply that this was your very last possibility of asking for any promotion.You will get a lot of different options to exceed by yourself! It would be smart to take the prevailing circumstance,and also proceed with an innovative thoughts to enable you to target extra on the work.You must be having,and also my hint so that you can you will be to sign up your colleguerrrs achievements party.Set your mind so to have the effectiveness of give it your all take the prevailing situation and also while doing so strive in direction of your progress.
    I am aware which the best way using sense at this point when you failed to get a advertising and marketing once you have been planning on a same. But i believe you have to be having adequate so that you can have fun with the parties of this colleague and not react in this particular way. You'll want to be loyal adequate and also attend his or her party. This kind of may even allow you to overlook your sadness once you will love there with all your friends. Or maybe you helps keep on pondering your disappointment only.

    A person will surely work much harder and also with more dedication and also Almost certainly which you will get a well earned advertising and marketing following time. You may also talk to your supervisor with regards to this particular and also make sure he understands which what exactly gone incorrect which you failed to have the advertising and marketing these times once you have been planning on it thus much. then he can tell you your mistakes and you will perform on them so that the the next occasion you will get a due. I think fully grasp my point.

  12. #12
    amit gupta007 Array
    Join Date
    Jul 2013
    Posts
    235

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    hello dear,
    I can understand your problem friend but results are not in our hand.
    congratulate him for his promotion and if possible try to attend the party.
    But if you don't want to go to the party than you may talk to him congratulate him and tell him that your relative is not well, so you have to go to hospital to meet him.
    Talk to him very politely he will surly listen to you.
    Wishing you all the best for future promotion.
    Best of luck dude

  13. #13
    hggg Array
    Join Date
    Jun 2013
    Posts
    232

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    You should not reject his party as he is happy for getting promotion you have to feel good for him.Go to him and wish him so that he feels happy. if you don't want to join the party then wish him and come back.managing the situation there.This time you did not get the promotion but you should not lose your hope you should even try hard for your success and can get more happiness and enjoyment from it.
    all the best
    thank you

  14. #14
    you@ Array
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Posts
    295

    Re: Not having the heart to go to my colleague’s party

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a software company. Recently two of my colleagues got promoted. I was also expecting my promotion but unfortunately wasn’t selected for it. Now one of those colleagues is throwing a party to celebrate his promotion but I don’t have the heart to go to his party as I myself am very sad for not being promoted. How to refuse his invitation?
    Hi Friend,

    Promotion is given to him becuase he also capable. It is not good to reject his invitation. First of all congratulate him. If you don't want to join the party that is upto you. But manage the situation you know by saying 'I really want to be there but i have an urgent appointment. So next time i will try. Have a great day for you all'.

    So that there will be no negative impression on you. In a corporate world it will happen and most expected thing. But we have to cope up with the situation to win the race.

    Hope this helps you..

+ Reply to Thread