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    Not having any friend at my workplace

    I am working as a Chartered Accountant in a reputed company. Everything is very good about my workplace and also my salary is very good. But the major problem which I am facing here is that most of the employees here are not the social types. They are very dull and boring and due to this reason I have not been able to make any friend here. This is also affecting my performance as I am not able to do my work whole heartedly because I feel very lonely. How to deal with such a situation?

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    pravirdeep Array
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    Re: Not having any friend at my workplace

    Hi friend

    Your problem is definitely understandable and thus I think you should not lose heart at this moment and try to find a solution to this problem. You should try to show your good side to your colleagues and try to help them whenever the need arises and then I am sure they will befriend you . you can use your communication skills to break ice betwen you and them and then I am sure you will be able to make make many friends in the company.

    Also you should see to it that this does not affect your performance as then your repuation will go down in the eyes of your management an dthen you will have a rough time in the company. So make sure to do your work with full attention and don't worry about other things while you are doing your work. Work with full dedication and give your best. I am sure with proper approach you will definitely be able to make many friends at your workplace.

    Good luck. Be brave and face this situation

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    Re: Not having any friend at my workplace

    Hello,

    I can understand your problem.Without any friend it becomes really tough to work for so long in the office.From your post I think you are new to this job.You may have age difference with your colleagues,but that doesnot mean that you will have no friend.Friendship has no age bars.Since you have been working for some days,then you must be aware of the personalities of some of your colleagues! I would suggest you to take the first step towards friendship.Try to talk to them individually.Slowly they will get easy with you.Then they will be able to open up themselves.Once they open themselves not only you,they will also find it easier to communicate with each other.Once the bud of friendship starts flowering ,you can go outside with them after office hours.You can bring some extra lunch from your home and share with them during lunch break.If you try,gradually you will find yourself easy with them.

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    Re: Not having any friend at my workplace

    Hello ,
    This is a common situation seen in many firms . Although you should be depressed about the fact that your dont mingle
    as it because you havnt approached them .
    Everyone is a little shy at first to start a conversation and i am sure that most of the people that you work with
    think of the same problem
    .
    It just a matter of breaking the barrier and talking to each other .

    Working in the same place gives so you many common things to talk about and can also help each
    other at work in case stuck at work .
    So instead of it affecting you , you should be the first one to be a little freindly and approach them .
    Slowly you all will become fimiliar with each other and can out for outings and have some get-together.

    Try to make your dull offcie environment a little more lively by interacting which will enhance everyones
    interst at work and ultimately your performance will be lifted .

    dont let anything affect your performance at work because you have a good job as you mentioned and
    you would never like to ruin it .
    Hope you have a good time at work .
    Thank you .

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    Re: Not having any friend at my workplace

    Hello Friend,
    in career you will switch many companies and many projects where you may not find your friends with you and you have to make friends from that project your team .yeah its true being lonely affects anyone's performance so everyone needs friends.
    in this case it may be wrong to frame others as dull and boring ,may be they are also not that flexible as you are because you are still not able to ,make friend with others.you should take initiative from your side,open up talk with others ,accompany them for lunch ,dinner ..etc.make some team gathering,outing,informal meetings this will help you to build a good relationship with team mates and they will also open up and talk freely with you.who knows at the end of the day you will make how many friends.so take initiative from your side first then others will follow.
    Thanks

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    Re: Not having any friend at my workplace

    Dear,
    Yes ,it become very difficult to live and work at place where there is no one with whom one can share his feeling.............but my friend make yourself strong and try to communicate with your colleagues and find the person that suit you and at same time you also feel good in talking to you......Just try until you get somebody who can be your friend.............Every NIGHT is followed by a new MORNING................So not lose hope until you find someone .........
    best of luk!

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    Re: Not having any friend at my workplace

    hello friends..

    @at the tome of work you no need to have the friend

    @friends are outside only not encourage at work place

    @always be alone at work place

    @that could helpful to you

    @try to avoid friends at work place

    all the best


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    Re: Not having any friend at my workplace

    hello,
    money is not everything in life. if you have friends then it definitely gives you positive results.
    so to make friend you can do some following things.
    you can help your mates , so that you earn some respect in their eyes and perhaps they start sharing their problems with you and finally it may result in good friendship.
    another thing you might can do is , try to talk to them after office hours. this will show your concern to them and may help you in making friends.
    another thing could be praise them for their work and try to tell their weakness , this will also show your concern to them .
    best of luck , hope you make friends soon.

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    Re: Not having any friend at my workplace

    without friends its really difficult to work properly.but you should try that it won't effect your work.
    like you said your colleagues are not social types then you have to take initiative and try to talk to them.
    ->you can talk to them outside the company.
    ->invite them on dinner at your home that might help.
    ->ask about their problems.
    hope that will help you.

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    Re: Not having any friend at my workplace

    This is a standard state of affairs seen in several companies . though you must be depressed concerning the actual fact that your dont mingle
    Because it as a result of you haven't approached them .
    Everyone seems to be somewhat back initially to begin a voice communication and that i am positive that almost all of the folks that you're employed with
    think about an equivalent downside .
    It simply a matter of breaking the barrier and reprimand one another .

    Operating within the same place provides thus you a lot common things to speak concerning and might additionally facilitate every
    Different at add case stuck at work .
    Thus rather than it poignant you , you must be the primary one to be somewhat friendly and approach them .
    Slowly you all can become accustomed to one another and might out for outings and have some get-together.

    Attempt to build your uninteresting workplace surroundings somewhat a lot of spirited by interacting which is able to enhance everyones
    Interest at work and ultimately your performance are upraised .

    I will perceive your downside.Without any friend it becomes extremely powerful to figure for thus long within the workplace.From your post i feel you're new this job.You may have age distinction along with your colleagues,but that doesnot mean that you simply can don't have any friend.Friendship has no age bars.Since you've got been operating for a few days,then you want to bear in mind of the personalities of a number of your colleagues! i might recommend you to require the primary step towards relationship.

    Try to discuss with them severally.Slowly they're going to get simple with you.Then they're going to be ready to open up themselves.Once they open themselves not solely you,they will additionally notice it easier to speak with one another.Once the bud of relationship starts flowering ,you can go outside with them once workplace hours.You can bring some additional lunch from your home and share with them throughout lunch break.If you try,gradually you may end up simple with them.

    Your downside is unquestionably apprehensible and so i feel you must not lose heart at this moment and check out to seek out an answer to the present downside. you must attempt to show your smart aspect to your colleagues and check out to assist them whenever the requirement arises then i'm positive they're going to tie you . {you can|you'll|you'll be ready to} use your communication skills to interrupt ice betwen you and them then i'm positive you may be able to build build several friends within the company.

    Additionally you must see thereto that this doesn't associate effect on} your performance as then your repuation can go down within the eyes of your management an dthen you may have a rough time within the company. thus check that to try to to your work with full attention and do not worry concerning different things whereas you're doing all of your work. Work with full dedication and provides your best. i'm positive with correct approach you may undoubtedly be ready to build several friends at your geographical point.

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