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    Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    I am working in a software company. It has been 2 months since I have joined this company and I havenít been able to make even a single friend here. All my colleagues are really very friendly and are ever ready to mix with each other. But I am a very shy person and thus very bad in socialising with others. How to get rid of this problem?

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    Ankita1441989 Array
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    Re: Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    Dear friend,
    I can understand your situation.But you should try to talk with your colleagues so you will feel fresh.it will increase general awareness by discussing some topics and slowly you will also a friendly.

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    Re: Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    Hi aspirant

    You should definitely make some friends in your company as you know that life without friends and someone to share your feelings with is completely dull and boring. So in order to make your stay in your company interesting , you should definitely make some good friends who will remain faithful to you throughout your stay here and even thereafter. Also you can chat with them whenever you like and discuss your work related problems with them.

    As you have alrready mentioned that the employees of your company are very friendly, so I think if you give up your reservations and stop being shy, it will be very easy for you to mingle with them. So friend just have confidence in yourself and give up your shy nature and then I am sure you will face no problem inmaking friends in your company. You should not feel dejected as with a little bit of effort you will definitely be able to have a good time in your company.

    I hope you understand my point. Good luck and Thanks

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    Re: Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    Hello Friends,
    Its really a backward problem with many ,but you need to remove this quality as quick as possible.as you are going to work in that team for long you will need to interact with all team mates and they are the one whom you will approach in the time of need or whenever you are facing any problem with related to the task.so maintain a good relationship with them.
    to do that first talk with those who are of more interacting character.go out with all for dinner,for tea,coffee ...etc
    involve in all team meetings and give your suggestion arrange outing plan and picnics which will bring all team together.by involving with all these activity you will get a fare chance to develop interaction skill and remove your hesitation.
    Thank You.

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    Hello,

    Making friendship doesnot man that you have to keep on talking to them,but a relation where other person knows who you are,whatf you are and respects that.You have mentioned that your colleagues are very good.So try to sit and talk with them when you have some free time.Try to know about their family,likes and dislikes ,hobbies etc.In this way gradually you hav to open yourself.You can share your lunch with them,or bring something from outside and share with them.Not all people can mix very easily,there are a number of people who are like you.But you have to put forward the first step keeping aside your mental blocks.Remember you have nthing to lose,rather you can gain the trust and friendship of a number of good people.Dont be shy,just go ahead.

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    Re: Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    Hello,

    It's only two months in your job so I would suggest you to wait for time. Time is on your side and
    should also need to improve your attitude while talking to your colleagues. During launch break you
    should start talking to them regarding any subjects for example sports or movies will do just fine.
    Improve your soft skills which will be your biggest assets in the long run.

    Bye,

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    Re: Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    Hi friend,

    Don't worry, It is a simple problem. In coeporate world, we have to mingle with our colleagues. You know there will be different kinds of people hailed from different locations. Some may be easy going. Some people are tough to handle. But we need to mingle with all of them.

    First of all be bold. Attend your family functions and meet your friend frequently. This will help you how to deal with different sort of people. 'Smile' it eases even the toughest situations also. So always be pleasant. Be obedient to elders or seniors. Be friendly to your siblings.

    All the best!!

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    Re: Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    You need to mingle with people its very important that you should really talk to people and be socialising as a employee you should maintain a good rapport with other employee for better understanding and also for help in work related matters.. As your working in software company you need to have good network with employees as well this improve your social life and also your personal growth of your career.. Making friends is always necessary as friends are only one's who help you,help you deal with difficult tasks in work related matters.. Being shy will not benefit you in any way of your life.. If your other employees are very friendly and good then you also should be very open with them also.. Being bad in socialising is not an excuse for friendship.. Take a 1 step forward who knows your colleagues will take 1000 steps forward for your friendship...

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    Re: Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    hello,
    this is very common problem you are facing .
    in order to make new friends , i think first try to talk them by texting them messages.
    once you get open up with your colleagues , then it will be easy to talk to them face to face .
    try to help them and get helped from them , this will built respect in both ones eyes . try to go for dinner with them.
    best of luck

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    Re: Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    Dear Friend,
    you are working now and at work you definately need someone with whom you can share your problems and some good moments. so its best if you make some friends. As you said your colleagues are friendly in nature. So, you don't have to do much. Just let them get involve with you.
    you just have to give up your shy nature and try to mingle with them. You don't need to talk with them all the time. Just stay with them and you will get confidence and your work will also increase.just give it a try.
    All the Best.

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    Re: Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    dear aspirant,
    this is unusual you need to have friends in company you are as it makes you feel good in working as well as interest to come to work regularly and also if you know each other there by work together can bring optimal solutions to the company.so start talking by taking them to canteen buying them a drink or so you feel good.

    Thank u..........

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    You must make some pals inside your company seeing that you will understand that life with no pals and also anyone to mention all your other worries along with is very uninteresting and also boring. And so to enable your be in your enterprise useful , you should make some buddies who'll keep on being faithful back throughout your remain right here as well as thereafter. It can be good chat with all of them when that suits you and also go over your hard work connected complications with them.

    Since you have already brought up which the personnel within your company are quite warm and friendly, consequently There's no doubt that for those who give up your a reservation and stop being afraid, it will be extremely easy for you in order to associate along with them.

    And so companion only need self confidence and give up your afraid nature after which Installed at will probably experience not an issue intaking pals inside your company. You should not feel dejected like with a little bit of work you will have the capacity to have fun inside your company.

    The a real backward downside to quite a few ,although you must get rid of this specific top quality seeing that easy seeing that possible.as you're going to work in the staff for too long you have got to get connected to almost all staff pals and they are generally the one individual preference will probably solution from the time of want or when facing any issue along with connected for the task.so keep a excellent romance along with them.
    to accomplish this 1st consult those who find themselves of more communicating character.go away with all for dinner,intended for green tea,coffee ...etc
    include in all of the staff meetings and present your suggestion set up hike prepare and also a picnic which will brings almost all staff together.by relating to along with all of these exercise a person will receive a stand up possibility to grow connections proficiency and remove your hesitation.
    Making companionship doesnot dude you have to continue discussing with all of them,although a relationship the place other individual has learned your identiity,whatf that you are and also aspects that.You possess brought up that your colleagues are quite good.So attempt to take a seat and also consult all of them for those who have a number of cost-free time.Try to understand about themselves,desires ,hobbies etc.In in this way progressively a person hav to open up yourself.You may reveal your lunch time along with them,or take anything from outside and also show to them.Not absolutely everyone may merge easily,you'll find others whom are similar to you.But you must put forward the first thing maintaining away your psychological blocks.Remember you might have nthing to get rid of,somewhat you get a have faith in and also companionship with quite a few excellent people.Dont possibly be afraid,just go ahead.

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    Re: Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    Dear no problem that if you do not have friends because you are the new one in that company and sometimes it make take a long time to be friendly and make friends in the company and when you have mentioned that your all colleagues are friendly and behaves well and frank with each other then you must take advantage of their behavior and make them as your friend but if you are shy person then first, you need to remove this bad habit from your attitude then only you will be able to make good friends in the office

    Whenever you get problem in your work then you must ask for help and request your all senior employees to help you out in your work and learn various tips from them that how to manage more work and what are the tricks to perform well and get increment in the job and when you will learn then you will communicate with all them and they will give you various advice etc. and this will remove your shame from your behavior and you will become a good friend in the office and this will be good for your work because if you will not have friends then you will not get help and your mind will not be concentrated and that will give loss in your work so please be candid and modest and make good friends

    All the best

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    Re: Not able to make friends with my colleagues

    Hi friends,

    Making friendship doesn't man that you have to keep on talking to them,but a relation where other person knows who you are,what you are and respects that.
    You have mentioned that your colleagues are very good.
    So try to sit and talk with them when you have some free time.
    Try to know about their family,likes and dislikes ,hobbies etc.In this way gradually you have to open yourself.
    You can share your lunch with them,or bring something from outside and share with them.
    Not all people can mix very easily,there are a number of people who are like you.
    But you have to put forward the first step keeping aside your mental blocks.
    Remember you have nothing to lose,rather you can gain the trust and friendship of a number of good people.
    Don't be shy,just go ahead.

    Thanks!!!
    all the best............

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