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    No thanks for helping a colleague

    My colleagues wife just left him and he is emotionally not very stable so we all chip in helping him by taking on his work to let him settle the matter but now I feel that he is taking advantage of us. The other day he even got irritated with us for not taking down a message down correctly. He comes to office late and leaves early. How do we break it to him gently?

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    JOHN MATHEW SAM Array
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    Re: No thanks for helping a colleague

    Dear Friend,

    You should take him to an evening walk or coffee shop to have some thing on a lite day.

    Then personally en quire about his present situation.

    If he openly speaks you can believe him and act accordingly.

    If he is not in that problem you should tell him about his abnormal behavior and the response of other colleagues about this.

    If he changes then it is good.

    If not you should start some tough approach only during office hours.

    Personal relation as a friend should not break.

    Wish you all the best.

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    Re: No thanks for helping a colleague

    Hi aspirant

    Its really good to see you and the other employees concerned so much about your colleague's welfare during his difficult times. A heartbreak is the worst condition for anyone and you have done the right thing by dividing his work amnong yourself and thus saving his job. He should also try to understand you and be thankful to all his colleagues for what they are doing for him. He should not take undue advantage of them in this manner by pointing out their mistakes. You should definitely talk to him once.

    Tell him that you are really sorry for what happened with him and want to help him as much as you can. for this only all of you are doing your best to divide his work so that he does not lag behind. But he should be a little patience and not show his disappointment if some person does something wrong while doing his work. You all are already overburdened with work and thus have a tendency to make errors . You hope that he recovers soon and resumes his work.

    I am sure he will understand your point and will never repeat it again. Good luck

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    srinivasa Array
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    Re: No thanks for helping a colleague

    help a person to a extent only there is always a limit for every thing in your life excess is very dangerous... its ok now that you have helped him don't regret it but since his behavior is not OK and is behaving weird its time that you make the person realize that they are taking advantage of the help that is being given to him slowly try to make him understand his duties and he should try to balance his professional and personal life.

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    Re: No thanks for helping a colleague

    Hello,

    Dont expect any sort of acknowledgement from him,as is not in a stable set of mind.Perhaps he is passing through the toughest phase of his life,and it is really difficult for any person to behave normally in this sort of disturbed mind set up.You all have to cooperate with him so that he can come of this chaotic situation.H e rwquires mental support from each one of you.If possible make necessary arrangement for him with a psychologist or psychiatrist.I think it will be easier for him to come out of this situation if he consults and does treatment under a good medical supervisor.

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    Re: No thanks for helping a colleague

    See, he is going through a emotional turmoil so co operate with him. He is not at his best behaviors these days . You should ignore if he mis-behaves and should try to understand his conditions. but slowly and gradually you should recede back and start giving his job to him only. Helping him is fine but you cant do his entire work. You should hand him his part of work too. Dont be very hard or tough on him but he should now face them strongly as he is also a mature man.

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    jazzy.panesar Array
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    Re: No thanks for helping a colleague

    dear friend
    give him some more time to handle his situation
    because he is in very bad and big problem right now
    he is not at his best behaviors these days so cooperate with him
    but after some time you should start giving his job to him only
    because you cant do his work your whole life
    dont be rude with him just be with him

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    Re: No thanks for helping a colleague

    Hi,

    help a person to a extent only there is always a limit for every thing in your life excess is very dangerous... its ok now that you have helped him don't regret it but since his behavior is not OK and is behaving weird its time that you make the person realize that they are taking advantage of the help that is being given to him slowly try to make him understand his duties and he should try to balance his professional and personal life.

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