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    No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    I am working in a software company. No one in my company wants to befriend me as i am from a poor family. I think this is completely unfair on their part and they should be more fair in their approach and should not be so cruel hearted. How to deal with such a situation?

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Hi,

    Yes, this is completely unfair....the only solution to this is work hard and do your best...
    Once you will have the command over the job... you will get good response from your boss and management too...

    Next step you will get starting responses from other employees....
    You are human being and that can't be measured by money...nobody can judge you by money and they don't have this type of rights...
    Don't fees shy...discuss the concern with your boss, so that the same should be in notice of their mind...

    Good luck and do your best to prove yourself...

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    hello,
    this is ridiculous that no one wants to be a friend of you because you came from a poor family.its a shame on their part.friendship should not be judged on the basis of caste,colour,money.it should come from a pure heart.you just do friend ship to those who will talk to you and ignore a person who dont cares you.
    dont be depressed and as the time passes you will be adjusted and everything will go normal.see that eventhough they dont talk with you,you always give a smile.this may help you to become a friend of him.
    adjust yourself in this situation and see that this depression should not effects your work.be always smile and work effectively and efficiently.as the time passes they will get to know about the fault they did and they will become friends with you.
    thank you.............

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Dear guest,

    I am sorry that you have to face such a situation. And I can totally understand what you must be going through. You can approach them yourself instead of them approaching you.

    You can try to talk to them, let us say a cricket match, how about talk about the office work, the food you love, your hobbies etc...
    Just talk to people. You can even simply start off with a simple HELLO, Good Morning, Good Day, etc... Just simple talk.... I am sure when you do this they will be happy,all you have to do is appreciate their work and show your nice gesture to them... They will surely reply and as time goes on they will start wishing you.. This is simply the human nature...

    You can read the book 'leader who had no title' by robin Sharma...

    Thank you...:-D

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Hello,

    It's very unfortunate that even today people are measured in terms of money and family status.
    Life is a matter of chance so you just do your job with honesty, discipline and dedication. It's tough
    if nobody in a office environment wants to talk to you. But you need to be strong enough to show
    your colleagues that you have waht it takes to be a successful person despite your poor family
    background.

    Bye,

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Hiii friend
    Please don’t underestimate yourself it doesn’t matter that from where you belong the thing is that now you are work at a standard software company. But yes sometime we have to face from these types of problems that if you are belong from a poor family nobody is wants’ to touch with you in office. But my suggestion on that problem is that don’t think about these types of things / it will are send you in a negative approach. So what you have to do is that work in the company with proper dedication. After some time when boss is giving some attention then automatically with co-workers also wants’ to be your friend..
    Thanking you hopes you like my suggestion…

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Hello Friend...

    Firstly, come out of that feeling of being poor..!! Never measure ourselves with the terms 'poor' and 'rich'...

    > Keep working hard...and one day for sure people will come to you...

    > Making 100 friends is easy, but you deserve a true friend...!! And one such friend matters a lot..!!

    > Never worry about poverty...cause nothing is permanent..

    >Don't be in a hurry of making friends/colleagues...wait for a single capable friend who really understands you...

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    First of all you don't need to think that you belong to a poor family, as you are now doing a job and in the same company as the others which you

    called rich as compared to you.

    As you all are working in same company with more or less similar salaries so there is not much difference between you and them.

    Another thing is that, it is better to be alone rather than making friends which make their friends by seeing there money.

    A friend should always be a person which assess you as a person not your money.

    Such selfish friends will never help you in your problems and will leave you at times when you will be in problem.

    You should believe in yourself and concentrate on your work so that you can much better in your life

    This is the time where your career must be the most important thing for you, as you have been given the opportunity to prove yourself so you must

    not think of any thing else.

    By excelling in your career only you can fulfill your dreams, by wasting your time in such things will not help you in concentrating on your targets.

    Friends can be made any time but the career opportunities are not so common where you can prove yourself and thus get a huge progress in your

    life.

    Also you cannot be sure that due to your family background you are having problems in making friends, there can be other reasons too like

    there nature and your nature doesn't match or any other similar thing.

    So don't think of trying ways for making friends, these things are automatic.

    It might be possible that as you are new so there won't be much interaction between you and your colleagues.

    Once interaction between you and them will start and they will come to know more about you. It would be more comfortable for them to treat you

    as their friends.

    So just be normal and concentrate on your work, things will get fine gradually as you will get used to the companies environment.


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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Hi friend...................

    I think Please don’t underestimate yourself it doesn't matter that from where you belong the thing is that now you are work at a standard software company.
    But yes sometime we have to face from these types of problems that if you are belong from a poor family nobody is wants’ to touch with you in office.
    But my suggestion on that problem is that don’t think about these types of things / it will are send you in a negative approach.
    So what you have to do is that work in the company with proper dedication.
    After some time when boss is giving some attention then automatically with co-workers also wants’ to be your friend..


    Thanks!!!
    ALL THE BEST....................

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Hi aspirant

    I think that your colleagues should definitely be more rational in their approach and should not behave so cruelly with you. Just because you belong to a poor family background does not mean that they should not befriend you. This is very inhuman on their part and they should better be more mature and not so narrow minded in their approach. You should definitely not withstand such injustice and should tell them to their faces what you think of this attitude.

    Next time tell them that where you have reached now is due to your own hard work and determination. They should be seeing these qualities in you and then only decide whether they want to be friends with you or not. If they just think that they should not befriend you owing to your poor family background, then it is very shameful of them and this shows their inhuman nature and lack of values. You hope that they will try and become good people.

    I am sure that your colleagues will feel ashamed of themselves and will never repeat such a thing again. Good luck

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Hello,

    Friendship is a pristine bond which doesnot depend whether you are rich or poor.Yes some people who think that money is the happiness to everything,they will not like to make friendship with you.But I cant believe that there is no one in your whole office who would like to make friendship with you.I think this is something unbelievable.There must be someone atleast one or two who will not check your bank balance and assets before making friendship with you.I think there is some sort of communication gap that is making you separated from others.You have to come out of this shell that you are poor,that is why people dont like you.At present you may not have a sound financial support but that doesnot mean that you caanot achieve it in near future.If you posses a good heart ,and be good at your behaviour,then it will automatically fetch you some good friends!

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Dear friend,
    Its not your fault that you belong to a poor family, and in a situation where you are not at a fault you should stop worrying about that. I wonder how can the People who choose their friends on the basis of financial conditions, can become good friend themselves?? Moreover you should not long for such people to be your friend. Its good that they are not. Its a professional world, be strict towards your own performance, work and profession. You are ought to be professional and don't think about personal relationships much, they are not going to help in either ways. Be successful and you'll be chased after. so concentrate on your work.. all the best and keep smiling

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Dear Friend

    Yes ,this is very poor mentality and they are very cruel hearted person.

    Do not worry ,you can make soft corner in heart of everyone of your company by doing good work.Give your 100% and do your best .

    By doing all this ,the boss will surely appreciate you if you will give 100% and will work for the development of the firm.

    One every one wants to become friend with the employee who are close to the boss.

    Never take tension and do not be frustrated ,just enjoy the life.

    Hope the information helps and satisfies you.If you want any further clarification regarding this or you have any other query you can leave it here .

    all the best for your career and life

    aashisranjan784

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    Re: No one, in my company, wants to be my friend as I belong to a poor family

    Don't undervalue by yourself it doesn't matter which by where you fit parallels at this moment you happen to be work at an ordinary program company. Nevertheless yes a while most of us are confronted with by most of these circumstances for anyone who is fit by an undesirable household nobody can be prefers'to touch along within office. Nevertheless our idea in this difficulty is that often don't believe with regards to most of these issues / it'll are usually send inside a damaging approach. Precisely what you have to do can be that work while in the business along with correct dedication. Later if manager can be allowing a number of particular attention then immediately along with co-workers in addition prefers'to become your friend.
    I believe that a colleagues should truly you have to be realistic within their strategy and cannot respond therefore cruelly along with you. Although a person remain in an undesirable household track record does not necessarily mean that they probably should not befriend you. As well as inhuman for their component and they ought to had better be older and also not too narrow minded within their approach. When they are not not resist like injustice and may say to the crooks to its people just what exactly you consider that attitude.

    The very next time let them know which where you have reached at this moment is a result of your very own effort and also determination. They should be seeing these types of attributes within you and then solely make your mind up whether wish to be associates along and also not. In case they merely imagine that they probably should not befriend a person owing to a person's terrible household track record, its pretty embarrassing of these which shows its inhuman dynamics and also deficiency of values. You actually hope that they'll test and stay beneficial people.
    It's just not a person's wrong doing that you remain in an undesirable household, and also in times where you are not in the wrong doing you'll want to relax a bit with regards to that. I ponder how should the People they like its associates on such basis as financial problems, could become buddy independently?? Additionally you should not miss they to become your friend. It is beneficial actually not. It is a professional entire world, be strict in direction of your very own operation, perform and also profession. That you are really should be qualified and also don't believe with regards to personal relationships considerably, they won't aid either in ways.

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