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    My Husband wants me to leave the job

    Hi i am a working woman and got recently married. First my husband was comfortable with it. But now suddenly he wants me to leave my job as he thinks he is earning more than enough to support the family. But i donít want to sit at home and love working.What should i do to explain this to him?

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    Re: My Husband wants me to leave the job

    hi friend,

    first of all i am very interested to know your anxiety of doing the job.
    you are saying that your husband was not interested at present although he accepted first.
    first ask him what is the problem?
    also let him know that you are comfortable with the job.
    earning does not matter .all that matter is that your interest to do the job.
    so you should convince your husband saying about your interest

    all the best
    regards srilekha

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    hi there,i understand your problem.You must convince him and ask him the reason why he wants you to leave the job.Tell him about your love towards your work and tell him that it will not only help in the present but also help you in the future when you will have your children.As every parent want his/her child to be at their best and as per now the prices are going up of products due to inflation, It will be very difficult to survive on a single earner.

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    hello..


    first ask him what is the reason behind this .you mus convince him and ask the reason why he want o leave the job

    earning is does not matter all that mater is that your interest to do he job.

    it will help for you when you have children but not now.

    it will be very difficult to survive on a single earner

    all the best

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    Re: My Husband wants me to leave the job

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Hi i am a working woman and got recently married. First my husband was comfortable with it. But now suddenly he wants me to leave my job as he thinks he is earning more than enough to support the family. But i donít want to sit at home and love working.What should i do to explain this to him?

    Hello Friend...


    .....Friend really I understand your problem. Now a days there are many women are facing this problem.But it is right that they also wants your happiness so according to me you should talk with him that whats the actual reason behind this.You should telling him that you have interest in your job.You loves to do working.You assure him that whenever you know the problem regarding your job you also ready to handle this.Also you should tell him that how much earning is not a matter.In such way you should convince husbent.Hope this information will helps you in future.Best of luck.

    Thank you

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    Hi,

    I think you need to talk to your husband and tell about your feelings regarding this issue.
    Tell him that its your passion and hobby to work.
    You should tell him that it will be beneficial for both of you economically and will secure the future as far as money is concerned.

    If your husband agrees,then its well and good.

    But in case,he still insists that you should not work,then you have a number of option.
    You can work from home and earn.
    You can join EALP and make money.
    Apart from this,you can give tutions to different children and make some earning!

    Bye!


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    HI,,,.
    Instead of wondering about what your "rights are"... you should be looking at this as a positive step forward, and it's clear that you must really trust him - so it's not much of a relationship anyway. Also with the stress and emotions linked to the work, it's probably better for you to obey your husband...ITS MY THOUGHTS.......decision is yours,,,.
    Thank you,.

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    Re: My Husband wants me to leave the job

    Hi...........,

    When you should leave the Job===>
    * You should leave the job when you are pregnent and having a high tension at office.
    * You should leave the job when your children are too small to manage them.
    * You can leave job if it exerts you a lot.
    * You can leave the job if you are not getting any more promotion.


    When you should not leave the job .......>
    * If you are happy with work.
    * If you want a good reputation.
    * If want to see yourself in better position.
    * If financial need are more.


    These are also the reasons which you can give to your husband.

    Thanks

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    Re: My Husband wants me to leave the job

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Hi i am a working woman and got recently married. First my husband was comfortable with it. But now suddenly he wants me to leave my job as he thinks he is earning more than enough to support the family. But i donít want to sit at home and love working.What should i do to explain this to him?
    Hello Aspirant,

    Congratulations for being an employee.Your problem is not new.Many husbands don't want their wives to be employee.As it certainly gives husband some sort of inconvenient.But the most important point is that it gives rather freedom for money crisis.There is nothing wrong for both the husband & wife to be employee provided that both of them must have good understanding otherwise there is no use of such freedom of money crisis.

    You should honour your husband wish first & secondly to your job.You may think of tomorrow family life when you will be having children.Indeed,there are some problems in flourishing the children when both husband & wife are employees & if both of them are staying separately & away from each otherfor sake of job.In that case it is difficult to take care of the children with respect to their health & education.

    If both of you can stay together & have regular general duty i.e 10 AM to 5.00 PM,then it would be rather easy to manage your family affair with respect to your children future.

    Although you can manage your family issue with the help of senior family members or with maid servant,but there must be common interest of both the life partner i.e husband & wife.

    If you are capable you can do many type of home job such as tuition to the children etc.

    So discuss both of you & decide for better future.

    Thanks.

    Ashok+-

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    you should develop mutual understanding between both of you.. first u got to know ur husband's mentality,speak to him ask why he wanted you not to work anymore,ask him the reasons for it.. then after knowing his views,then you give your reasons.. share your feelings about work,explain him that your interested in working.. deal the issue with calmness don't escalate the situation.. make him realise the importance of your working in a positive manner and in a pleasing way i am sure your husband will definitely listens to you..

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    Re: My Husband wants me to leave the job

    Dear aspirant,
    this is problem which every woman get to face.the mindset of men changes and the inferiority ,salary and the differences comes and this way the couples face problems.this is common problem which is seen today.dear madam try to explain your problem while your at home and how it makes you uncomfortable.convince him that the intention of working is just to make out of leisure rather than working for salary.if he is still willing to make you sit and you could suggest for some money so that you can work from home it self.

    The following are the options you could choose

    ==>ealp

    ==>home tuition

    ==>data entry

    thank u..

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    Re: My Husband wants me to leave the job

    Hello Madam,
    This is the situation what most of the women face after they get married ,this is nothing related to how much money your husband earning ,its all about how much possessive he is about you.its good many time as its seen continuous exploitation of women employee in work place and in society so he may be worried about your safety but not expressing his concern openly.
    what you need to do is to talk to your husband and try to convince him regarding your job.ask him for the safety purpose he can drop and pick up you.
    apart from you should stop working in any odd timings ,like different shifts which will hamper your personal life.
    if you are working in a different state to your husband then you should try for relocation,else leave the job and find one in the place where your husband working.
    he may be insisting you stay at home by family pressure ,like if his father and mother dont letting him to let you work.
    the best way you can start working is work part time.
    there are many online forums where you can start work without registration.
    else you can do data entry work.
    else you can do Google add which is also good income source.
    to kill your leisure time you can take up any learning skill and develop that.
    so initially after marriage this type of issues arises but you need to tackle it smartly .
    Thank You.

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    Re: My Husband wants me to leave the job

    Hi friend

    I think the relation between a husband and wife is of trust and sincerity and ofcourse love. So your husband should try to understand that you love working as its your passion and are not comfortable with just being a housewife. If your husband understands this much then your problem will be over and then you can live your life as you want without any restrictions imposed on you. Thus you should make your husband understand this and you can surely do that in my view.

    Talk with your husband in free time and tell him that you want to continue working and not sit at home even if he feels that he is earning enough to support the family. This work is your passion and you are not just doing to support their family and to have extra income . You love doing it and cant imagine your life without it. You hope that he will understand you and thus allow you to continue working.

    I am sure that your husband will certainly understand your feelings and will surely allow you to work as he loves you unconditionally. Good luck and Thanks

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    Re: My Husband wants me to leave the job

    Really I perceive your downside. currently a days there are many ladies face this downside.But it's right that they conjointly needs your happiness therefore per Maine you must speak with him that whats the particular reason behind this.You should telling him that you just have interest in your job.You likes to do operating.You assure him that whenever you recognize the matter concerning your job you furthermore might able to handle this.Also you must tell him that what proportion earning isn't a matter.In such manner you must win over husband.Hope this data can helps you in future.

    For being associate worker.Your downside isn't new.Many husbands don't desire their wives to be worker.As it definitely offers husband some variety of inconvenient.But the foremost necessary purpose is that it offers rather freedom for cash crisis.There is nothing wrong for each the husband & partner to be worker given that each of them should have smart understanding otherwise there's no use of such freedom of cash crisis.

    You must honor your husband would like initial second to your job.You may consider tomorrow family life once you are having youngsters.Indeed,there are some issues in flourishing the youngsters once each husband & partner are workers & if each of them are staying severally & far from one another for sake of job.In that case it's troublesome to require care of the youngsters with relevancy their health & education.

    If each of you'll remain & have regular general duty i.e ten AM to five.00 PM,then it'd be rather straightforward to manage your family affair with relevancy your youngsters future.

    though you'll manage your family issue with the assistance of senior relations or with maid servant,but there should be common interest of each the life partner i.e husband & partner.

    If you're capable you'll do several form of home job like tuition to the youngsters etc.

    You should develop sympathy between each of you.. initial you need to recognize your husband's mentality,speak to him raise why he wished you to not work any longer,ask him the explanations for it.. then when knowing his views,then you offer your reasons.. share your feelings regarding work,explain him that your fascinated by operating.. deal the problem with calmness do not step up matters.. create him notice the importance of your operating in an exceedingly positive manner and in an exceedingly pleasing manner I'm certain your husband will certainly listens to you..

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