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    My husband does not want me to work long hours

    When we had a baby my husband volunteered to stay at home and look after the baby. The arrangement has worked fine for over a year now but recently he has been complaining a lot about my not being there. He does not have a regular job and if I leave mine then we will not be able to pay our bills. Is there a easy way to make him understand this?

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    Re: My husband does not want me to work long hours

    Hi..Your problem is certainly genuinely and you should certainly make your husband understand this that what you are doing is for the welfare of your family so that you can atleast satisfy your basic needs and not because you like working for long hours or staying outside for long..

    I know that the Male member in the family always feel that it is his responsibility to earn money for his family so if his wife earns more than him , he feels small and inferior..But your husband should understand that you are only trying to help him and not trying to prove anything..You go and talk to him about this again and i am he will understand this as he really loves you and care for you and his family..He just needs a good and soothing conversation and also some encouragement..You encourage him to find a good job for him and that you are sure he will find it..He's not less than anyone and that you know what he is capable..

    If you talk to him properly, he will surely understand your concern and love and surely wont complain again about anything..And once he gets a good and regular job i am sure everything will be alright..

    Good luck and Thanks

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    Re: My husband does not want me to work long hours

    hello madamYour problem is absolutely very critical so you should solve it very actively.As in company you will be do work as per company rules not according your hubby so you should try to explain it all.this is not a present problem because your baby will take something 3 years more to understand something.if your husband does not want late hours working then you should join any company that operate in day timing only and ask for it's employees to work 9 or ten hours.you should talk to your current employer or manager and explain all matter may be he/she find out solution in same company.but in private company some unusual things should be survive for better future.thanks you

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    Re: My husband does not want me to work long hours

    Hello,

    This is really a huge trouble for you.Both of you have responsibilities towards each other and towards your baby.Running a household is not an easy take ,as expenses are extremely high.Your husband should understand the practical situation and himsef try for better job so that hevcan bear all the family expenses.If he manages to get a better job,then only you can stay back at home.And when the baby grows up,then you can rethink about joining a new job.You need to convince him in this way.

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    Smile Re: My husband does not want me to work long hours

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    When we had a baby my husband volunteered to stay at home and look after the baby. The arrangement has worked fine for over a year now but recently he has been complaining a lot about my not being there. He does not have a regular job and if I leave mine then we will not be able to pay our bills. Is there a easy way to make him understand this?

    Hallo Friend....


    ....Definitely I give you answer to your question..At first in this situation you should talk to your husband that what the problem behind this problem.Being wife you have some responsibility to your husband and your family,in this case if they not like it according to my view you should obey their diction.Otherwise you should find out some times for husband and family.You should tell your husband that you are ready for compromise,thus you should convinced your husband.He will surely understand your problem and helps you..

    Wish you a best of luck...
    Thank You.
    Regards from you@


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    Re: My husband does not want me to work long hours

    Hi friend

    You should make your husband understand about the condition of your family relating to financial resources. Tell him if they both contributre then only it will be possible for them to raise their child and thus you ghav eto do the job. You can certainly understand how he feels but there is no other solution to it if they want to provisde their baby with all the facilities which he wants.

    Tell him to not accept defeat and keep on looking for a proper job and he will surely find one someday. You are always there for th ebaby when he needs you. Only with his help can you overcome these tough times otherwis eit wil,become very diofficult for youi to manage this situation. You hope that he understands you and thus will always be with you.

    I am surre your husbamd wil agree with you as he loves you so much. Good luck friend and I really hope you and your husband to have a bright foturee. Good luck

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    Re: My husband does not want me to work long hours

    hello,
    well there must be problem form both the sides, it is just a misunderstanding dear. you both should sit and talk properly on this matter as otherwise your kid would suffer so a solution had to be made. talk to him , find out the proper solution. even check the ego issues out of your relationships and respect each other.

    Good luck



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