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    My family wants me to join the Army but I don't

    I have just joined my job. I have done B.Tech in Civil.But my family is not at all happy with my career and wants me to serve the country like my father by joining the army. I am not at all interested in joining the army as I donít think I will be able to do justice to it. But I donít want to make my family unhappy. How to deal with such a situation?

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    Re: My family wants me to join the Army but I don't

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    I have just joined my job. I have done B.Tech in Civil.But my family is not at all happy with my career and wants me to serve the country like my father by joining the army. I am not at all interested in joining the army as I donít think I will be able to do justice to it. But I donít want to make my family unhappy. How to deal with such a situation?
    i Know you want to respect the wishes of your family but that is too much to ask.
    I am a mother of three boys and I my husband and I would never ask for such a thing from our sons. Don't do it if you do not wish to do that. you get yourself kill if you are not 100% there. Remember, Just because they brought you into this world does not mean they must direct and tell you what to do with your life. You can love them and respectfully disagree. They do not own you. Love is about setting you free, not about managing your life like they want you to live. They have their lives to live and you have yours. And do not let them manipulate you by telling you all the things they have done for you. Since the moment they decided to bring you into this life (you did not decided) they are responsible for your wellbeing growing up. It is your birth right to be loved and taken care of at least until you grow up and can legally work. That love should be unconditional.
    My advice, find your passion and follow it. If you work hard and you will because it is your passion, you will be fine, free, and content with yourself.

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    Re: My family wants me to join the Army but I don't

    Hi

    The first thing is what you want to do.
    Decide what you want to do and how you want to do.
    once you get clear on it then you can go to your parents and try to convince them and make them understand what you dream .
    This is a very common problem in every family,
    so talk to them about this matter and discuss what you want to do.
    They will definitely understand and support you and allow you what you want to do.

    Thank you

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    Re: My family wants me to join the Army but I don't

    Dear as for as my views are concerned that if your father is serving the country with a good position in Army then they and your each family member will think about you to join Indian Army because each one keeps the same thinking and same thoughts in mind and at least 75% of parents are there those who wants to see their children's in the same way where they are means if your father is in army then they also wants you to enter in the army sector and serve the country by providing the best and the same thing happens with many of the candidates but you should not worry about this situation because it is not a very huge problem in front of you and i am sure that your parents will definitely understand about you that what you wants in your life

    You should get the right time to talk to your parents about your career and consult them your whole problem and make them understand that you are really not interested in Indian Army sector or defense sector because you do not think that your career would grow well in this way and when you have completed your bachelor's degree in engineering then you must choose the right and relevant way to make your career. Also tell to your parents that if i will not make my career in a interesting way then i would really be unable to provide my best in any other sector because the interest is matters everywhere and request them to do not insist with you about your career and tell them some profits about the engineering and other streams too so that they could allow you for your interesting way

    You can tell them about - Indian Engineering Services, Junior Engineering Services etc. which are also the top most career opportunities in the government sector and under the central government and if you wants to enter in the management then tell them about CAT - MBA etc. and give them complete details and information about your career plan and tell them about all advantages you will get after completing your study

    All the best

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    Re: My family wants me to join the Army but I don't

    hi
    there is a best option available for you if you can study well and give the IES exam, being a civil engineer, after clearing the Indian engineering services. you can join the indian defence as an engineer. your job will be to deign and buld the bunkers as well as the residential and hospitality campuses dealing with the army area. by doing that you can simply fulfill your parents wish of serving in the army as well as your wish too of being an engineer.
    gud luck

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    Re: My family wants me to join the Army but I don't

    Hi,
    I know it is very difficult to satisfy your self and at a time your family in this situation because your parents wish is to see you to serve country like your father but your wish is different from your parents.Its your responsibility to satisfy your parents and to have self satisfaction.Without self satisfaction and interest you can't do 100% in your profession.So first convince your family by explaining clearly about your interests,they can understand.First you have to explain clearly your passionate about that job because this is the turning point to you.You must take right decision which is suitable to you and where your talent is useful to gain more opportunities.
    "Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming."
    so be wise and right decision for your bright future

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    Re: My family wants me to join the Army but I don't

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I have just joined my job. I have done B.Tech in Civil.But my family is not at all happy with my career and wants me to serve the country like my father by joining the army. I am not at all interested in joining the army as I donít think I will be able to do justice to it. But I donít want to make my family unhappy. How to deal with such a situation?
    Dear Aspirant,

    Your respect towards are appreciable,but you should decide your career own.You should convince your family members that" if I join army duty I may not be happy there becuase I am not interested to join there & I can join there only on your presure,would you like to see me unhappy always."I don't think your family members will ask you again to join the army.

    So request your family members to allow you to choose your career as per your choice.

    Thanks & good luck.

    Ashok..

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    Re: My family wants me to join the Army but I don't

    Hi friends,

    I think your family thinking good.
    You must details about that Army and you decide join or not.
    I think Army is best choice of younger and you can service the our country.
    Indian Army is one of the best service to the our country.

    Eligible:

    # 10th or 10+2.
    # Below 21 years age.
    # Physical fitness.

    So I think you can apply the Indian Army.

    Thanks!!!

    GOOD LUCK...........

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    Hi friend

    I can understand your situation at this point and you are definitely in a dilemma right now. One one side you want to please your family while on the other you don't want to forcibly do something that is not to your liking. It is really happy to see that you are so concerned about your family and what they want. Not many people think on these lines and its good and heartening to see you thinking on these lines.

    But in my opinion, with due respect to your family's sentiments, you should follow your own passion and what you yourself believe in so that you don't repent later on. If you really think that you won't be able to do full justice with the army job and want to continue with your engineering , then you should definitile do that. Whatever you do , always remember to give full dedication to your work and do it with 100% efficiency.

    I hope you undersyand my point. good luck for your future

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    Re: My family wants me to join the Army but I don't

    hello,
    it all depends on your satisfaction. if you are satisfied , it will definitely make your family happy and relaxed because their son is set in his life.
    now at this point if you choose army, then may be after some years you may regret for your decision, and at that time you'll blame your parents.
    at this time , you may ruin your relations, so in order to have better life ahead i think you should go for civil job.
    best of luck

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    Re: My family wants me to join the Army but I don't

    Every parents will be having a desire to see their child serving the motherland..But if you are not interested to join army then you should convince them now only about it..Your parents may not agree but you should succeed in it because your future is involved in it..Thank you..

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    Re: My family wants me to join the Army but I don't

    Dear as for as my views square measure involved that if your father is serving the country with a decent position in Army then they and your every loved one can concerning you to affix Indian Army as a result of each keeps identical thinking and same thoughts in mind and a minimum of seventy fifth oldsters square measure there those that desires to check their children's within the same approach wherever they're means that if your father is in army then they conjointly desires you to enter within the army sector and serve the country by providing the most effective and also the same factor happens with several of the candidates however you must not worry regarding this case as a result of it's not a awfully immense downside ahead of you and that i am certain that your parents will certainly perceive about you that what you desires in your life

    You must get the proper time to speak to your folks regarding your career and consult them your whole downside and build them perceive that you just square measure very not inquisitive about Indian Army sector or defense sector as a result of you are doing not assume that your career would grow well during this approach and once you have completed your degree in engineering then you need to opt for the proper and relevant thanks to build your career. conjointly tell to your folks that if i'll not build my career in an exceedingly fascinating approach then i'd very be unable to produce my best in alternative|the other} sector as a result of the interest is matters all over and request them to try and do not insist with you regarding your career and tell them some profits regarding the engineering and other streams too so they might permit you for your fascinating approach

    you'll be able to tell them regarding - Indian Engineering Services, Junior Engineering Services etc. that are the highest most career opportunities within the government sector and below the central government and if you desires to enter within the management then tell them regarding CAT - master's degree etc. and provides them complete details and knowledge regarding your career arrange and tell them regarding all blessings you'll get once finishing your study.
    Your respect towards square measure considerable,but you must decide your career own.You should win over your members of the family that" if I be part of army duty i'll not be happy there becuase i'm not interested {to be part of|to hitch|to affix} there & I will join there solely on your presure,would you prefer to check Maine sad continually."I do not assume your members of the family can raise you once more to affix the military.

    Therefore request your members of the family to permit you to decide on your career as per your selection.
    I will perceive your state of affairs at now and you're undoubtedly in an exceedingly perplexity right away. One one facet need|you would like|you wish} to please your family whereas on the opposite you do not want to forcibly do one thing that's to not your feeling. it's very happy to check that you just square measure therefore involved regarding your family and what they require. Not many of us assume on these lines and its smart and encouraging to check you thinking on these lines.

    However in my opinion, with due relevance your family's sentiments, you must follow your own passion and what you yourself believe so you do not repent in a while. If you actually assume that you just will not be ready to do full justice with the military job and need to continue along with your engineering , then you must definitile do this. no matter you are doing , continually bear in mind to provide full dedication to your work and bonk with 100% potency.

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    HI DUDE.,
    its a very complicated situation, you have your dream and your family have an other idea about your career;
    but it is you who has to stay all along the life with your job...
    and coming to the point of your family dream abt you is that; serving the nation and people; army is not only the option to serve right.. we do have so many option in serving the nation and people.,
    and finally i can advice you that;
    it is your future, and you have to lead it;
    so lease be careful in choosing it;
    any ways have a bright future...
    all the best..
    thankyou

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I have just joined my job. I have done B.Tech in Civil.But my family is not at all happy with my career and wants me to serve the country like my father by joining the army. I am not at all interested in joining the army as I donít think I will be able to do justice to it. But I donít want to make my family unhappy. How to deal with such a situation?
    Hello friend..........

    This is very critical situation in your life but you have to handle it very carefully because it is a question about your carer.You have to discuss with your family that you are not interest in your fathers way because you are an engineer and also you got the job and also it save your life from danger and you can serve your father and mother very properly so discuss this with very coll mind and try to recognize them that you dont like to go in army.

    Hope they will understand you.


    Thank you.

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