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    My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    I am working in a private firm. My colleagues have the habit of attending late night disco parties together on the weekend. But I am not into such things at all and so feel very awkward in attending these. My colleagues are always forcing me attend these parties but I donít want to. How to refuse them in a polite manner?

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    hello,
    it is good to attend them.now our India is following western culture and in present situation avoiding those parties will be somewhat foolishness.we should change according to our environment,as your colleagues are forcing you then its better to attend them happily and it also makes them happy.
    you should change according to your time and situation.its also plays a major role in your career and also it helps to mingle with other countries other than India because in most of the countries the dealings will be contracted in this type of meetings only.so if you doesn't join in these type of parties or discos then it may effect in future.
    so my sincere advice is to join them happily and have a good days in life.
    thank you..............

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Hello.

    No, Nobody can force you to attend anything that you don't like. If you don't like
    party then you should tell your collegues that party is not your cup of tea and it
    would be best for them to leave you out of this. Every individual has his or her own
    like and dislike and all should respect that.

    Bye,

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    HELLO............
    My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    HABBITS OF THESE TYPES ARE NOT GOOD FOR YOU. IF ENTER ONCE IN THIS TYPE OF HABBIT THEN YOU CANNOT CHANGE TO YOURSELF. SO U ARE REQUIRED AFTER WORKING HOURS JOIN SOME PART TIME JOB OR OTHER HOBBY CLASSES OR OTHE SCHEDULE WHICK LIKE MORE. IN THIS WAY YOU CAN SAY TO YOUR COLLEAQES THAT I HAVE BUSY SCHEDULE AND UNABLE TO GO WITH YOURSELF. IN THIS WAY CAN AVOID TO FROM BAD HABBITS AND YOU CAND GET EARNING FROM PART TIME

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Hi friend
    As you said that you are not like to go for the late parties. But your colleagues are forcing to you that you have to come with us. Now what you have to do is that said to him/her in a politely way that you are not like these types of late night parties. Said to him/her that you are get bored in these types of parties and also feeling uncomfortable in these types of parties. So said to him/her that I am unable to attend the late night parties
    Thanking you hope you like my suggestion..

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    First of all you must keep one thing in your mind that nobody can force you to do anything. If you are firm in your decisions and your thinking no one

    can impel you to go against it. As you don't want to hurt your colleagues which is good thinking on your part you should talk to them in a clear way

    that you don't find yourself comfortable to attend those parties and thus not able to enjoy the same. So you don't think that you should go for the

    it as if you are not enjoying than what is the reason to attend the same as the main motive to go to discos is to enjoy. Tell them that you don't

    want to hurt them due to which you went with them before but you don't find yourself fit into those parties and thus don't want to go. Also tell

    them due to you they will also not be able to enjoy the party.

    If you want to give an excuse than you can say that you are not able to bear loud sound of discos and thus doesn't feel comfortable in terms of your

    health thus not want to attend the parties.

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    there are many people who will force you to change your habits no matter what you should never change your habits its not because of you feeling awkward but its matter of changing your identity . late discos are not really good for health and for your healthy thinking mind.. i have a strong reason behind it because if your not used to these habits then don't entertain them.. tell any reason to avoid if they don't agree then you can directly spell your stance clearly and without hesitation you should always tell them.. there is no point you should say yes to attend the late night parties.. late night parties are dangerous as you will fall into non-sense habits like smoking, and health hazards habits which will really spoil you. a bad habit is enough to destroy your life

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Hello..

    Friend , its not about how to refuse that guy because you know that "how to refuse him " as you said me in polite manner. You just thinking that he will feel bad and that's why you are not saying to him your problem. Friend you have your own life and own likes and dislikes and yes surely you are good person as you are taking care of your friend that he should not feel bad after your refusal , my friend don't make those kind of choices that your heart doesn't allow because it may give you and others happiness but for a small time . Say to your friend politely about your thinking that you don't like these things much as you were going with him only because of him , as you will tell him in this way he will feel that you were thinking about his feelings also and he will surely understand you about your problem if he is your good friend.

    Thanks.

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Hello,

    Late night parties are in trend.So these people indulge themselves in these latest trends of partying till late night,drinking and all.If you dont want to indulge yourself in these,you make to make your decision very clear to them.Dont think that what they will mind if you say no to them.Thinking in this way will refrain you from speaking up what you want.So its better you give them a clear message that they may do whatever they want,but they should not involve you because you are not interested in all these.This will definitely not please them,but keep it in mind that you are not here to please everyone.

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Hi aspirant

    Sometime or the other , you can definitely attend such parties in order to please your colleagues and to maintain good relations with them. But of course if they are forcing you everytime to attend such late night disco parties, then you should definitely refuse them with proper reason. The next time when your colleagues make such unusual demands you should be strict with them and not give up to their whims and fancies.

    You should tell them politely that you don't like attending such late night parties and thus hope that they will try to understand this from your point of view as you are not comfortable with these. Once in a while its ok so that you get to spend some extra time with them , but you can't make this a habit. You hope that they will not mind this and will try to understand you. You hope that they enjoy and rock the party.

    I am sure they will understand you and then your problem will be solved. Good luck and Thanks

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Well dear if your colleagues are forcing you to join late night parties and you do not want to go with them as you do not like this then you should not go there.you should talk with them and tell them that you do not like all this and you want to go to home on time and want to spend your time with family and join them once in a month just to please them also.thank you

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Dear friend you are working in a private firm , your colleagues often force you to attend late night disco parties together on the weekend.But you are not into such things at all so feel very awkward in attending these.Your colleagues are always forcing me to attend these parties but you do not want to .How to refuse them in a polite
    manner?

    Under this circumstances, you can avoid this forcing politely only you are to show due to ill health, and doctor's
    advise I am to refrain from such parties, rely me ,if you do not rely please see my medicine and prescription,you are to produce old prescription ,if needed you must collect prescription from the doctor you know well at your residential area. I think if you can produce this Dr's certificate and prescription then only you will be escaped from your colleagues.

    Thank You,

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a private firm. My colleagues have the habit of attending late night disco parties together on the weekend. But I am not into such things at all and so feel very awkward in attending these. My colleagues are always forcing me attend these parties but I donít want to. How to refuse them in a polite manner?
    Hello Aspirant,

    The nature & interest varies from person to person.As all the human beings are not alike,like wise their interest & nature are also different from each other.

    Your thinking in view of of good health & future is good to avoid late night such parties.It is always good to be under some good principles to lead a better life.The good people avoid such parties as mentioned in the question.

    You can pretend with your colleagues by saying something that may be "I am not in a position to be awake up late night,I have been directed my family to reach home in time ,doctors have advised me to go to bed at 10.00 PM".

    You can give him another option to accompany him such as watching movie in evening show on some particular occasion.

    Hope your colleague will be agree with you.

    Good luck.

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    hii,
    Tell them the truth that you are not a partying person and you feel awkward and uncomfortable attending these parties. Show your complete unwillingness to attend such late night discotheque parties. Don't try to make any excuses and instead tell them the truth straight forward. be polite but be confident enough to say a no. I promise you won't sound that harsh and rude. Try explaining them that why such parties make you feel uncomfortable and they will surely understand.

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    If your collegues are really human beings then they can understand the language of politeness.

    As you not like such things and also these things are not over all good.

    So you should not go for late night discos.

    It will spoil your good nature slowly and you will not realise it at present.

    After some years you will realise your fault but then you will be in no situation to do anything.

    So you should refuse then politely.

    If then do not then once keep some distance from them.

    There is no other way to solve this problem.

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Hi,

    If you do not like late night disco parties then refuse them , say no that you don't like such parties and it is out of your nature to attend these parties.
    Say them that you have some work at house or you need to spend time with your family, and so you cannot attend the disco parties.
    Also, waking up late at night affects your health, you must give any excuse which suits you.
    Tell them to understand you and that you cannot attend the parties.

    Thankyou

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    HELLO,
    ITS ALL DEPEND ON MOOD OF PEOPLE. IF U LIKE THAN ENJOY THE PARTY.
    waking up late at night affects your health, you must give any excuse which suits you.
    Tell them to understand you and ATTEND WITH U.


    THANK YOU

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    hi, friend ..

    >> As a friend they force for any thing but its on you what you want to do go or not.

    >> if you are really free then you have to go because this will make relation strong with them.

    >> but if you really not like then you have to give solid reason and refuse them.

    >> Every day ans weekend this is not good for health.

    >> just you have to take care of yourself .. just be yourself and take decision.

    >> i hope you have got me.

    >> all the very best

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Dear friend,

    It totally depends upon your own interest that you want to attend Late night parties or not. Well you have tell your colleagues that you are not interested in attending these type of parties. Your friend/colleagues will came to know about your likings and will not force you to attend parties.

    However there are many consequences if you tend to follow your colleagues routine like you will start suffering with your health. Survey says Late night parties and sleeping habits will led to many bad effects on health in future.

    So its better that you must tend to follow your own habits and do as you like. No one will force you to do which you don't want to do and its not under your job criteria.So be cool and do what you want and which makes you happy.

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    To deal with these kind of situations you need to say some lies to them that you dont have money to attend those parties and also you dont have any interest into the same as these are the wastage of money for you, if still they want you to go to that place and also wants to pay for you then you should go once as you are not paying, and also you will see what all things happening over there it will be a kind of experience for you. After that you should not go to that place if your colleagues again force you then again say that you dont have money for these things after that they will understand that why you dont want to go to that place and again they will never force you to go to that place as they will be aware about your decision.

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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a private firm. My colleagues have the habit of attending late night disco parties together on the weekend. But I am not into such things at all and so feel very awkward in attending these. My colleagues are always forcing me attend these parties but I donít want to. How to refuse them in a polite manner?
    Dear Aspirant,

    You are in good opinion to deny such late night party.You should ask your friend to give up such habit as it is not good for him & as well as for his family in future.There are so many means of entertainment which can be utilised for enjoyment such as watching good movies for which If you want I will accompany you in the evening show.

    Now I am sorry to say that I can not accompany you for such show as I have been advised to go to bed latest by 11PM.So please don't mind for it & carry on.

    In fact the said show is not good for an employees of a good organisation & for a civilised persons.So It would be better to be away from such thing.

    Thanks & good luck.


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    Re: My colleagues forcing me to attend late night disco parties on the weekends

    Sometime or the some other , you actually will sign up for these kinds of celebrations so as to remember to your acquaintances and to retain very good relationships with them. However when they are making you actually each to go these kinds of late night disco celebrations, after that you should reject these with proper reason. The very next time once your acquaintances help to make these kinds of uncommon requirements you'll want to be strict together and not throw in the towel for their vagaries as well as fancies.

    You ought to explain pleasantly which you don't such as participating these kinds of late night celebrations and for that reason trust that they can seek to understand this from your view since you are certainly not at ease with these. From time to time it's so you will get to spend quite a few an extension cord together , nevertheless it's not possible to makes this your habit. A person trust that they can certainly not imagination this and definitely will seek to realize you. A person trust they will get pleasure from as well as mountain the particular party.
    you are your confidential corporation , your acquaintances frequently make you sign up for late night disco celebrations with each other for the weekend.But a person in to things like this in any respect consequently feel too difficult with participating these.Your acquaintances are always making my family to go these celebrations nevertheless you don't wish for you to .How for you to reject them in a considerate
    method?

    Underneath this situation, it is possible to steer clear of this making pleasantly only you will demonstrate due to unwell health and fitness, as well as doctor's
    recommend We're for you to refrain from these kinds of celebrations, be dependent my family ,if you don't be dependent please visit the remedies as well as doctor's prescription,you actually will deliver previous doctor's prescription ,as needed you need to gather doctor's prescription from your doctor you recognize properly in your non commercial area. I do believe if you can deliver this Dr's certification as well as doctor's prescription after that merely you're going to be been freed from your colleagues.
    Your opinions with view of regarding health and well being & long term is great to prevent late night these kinds of parties.It is definitely good to become within some great principles to lead a greater life.The very good persons steer clear of these kinds of celebrations as i have said in the question.

    It is possible to pretend that using your acquaintances by simply indicating a little something that may be "Practical goal capable to often be awake right up late night,I have been previously focused his dad to succeed in property on time ,physicians currently have cautioned my family for you to hit the sack from 10.00 PM ".

    It is possible to provide him with another approach to accompany your ex like observing film with night demonstrate on quite a few specific occasion.

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