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    My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    I am working in a government organisation. Just few days back, I helped one of my colleagues in completing his work as he wanted my help. But just because of this my boss scolded me in front of everyone saying that in this way he will never learn anything. I donít think this is fair as I never meant any harm. What to do in such a situation?

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    Dear Friend,

    First thing you should do is to drop your anger on your boss. Here, both of you are right at your point of view but read the situation from different perspectives. Although, your boss could have explained this to you in a nice manner without scolding in front of everyone.

    But, this is human nature that they can't make wise decisions when in anger. I would suggest you not to mind it.

    You are right when you say that it is a noble work to help your colleagues complete his work but if you keep on doing his work, he will never be able to learn.

    So, better you should encourage your friend to learn the work and try to do it himself. Yes, of course you should guide him whenever he needs you, without hampering your work, but you should not completely do his work.

    All the best.
    Thank you.

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    You should not think much about this issue
    You boss has been entrusted to look after the department and its employees
    The training of employees is his duty
    If you boss thinks that employee has to do their job on their own and than only he can learn, let him do so
    In future you can always direct such employees to your boss

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a government organisation. Just few days back, I helped one of my colleagues in completing his work as he wanted my help. But just because of this my boss scolded me in front of everyone saying that in this way he will never learn anything. I donít think this is fair as I never meant any harm. What to do in such a situation?
    Dear Aspirant,

    You need not be so serious for such thing,because the real & good boss is like a guardian who has been empowered by the nature to scold you & guide you as per the situation prevailing.It would be better to end this matter itself.When the matter arises again,You can say to your boss patiently that It was my not bad intention to help him.It was the need of him & being human,It is our duty to help others.But when it hurt you so much,I will not help any one unless & until I am directed by you.So kindly end & excuse me for this mistake.

    Hope your boss will realise the facts,because he is boss today with the help of others.In his life & job,he might have helped many & he might have got help from many.

    So whenever any one approaches you hereafter,you should send the concerned employee to your boss.

    Thanks & good luck.

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    See your boss is also not wrong on his behalf, if he wants that his employees learn things which can only be done if he works himself. Every boss has his own way of dealing things and thus manages things according to that. By scolding you in front of every one he wanted that this message goes to every employee and thus he must not have to tell the same thing to other employees again and again. You were also not wrong on your part in helping your colleagues but if your boss doesn't like than you must not do it. As this will unnecessary strain things between you and your boss which is not a good thing.

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    Hi friend,

    This was unfair of your boss scolding you in front of other colleagues.
    But it was definitely wrong about you help him complete his work.
    You must guide him how to do it but cannot do it for him.
    Otherwise he will never learn , your boss is right.

    Although, he is your boss you must apologize him with a smile.
    This will make the situation cool between you and your boss.

    Whenever , your boss scolds you , do not take into mind.
    He is the boss and he has the right to correct you for your mistakes.
    So it is fine to say sorry about what you have done wrong.

    Good luck

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    Hello,

    Your boss is right. If you you continue to help your collegue then how can he learn
    the work. Your help very praiseworthy but you have to think about yourself. In a
    goverment organiztion unless your boss gives approval you should not help anyone.
    You need to focus on your work first and then think about your collegues latter. This
    is the rule of the game.

    Bye,

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    If your boss has scolded you then what is new thing in that as he said the right thing that if you help him today then he will ask for help everyday and he will forget to do work himself and always find the person to do his work this will make him handicapped, if someday boss will ask him for any of the work then what he will do then boss will ask what he has did all these days, he will be dumb in front of him and he will be scolded. If anybody asks you for help then you must say him that you dont know about that work it is as simple as it looks after that he will ask it from any other else. So never think that if you not help him then nobody helps him, but you should always be on safer side as this is your job nobody else will gonna do it for you and also your are getting paid for the same. Try to avoid these kind of people those who asks for help everytime. It will be better for you.

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    I can understand your point that you did not have any evil intention to cause harm to your colleague. You had a good intention to help your friend. But the reason why your boss scolded you cannot be ignored at the same time. If you help your colleague, then how will he learn to handle tough situations ? I think you should not mind the way your boss has scolded you in front of everyone .This is because of the fact that by doing so he has not only scolded you for helping him, at same time he has indirectly warned your colleague for taking help from others. In future refrain yourself from doing this type of help, if required give some verbal suggestions,but nothing more than that!

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    Dear friend,

    Dont take the words of your boss in a negative manner.As what he said is totally correct. if you will keep on helping your collegue in this way , he will never be able to learn anything and will become dependent on all others for the work assigne to him. If others are doing his work then why has he been appointed. Dont be emotinal in such situations. Just guide, dont do any one else work. Thats not your part.

    Moreover, he may start takinga dvantage that you are helping him so why not get all things done from you.

    Hope you take the motive behind the words of your boss. Let the person make mistakes and learn..

    Thanks

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a government organisation. Just few days back, I helped one of my colleagues in completing his work as he wanted my help. But just because of this my boss scolded me in front of everyone saying that in this way he will never learn anything. I donít think this is fair as I never meant any harm. What to do in such a situation?
    Hello Aspirant,

    Boss is Boss who is a guardian also.The boss has power to scold you when the time permits for it,because he guides you when you are required in order to deal the official matters.So you should not be so serious for such issue.If you think positive for your boss,his scolds will not pain to you.Remember the role of GURU in the earlier days of life.How one fears with those GURUS & later the students realise that because of that GURU fear I settled my life otherwise I would not have laboured hard to be what I am today.

    So assure your Boss I won't help any one in future without your permission.If any one approaches me for help,I will send them to you & on your direction,I would proceed further.

    So end this matter & consider your Boss as GURU.

    Good Luck.

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    hello,
    first convince your boss by saying sorry that you will never repeat this type of mistakes.
    secondly your boss has the rights to scold you and you did a mistake right? boss never scolds unnecessarily.so keep it in mind that our well wishers scoldings should not be taken to our heart and your boss is doing his duty and you should guide your colleague in giving some tips and not by doing his work.
    give your colleague some good suggestion so that he could cope up in future.
    thank you...............

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a government organisation. Just few days back, I helped one of my colleagues in completing his work as he wanted my help. But just because of this my boss scolded me in front of everyone saying that in this way he will never learn anything. I donít think this is fair as I never meant any harm. What to do in such a situation?
    Hello Aspirant,

    Boss is Boss in the office & guardian too for the employees working under him.He is like a senior family member.He has the power to scold you when you commits any mistake & guides you when you need for disposal of office liabilities.He tries to make you understand when you commits any mistake & advice first not to repeat it in future & he takes action when you don't listen to him.

    So need not be too serious for his scolds.You should not mind it & ends the matter here itself by assuring your boss not to repeat it in future without your permission.Hope your boss will be very happy.

    Good luck.

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    hi
    come on friend, this is the problem in every oneís office, he might have scolded you to get you a sort of a realization that you should not help the people who are not so hard working, by doing this, you are only encouraging him to get lazy in doing his own work.
    Therefore, you need to give up your attitude of over helping of others.
    Gud luck

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    Hello Aspirant,

    first of all don't get tensed in this matter. u r scolded so that u can learn.
    both of you are correct in your own points. but before helping someone complete ur own work first. then try to help others.
    help means to assist him , not doing his complete work. try to make him do his own work with ur slight assistance . it is human nature to help someone. help others because u may also need help frm others some day. try to make ur boss understand take u were just assisting him not doing his whole work and that it is only for the betterment for ur own compnay.

    hope it will help u,
    Thanks & Regards.

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    This was unfair of your boss scolding you in front of other colleagues.
    But it was definitely wrong about you help him complete his work.
    You must guide him how to do it but cannot do it for him.
    Otherwise he will never learn , your boss is right.

    Although, he is your boss you must apologize him with a smile.
    This will make the situation cool between you and your boss.

    Whenever , your boss scolds you , do not take into mind.
    He is the boss and he has the right to correct you for your mistakes.
    So it is fine to say sorry about what you have done wrong.

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    Whatever happened was not good because helping someone is a great good habit in our life and this is the responsibility of every single human been that they help each other in all legal and fair works and you did what you was asked for because your colleagues asked you for help and you accepted but if your manager scolded you on this matter so your manager was absolutely wrong

    The worst thing is that your manager do not know how to manage the office and employees of the company that is why he scolded you unnecessarily and if your manager had know enough about management the he would have never allowed any person to ask for help but that manager is being failed at every stage but do not worry and just walk further because if you will stay at this moment then you will definitely get nothing

    If we take your part then you are absolutely right because you helped a person so you did not do anything wrong but if we take the part of your manager then somewhere he is also right because he told you that you will learn nothing if you will keep helping others while being responsible for some tasks so you should know that this is the business and everyone is being here for themselves so you should not think about others and care for your career because if you will think about others then you will surely get nothing in business world that is why think about yours not others to be ahead in the world

    You also should talk to your manager and just do not stay like a afraid person because you are working in government organization so you are the part of that organization and you are also behind the success of that organization so you should go to your manager and do not forget to bring that person whom you have helped and your manager scolded because of him so you should call him and take him with you to the manager and just request that sir you scolded me because of this person so first of all you should scold him over that matter because he asked me for help so first of you should teach him that how to work in company to make very good impression and if your organization will not teach work to any person then they will definitely ask for help so first you should make him understand to not ask for help and learn his work

    Personally you make talk to that person before going to the manager because you got scolded because of him so you should say to him that go to the manager and say sorry because you got help but I got scolded so this was your fault that you did not talk to the manager so please go and take my favor in front of the manager and if you will not say sorry then I will never help you again and you will not be able to talk to me then your friend will take your favor and will talk to the manager from your side and your manager will understand and if your friend say sorry to you then also you should accept and be free from all worries

    All the best

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    Re: My boss scolded me in front of everyone just because I helped one of my colleagues complete his work

    Right off the bat you want to do should be to shed ones fury on your boss. Listed here, two of you tend to be proper at the viewpoint yet look into the circumstance out of several perspectives. While, your manager can have revealed this kind of to you with a fantastic style with no scolding while in front of everyone. However, it is human instinct of which they are unable to help to make clever decisions while in anger. An excellent opportunity you do not in your thoughts it.You will be proper when you state it's a royal work to enable ones acquaintances finish their work yet if you persist with accomplishing their work, your dog will not have the ability to learn.And so, improved you must motivate ones companion to master the repair and attempt to take action himself. Certainly, naturally you must guideline him whenever your dog requires you actually, with no restricting your job, yet you must not fully complete their work. An individual must not be and so critical regarding these thing,considering that the serious & superior employer is sort of a parent who's got been recently empowered by simply the nature in order to reprimand you actually & help you depending on the circumstance prevailing.It would certainly be better to terminate this kind of subject itself.When the issue appears once again,An individual know on your employer patiently of which That it was my personal great intention to support him.It has been your need regarding him & staying man,It truly is the obligation to support others.But gets hotter harm you actually a great deal of,I won't enable any unless & right until We're guided by simply you.So please ending & pardon me due to this mistake.Trust your manager can know the main points,because he is definitely employer nowadays by using others.In their life & task,he may get aided a lot of & he may currently have assist of many.View your employer is also certainly not wrong with their the part, in case your dog wishes of which their workers learn items that can only be done in case your dog will work himself. Each and every employer has got her own way of interacting issues therefore is able to issues as outlined by that. By simply scolding you actually while in front of everybody your dog needed this sales message goes to every personnel therefore he has to not need to explain to a similar thing with other workers once again plus again. That you were additionally certainly not wrong from you in aiding ones acquaintances yet, if your employer won't like when compared with you must not complete it. Simply because this can pointless pressure issues amongst both you and your employer that's not a good thing.And so whenever any methods you actually hereafter,you must give the actual involved personnel on your boss.If the employer has got scolded you then what on earth is new part of of which since he said what's right that if you actually enable him nowadays subsequently he can other people every day anf the husband can ignore in order to do give you results herself and always uncover the person to complete their work as a result him differently abled, in case sometime employer can question him regarding any of the work subsequently precisely what he can complete subsequently employer ask precisely what they have do these a short time, he'll be foolish while in front of him plus he'll be scolded. In case any one demands you actually regarding enable then you definitely ought to state him for you to do not know about it push the button is as easy as it seems following that he ask this in the other else. And so certainly not assume that if you do not enable him subsequently no-one assists him, nevertheless, you ought to be with better aspect since this is your task nobody can going to take action for you and also your have become paid for the same. Try to avoid all these type of persons people that asks for enable everytime. This will be better regarding you.

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