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    My boss call me at night unnecessarily

    I am a female secretary in this company. My boss always asks me about my feelings instead of work dealings. Today he insisted me to share lunch with him. I just managed avoiding it somehow but at evening he called to my cell phone. I did not receive it because I do not want him to intrude him in to my personal space. what should I reply him tomorrow if he asks for not answering to his call?

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    Re: My boss call me at night unnecessarily

    Its very important these that you know the intentions of people around you don't take people for granted this will harm you at later stage.. You and anyone are bound not to cross limits at any point of time no matter what the situation you are.. When you find these activities done by your boss don't entertain him before he takes advantage of your good nature better ask him what actually he wants from you.. I personally feel that he crossing his limits never entertain this if you don't really react then he may cross his limit further..it is you who should attack in sense of curtailing his mindset set towards you behave like fire and be brave have some self respect in safe guarding your life there are many rogues outside or in office if there any female male tends to behave like stupid and they will move very close as an respected female you should save your self have courage in you to revert back at him . Don't fear for job try to be a better person opportunities will search you i am sure.. Indecent behavior is prevalent as a guy i know what a male does to impress them and try to make themselves good and you will tend to believe them that they are good but they may have cruel intentions about them soo i don't say very guy is bad but beware of your security and be secured..

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    Re: My boss call me at night unnecessarily

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am a female secretary in this company. My boss always asks me about my feelings instead of work dealings. Today he insisted me to share lunch with him. I just managed avoiding it somehow but at evening he called to my cell phone. I did not receive it because I do not want him to intrude him in to my personal space. what should I reply him tomorrow if he asks for not answering to his call?

    Hello Aspirant,

    This type of problem is very common in the corporate life.So you must be very strict in this matter otherwise it may be difficult to survive in the corporate field.

    You should have attended the call & pretended for something instead of not entertaining him.However past is past.You can say that you did not hear dial tone to receive the said call.If he crosses you more & more,you should say him clearly that you have joined the company to work honestly & to get salary as per norms."I have no any intention with any one in the company & if I feel disturbance,I can proceed to save myself legally.Also You should add," If I am tortured,I will disclose your intention before others,besides lodging the matter to the administration.''

    Hope your boss will be packed in himself & you will get rid of your present problem.Also this will give a good impression among other employees & you may be safe forever.

    Thanks & good luck.

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    Re: My boss call me at night unnecessarily

    hi
    this is a very cheap deed, which your boss is doing with you.
    The best thing to get rid of him is that you should not pick up his calls, if possible then switch OFF your phone at night or during the night, you should block his number.
    One more thing you can do is, hand over your phone to your brother when he calls you up, and when he speaks on the other side, tell your brother to inform him that you are already slept.

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    Re: My boss call me at night unnecessarily

    Hi dear, Please be extra careful in such cases. There is nothing wrong in being friends with your boss but there is a very thin line between friendship and starting to get personally involved with someone. Girls are generally very sensitive and gullible and get easily trapped. You need to be cautious and maintain certain distance with him. Do not be rude or curt with him, rather be friendly but professional with him. Just keep in your mind that he is your professional friend and please avoid getting overfriendly with him. As far as his calls are concerned, you can answer his calls but try to keep it short and to the point. If he is intelligent, he would understand that you do not want him to intrude into your personal life. At times actions speak louder than words. So do not worry but handle this situation in a matured manner. Thanks.

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    Re: My boss call me at night unnecessarily

    When boss called you should have responded his call. If you are not interested in his behavior and not to maintain your personal matters with him, observe and confirm his attitude if it is in a negative way clear him smoothly/politely that you are not all interested in such activities. If he is not having that type of feelings or thoughts, you may respect him and receive the work what he entrusts you. please always do not try to misunderstand the others. remember that some of them are good and having gentle nature. so you will have to observe his internal feeling and his behavior/ character slowly and act accordingly to avoid his personal invitations telling him your family background and other problems .Always speak to him in a pleasant manner but not serious and avoid the things which you are not interested very smoothly. regards

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    Re: My boss call me at night unnecessarily

    If you dont want to receive his calls then never receive the call and whenever he asks you that why didnt you pick the call then simply say that i was unconscious and my cell was in silent mode thats it because afte getting free from the work you will be definitely get tired and sleep early in the evening that will be the great answe if you say to him.
    If he call early in the evening then give the phone to somebody else in your family and say them you are in deep sleep this will be good idea for you.
    If you avoid him like this then he will understand that you are not interested to speak with him then he will not call you again unnecessarily.
    As far as his thinking is concerned he is a *********** because calling a girl in the night without any work is simply understandable that his intentions are not good towards you.
    If you feel uncomfortable due to that then you can directly say to him that you are not that kind of girl so stop doing these things to you.
    After that also if he do such things then give him a dose as there are lot more opportunities you will get , he is not the only person in the world who gives employement, there are lot many.
    So never hesitate to express your feeling because they will not stop till the time you not protest against that.

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    Re: My boss call me at night unnecessarily

    Well
    Is this job really very much neded to you?
    if not then the best way to skip this problem is by quitting the job because you are smart enough to see through the kinds of intentions of your boss and a lady should never take a risk!
    But yeah some times the situation doesn't allow you to leave the job then keep pretending as if you are not getting what he wants and while talking informally some day tell him that you are engaged already...maybe this will make a difference.
    but whatever is the situation i will suggest you to not take any kind of risk and moreover if he insists on dinner , lunch etc then say that you are forbidden to eat outside by doctor and be spontaneous to say N O NO for any personal or non official work.
    Be brave enough to face it and for safety measure keep the contacts of nearest police station and NGO ready with you.

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    Re: My boss call me at night unnecessarily

    Hello madam
    Itís a very serious problem. Not what you have to do is that if tomorrow your boss will asked to you that why you should not my phone then said to him that some of the guest is come in my house and I was go for the shopping and forgot my phone to carry with me. and tell to him that sir in my home itís giving me a clear instruction to be by my mom and dad their you would not attend call from while you are in home thatís why I will again said to you that please donít call me when I was in home because I am unable to attend your call
    Thanking you hopes you like my suggestionÖ..

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    Re: My boss call me at night unnecessarily

    Dear this is not going good with you and I am sure that you are trying to avoid him and do not wants to let him enter in your personal life because each one has the right to safe personal life for ourselves and if someone try to interfere then we gets worried and frustrated because personal is personal and professional is professional so everything at it's way and you need to try to convey your boss that do not call you in any odd time because you feel uncomfortable while working and after working

    You did not answer the call of your boss because that was late night and you was sure that he will ask you to come for dinner etc. and you did very good because if you wants to save yourself then you will have to avoid your boss at any cost otherwise this may effect your personal life

    When you go to office then your boss will call you and ask you for reason that why didn't you attend the call so you must be confident because here you have to make excuses and if you will confidently tell a lie then your boss may trust in you and you have to say a line that could save you for a long time means you can say that I have give sometime to my family after office hours that is why I make my mobile silent and gets busy in working and help my family to complete work that is why I am really sorry and I can not answer your call after office because this makes me uncomfortable

    If your boss force you to attend your call then you may make another excuse that you have been engaged and your fiance does not allow you to answer any call and wants to talk to me all time by another phone that is why I do not answer anyone of call after office that is why I request you to do not call me after leaving the office because I have to manage everything and when your boss will know that you have been engaged then he will not try to force you anytime and interrupt anytime and this may be a right way but you should be fearless while talking to your boss and mentioning everything

    All the best

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