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    My best friend in office did not tell me about her marriage and I am the recipient of comments from colleagues

    My ‘best friend’ in office went on a two week leave and came back married and she did not even tell me. Now everybody in office is talking behind my back that I don’t know even about what is going on in my friends life. This is a very embarrassing situation for me. What should I do?

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    Rituja Array
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    Re: My best friend in office did not tell me about her marriage and I am the recipient of comments from colleagues

    Yes,indeed you are in embarrasing situation.What your friend has done is also unjustified,unknowingly you have have been put into trouble as other people are associating you with your friend.I would suggest you to keep quiet this is because you cant shut these people's mouth.Once they have raised this issue they will keep on discussing on this issue.And you yourself know that you were in no ways associated with it.Truth will come out in course of time.Meanwhile if your friend discloses that she had nit invited you in her marriage,then every one will come to know about the real fact.Give a damn what others are talking behind your back.You are honest to yourslef,keep faith in honesty.Thats it! Focus on your work,this issue shouldnot affect your work.

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    Re: My best friend in office did not tell me about her marriage and I am the recipient of comments from colleagues

    Hi friend

    Your best friend should certainly have a solid reason for not telling you about her marriage. Youi should have faith in your friend rather than worrying about what others are saying behind your back. As she is your best friend, so certainly your friendship is based on trust and loyalty. If your best friend did it on purpose , then surely she is not your true friend and only became friends with you for some selfish gains. I know this may hurt you but this is the truth. So now it is for you to decide- whether you just believe in her if you have reason to do so or go and directly talk to her regarding this matter so as to clarify your doubts.

    If you don't feel she did right by not informing you about her marriage, then better to go and talk to her rather than keeping this inside your and thus troubling yourself.So you find an appropriate time for this conversation and also an apt venue , preferably outside your workplace. Tell her that you are very hurt that she did not inform you about her wedding. You consider her your best friend and you didn't expect her to behave in such a way. Then I think she herself will take the conversation further and explain to you everything. Then you can yourself decide whether she is a true friend or not.

    If you think, after this conversation, that she is not your true friend; then its better that you break your friendship with her and give her the reason for the same. But if you believe her to be your true friend , then dont let others talk bother you. As they say - Let the dogs bark.

    So friend dont worry and take your decision according to the proceedings . True friendship will always prevail no matter what happens. Good luck

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    Re: My best friend in office did not tell me about her marriage and I am the recipient of comments from colleagues

    Hello !!!

    why you are feeling embarrassed of yourself ??
    ok, i agree she is your friend, but she too have her some personal sharing.
    or it might happen that she dosen't got any suitable time to tell you about this.
    so let the people say about this, because the society are made for gossiping in the peoples back only.
    this is the birth right of the society.
    so let the society do their job and you do your own job.

    if you are quite heart broken by this than you can ask your friend in a simple and gentle manner,
    "why she did not informed you about htis".

    she will surely answer your question.

    hope i am clear to you.
    thanks for posting in EALP.
    pushp ranjan singh

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    Re: My best friend in office did not tell me about her marriage and I am the recipient of comments from colleagues

    Hi...........,

    Suggestions------>
    * Let people talk there own way.
    * They will stop automatically after that.
    * So do not make it a issue and take it calm.
    * Do not represent that you are hurt from your friend marriage.
    * DO your job as usual and focus on work.
    * Do not respond to any question related to that topic .....

    SO just ignore it man..................................and move ahead in life

    Thanks

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    Re: My best friend in office did not tell me about her marriage and I am the recipient of comments from colleagues

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    My ‘best friend’ in office went on a two week leave and came back married and she did not even tell me. Now everybody in office is talking behind my back that I don’t know even about what is going on in my friends life. This is a very embarrassing situation for me. What should I do?
    Hello Aspirant,

    I have heard many times this type of news.In fact what happens in such case,if two colleages are moving together & spending their time together,every one thinks that they are very close friends.But there is something behind it.Either both of them or one is with others for sake of self satisfaction which may be completion of works or else & they are confiend to this only.They may not know what friendship is & to what extent they have to be together.

    So,you need not worry for others' comment.When any one asks you regarding this issue,you can say that " I don't like to interfere in to the personal matters of others''.In this situations,it would always be better to be satisfied yourself.If it is possible,try to have a tours to some religious place or to some of your relatives or to home so that you be away from the present environment & be in new environment.It will act as a tonic to your mind.

    Thanks.

    Ashok..


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