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    I am more popular in office than my husband and he is jealous

    I am by nature a very happy go lucky person and make friends very quickly. As a result I am more popular in office than my husband who is more reserved. He has become very jealous and nowadays whenever I am talking to my team he makes it a point to interfere. This undermines my position in office. How do I explain this to him.

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    Re: I am more popular in office than my husband and he is jealous

    Hello,

    It is very problematic when both husband and wife work in the same company.This creates problem between the husband and the wife.The same has happened between you two.You need to keep your professional and personal life aside.When both of you are in the office,try to bahave like colleagues as much as possible.At home behave like husband and wife.May be your husband is suffering from extreme possessiveness which is leading him towards jealousy.You need to make him understand that it is your nature which makes you popular among others.He shouldnot misunderstand you on such grounds.Make it clear to him about the inconvenience thus caused to you every time.

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    Hi friend

    Husband-wife relationship is of utmost regard, love and trust and thus there is no scope for jealousy or other vicious things like this in it. Your husband should better realise this and rather than be happy for your achievements. He should be happy that you are very popular among your colleagues . If he is reserved then he should try to overcome this problem of his and not be jealous of you.

    And on top of that he is trying to undermine your position among your colleagues by interfering in your talk with your team. He should certainly try to introspect himself and think that the way he is behaving with his wife is right or wrong. If he gives some thought to this then i am sure he will realise his mistake and never try to repeat such things again.

    you should speak to him at your home and try to make him understand that he should not feel inferior to you if you are more popular than him. Rather being your husband and thus your soul mate he should be happy for your achievements. If you would have been in his place you would certainly would have been happy and proud of him.

    I am sure sooner or later he will realise this and then things will be alright for both of you. Good luck

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    Hey!
    This is one of the inevitable situations for couples who work together. Sorting out such differences become important both personally and professionally. If you do not talk it out with your husband then this will lead to problems between the two of you and will affect your married life. So it is best to deal with such situations when they are in the initial stages. You should tell your boss that the two of you need to respect each other as professionals while you are at your work and hence each of you should not unnecessary interfere with each other's work. Especially when the you are working as a team then the other person should respect your professional space and dignity. You should make sure that your husband feels a sense of security with respect to you.

    When there is a sense of insecurity in your husband's mind that is when jealousy crops up. You should make sure that your behaviour at your office is such that you always give importance to your husband in front of your colleagues. This will make your husband feel important and hence he will feel that even if you are very popular amongst your colleagues, he is still important to you. There is double responsibility on your shoulders. You have to balance your equation at both work and home.

    It is very important to understand your husband's mindset and act accordingly so as to make sure that your personal and professional life go on smoothly. You should very politely explain the situation to your husband so as to make sure that both your and your husband's work life goes on smoothly. I hope that your husband understands everything and acts both like a responsible professional and a husband. All the best!

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    Re: I am more popular in office than my husband and he is jealous

    Hi friend,
    This is very sensitive situation. Don't be aggressive. I think it is not jealous but it is called possesiveness. Don't carry your professional issues to your personal life. It makes life complicated.
    So try to explain to your husband that it is part of culture. Nothing more than that . Make him more comfortable.

    All the best !!!

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    Re: I am more popular in office than my husband and he is jealous

    hello guest !!

    nice to hear from you that you are so happy and luck lady.
    since your husband is reserved so his mentality is according to him only therefore he too want you to be reserved.
    so dont worry,you just explain to your husband that this is office and not our home.
    so here i have to be professional from each and every members of the office alongwith i have to keep friendly behaviour,than only i can sustain in this office and you too must follow this ethic in the office.

    because this is not our personal place it is professional place.

    tell these thing to your husband ith some love and affection showing toward him.
    he will surely understand you.
    pushp ranjan singh

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    Re: I am more popular in office than my husband and he is jealous

    hai.....

    This will naturally happen when one husband and his wife working within one company.

    But u can manage it.

    Try to promote ur husband position than ur position in ur office.

    Otherwise there will be created an ego problem between u and ur husband.

    So try to do it if u r satisfied.

    thanks......

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    Re: I am more popular in office than my husband and he is jealous

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am by nature a very happy go lucky person and make friends very quickly. As a result I am more popular in office than my husband who is more reserved. He has become very jealous and nowadays whenever I am talking to my team he makes it a point to interfere. This undermines my position in office. How do I explain this to him.
    Hello Aspirant,

    Being a woman employee and that too with your husband in the same organisation,you should be very confined to your work and behaviour in order to have harmonic relation with your husband.You have to go as per the consent of your husband and should not ignore him at any cost. You should have an aim of superceding your husband in the organisation otherwise this may lead a bad result in your relationship.As per hisduism,the hinduism the husband has been given the topmost place for woman.Money is not everything and the purpose of working both husband and wife is to lead a peaceful life and with no monetary tension. In any case,if you spoil your relationship with your husband,the whole life will be disturbed.

    So,try to spend more and more time with your husband and go ahead with his consent.

    Thanks and good luck.

    Ashok.









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    Re: I am more popular in office than my husband and he is jealous

    It's clearly viisible that your husband having an ego problem, where he can't see you gaining good position in the company and having more attention. However this would lead to affect your professional as well as personal life. Now you should make him understand his importance in your life and you can also make him special by praising his work and giving the credit to him for your success infront of your colleagues. However it's possible, then you must try to change your department and team. Mutual understanding and trust with you two, his required for this. Stay calm and easily explain the whole situation.

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    Hi friend,
    Hope you are in good health and good state of mind!
    It's always a treat and fun to answer your queries.
    I also appreciate the confidence that you have shown in us!


    See as far as problem is concerned,sit with your husband on a Sunday and first have a cup of tea together.
    Then slowly come to the point.
    Tell him that both of us have married and this relation means that we will help and support each other in every moment of life,be it success or failure.
    Tell him that your success is his as well.
    Both of you are a family and you need to look every success as your family's success and not your personal success.
    One thing that you can keep mind of is that you should try and spend more time with him at the office so that he doesn't feel rejected and alone.
    Each and every person has his own nature.
    Since your husband does not like talking to others as much as you do,its better that you initiate the conversation and involve him in it!
    Keep in mind the points that I have told you.

    Everything will be alright.
    Don't worry.


    I hope I have answered all your doubts.
    It was a pleasure answering your queries.
    Hope that you'll come up with some more challenging queries!
    Till then,take care.
    Bye!




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    Re: I am more popular in office than my husband and he is jealous

    hello..

    it is very problematic when both wife and husband are working in the same company they always feels jealous for small felling

    also.in that situation both could understand the each other wise problems will be raised..

    all the best

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    Re: I am more popular in office than my husband and he is jealous

    I am more popular in office than my husband and he is jealous


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