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    How to please my family members who want me to buy expensive things for them?

    I am working in a small private firm. Even though my pay is not that much, my family members want me to buy expensive things for them which I canít afford. I have tried to make them understand my condition many times but they always fight with me over such matters. How should I please them so as to lead a peaceful life?

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    Re: How to please my family members who want me to buy expensive things for them?

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a small private firm. Even though my pay is not that much, my family members want me to buy expensive things for them which I canít afford. I have tried to make them understand my condition many times but they always fight with me over such matters. How should I please them so as to lead a peaceful life?
    Hello Aspirant,

    Hes,it usually happens in life difficult to survive when the life partner does not understand the situation of the husband & stands at her own demand.In such case,you should try too convince your family to start some work so that earning increases.Also give her freedom to use the money as per her own choice.If she is well educated she may teach tuition to the students at home or she can do some stitching work at home,because you can increase your pay as per your choice to meet the requirements of your family.

    If she is not agree to work,request her to cooperate with you in expenditure otherwise I may move legally to teach you a lesson.

    Hope you will get success.


    Good luck.

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    Re: How to please my family members who want me to buy expensive things for them?

    Hi,
    I think you need to discuss this matter again and according to me your family will surely know your monthly payment/salary. But still they are asking about expensive things, then just refuse and say that "You have no money for expensive items" as if now. Also told them that you are getting disturb from this type of condition and also not able to work in office. So please be happy what you have and control your need , this is right of family members that they are manage all needs in your earning.
    Thanks

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    Re: How to please my family members who want me to buy expensive things for them?

    Hello Friend,

    It is very difficult to please someone who does not have a basic understanding of happiness. Hapiness is not measured in terms of expensive gift or dining at a costl hotel. Happiness is something that cannot be measured by money. If your familiy members are not ready to listen to your financial condition then you have to convicne them somehow otherwise your mental peace will be jeopardise forever.

    You should tell them that it is not possible for you to buy them expensive gifts all the time as your financial condition will not permit you to make such move. It is very very sad that your family members have no feelings for you and they treat you as a earning machine. There is no solution unless you are ready to face the problem with logic and persuasion skills.

    Bye,

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    Re: How to please my family members who want me to buy expensive things for them?


    Sir,
    You are working in a small private firm.As your salary is less,you cannot afford for buying expensive things.your family members should understand your situation.you can't meet there needs.Every person will have many wants.But we can fulfil those needs which can we afford.It is not necessary to fulfil all the wants by keeping loan or borrowing from others.so,tell them about this.If you fulfil all their needs your life will become ruined.so,talk to them peacefully and try to convince them.
    all the best

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    Re: How to please my family members who want me to buy expensive things for them?

    Hello,
    As your pay scale is not that much so you can afford expensive thing so make them understand.
    It is very bad condition that your family members are not understanding your condition and still they want you to buy expensive things.
    For peaceful life you didn't buy expensive things you do following things...
    1) Be tolerance- Tolerance in all that you think and do will make a difference in your life and in the lives of others around you. Tolerance for others is about appreciating diversity, the plurality of modern society, and being willing to live and let others live too.
    2) Leave space between tasks or appointments. Another mistake is trying to schedule things back-to-back. This leaves no cushion in case things take longer than we planned (which they always do), and it also gives us a feeling of being rushed and stressed throughout the day.
    3) Slow down and enjoy every task. Whatever youíre doing, whether itís a work task, eating, brushing your teeth, cooking dinner, driving to work: slow down. Try to enjoy whatever youíre doing. Try to pay attention, instead of thinking about other things.This isnít easy, as you will often forget, but find a way to remind yourself. Unless the task involves actual pain, anything can be enjoyable if you give it the proper attention.
    4) Be peaceful- Whenever a person aims to try to convince you that violence is okay, stick to your beliefs and politely disagree. Realize that some people will try to goad you by insisting that you're undermining people involved in situations of conflict. You know is not true and that it is a skewed vision that values conflict which leaves many people dead, orphaned, or homeless.
    5) Find inner peace- Without inner peace, you'll feel in a constant state of conflict. Trying to fill your life with possessions or improving yourself by social climbing without ever stopping to value your inner worth will leave you perpetually unhappy. When you crave something and you don't have it, you're in a place of conflict. It's easy to forget to be grateful for what you do have when you're constantly striving to upgrade your possessions, career, house, and life. Equally, owning too much stuff will create conflict and prevent you from living in peace because you're always at the beck and call of the "needs" of your possessions, from cleaning and maintenance, to insurance and security.
    Thank you.

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    Re: How to please my family members who want me to buy expensive things for them?

    Dear Friend,

    First of all convince your family members about your current financial situation.

    Also you should prepare a family budget plan,along with your family members and see whether you could afford that.

    Also taking loans for unnecessary things is a major trap in todays world.

    So avoid that completely.

    Work overtime to earn more income.

    Wish you all the best.

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    Re: How to please my family members who want me to buy expensive things for them?

    it always takes place in daily life challenging to live when everything associate isn't going to see the problem in the husband & appears during her own demand.In like situation,you should try as well coerce your loved ones to begin a few operate so that generating increases.Also offer her independence to use your money according to her own choice.If jane is effectively educated the woman might coach expenses to help the kids at home or the woman can do a few stitching work at home,since you can increase your earnings according to your option to fulfill the requirements your family.

    In case jane is not necessarily agree with operate,obtain her to help cooperate to you throughout expenses if not I might transfer by law to show that you simply lesson.
    It really is very difficult to you should someone that doesn't have a rudimentary perception of happiness. Hapiness is just not measured when it comes to highly-priced surprise or even cusine with a costl hotel. Delight is a thing that can't be measured by simply money. But if your familiy people aren't all set to become your economical condition then you need to help convicne these people in some way if not your thought tranquility might be jeopardise forever.

    It is best to let them know so it isn't likely that you should get them highly-priced gift ideas everyday for your economical condition will not help you help to make like move. It is very quite unfortunate which your loved ones people have no sensations to get you and also people cure an individual as being a generating machine. There is no alternative except you're in order to manage the actual problem with judgement as well as persuasion skills.
    That you are doing work in a small non-public firm.As your wages are a smaller amount,an individual do not want for selecting highly-priced things.your members of the family will need to recognize your situation.you can not meet up with presently there needs.Every human being will have many wants.But we will finish all those requires which often will any of us afford.It is not needed to help finish many of the desires to keep loan or even funding via others.so,let them know regarding this.If an individual finish all of their requires your lifetime may become ruined.so,communicate for many years calmly and try to coerce them.

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