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    Female colleague forcing me to help her complete her project

    I am working in a software company. One of my female colleague is now forcing me to help her to complete her project . I am overburdened with work myself and so have decided to refuse her. But the problem is that she knows some of my secrets and so is blackmailing me now on the basis of that. How to deal with such a situation?

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    Barnali Array
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    Re: Female colleague forcing me to help her complete her project

    Hi,

    Dealing the situation is an art...like saying "NO" to any work is also an art...
    The thing you have to understand first that why situation arises where she can blackmail you....
    Do the job this time tactfully and try to make her understand your job is priority over any one's job...

    It will be better to discuss this issue with your boss and ask for a suggession/help to overcome the situation...
    Once you can explained the situation to your boss...then you can avoid her to blackmail further...If the issue is personal in nature...you have to handle your issue...

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    Re: Female colleague forcing me to help her complete her project

    Dear,
    You have taken the right decision to not to help her. Your colleague is really cruel in nature.
    How can she show such kind of behaviour to you,ask her..dear.
    Tell her that you can't help her now as you yourself are overburdened,and if she will blackmail you then in future she will have to pay for it.
    Tell her that in future if you are going to know any secrete of her then you are not going to be soft on that.
    Give her an open challenge.

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    Re: Female colleague forcing me to help her complete her project

    Hello,

    You are working in professional environment so if you have the time you can certainly help
    your female colleague to complete her project. But you should hamper your work at any means.
    Helping colleague is very good but you need to remember that she also needs to enhance her skills
    otherwise she will never be able to cope with the constant pressure of the projects. It's upto you to
    decide which is best for you.

    Bye,

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    Re: Female colleague forcing me to help her complete her project

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a software company. One of my female colleague is now forcing me to help her to complete her project . I am overburdened with work myself and so have decided to refuse her. But the problem is that she knows some of my secrets and so is blackmailing me now on the basis of that. How to deal with such a situation?
    Hello Aspirant,

    It is your very bad situation & both of you know each other better than others,as you have said.But need not worry for that.Where there is a problem,there is a solution to it.See what secrets she knows.Is there any evidence with her for it?If there is an evidence,you have to help her till you are with her & even she can blackmail you if you are away from her.If there is no any evidence with her as a photographs,Voice recorded,any paper proof,you need not worry.She can not blackmail you.Be bold & don't be afraid.

    So see your situation & act accordingly.First complete your assignment & then if you have time help her.Give her hints & guidelines to complete her projects.If you are too vexed,you can report the matter to your boss,but first see your negative points.

    You should be very careful while making friendship with a female colleague.

    Good luck.

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    Re: Female colleague forcing me to help her complete her project

    Dear Friend

    Do not get irritated with this please concentrate on your present work as you are already overburdened with work.

    Tell you female colleague that you have no time to help her and if you get some extra time you will definitely help her.Do not fear from blackmailing ,tell her that you also know some secrets of her and will open it in front of all if she will do so .

    You should keep away from members like this as they are very cruel in nature and they get in touch with others for help and after that they ignore them .While working in an organisation always beware of this.

    If some worst case arises ,you can discuss it with your boss for any further solutions.Never give up.

    Hope the information helps as well as satisfies you .If you have any further query regarding this then please leave it here.

    All the best

    aashisranjan784

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    Re: Female colleague forcing me to help her complete her project

    Re: Female colleague forcing me to help her complete her project

    Hi friend,

    I think you have taken the right decision to not to help her.
    Your colleague is really cruel in nature.
    How can she show such kind of behavior to you,ask her.
    Tell her that you can't help her now as you yourself are overburdened.
    And if she will blackmail you then in future she will have to pay for it.
    Tell her that in future if you are going to know any secrete of her then you are not going to be soft on that.

    Thanks!!!
    all the best..............

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