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    Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    I am 35 years old and have recently started working with a small software firm. All my co workers are young 20 year old and I feel quite out of place. They are all very friendly and helpful but I feel very odd when they are discussing the latest techniques or lingo. Even if I try to learn I feel very awkward. What can I do to ease things a little.

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    Re: Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    Hi.. I can understand your problem but it is only you who can help yourself in such a situation..No one else can do anything about it but only you who can bring a change..Firstly you try to ease your awkwardness a little and try to get relief from it..Try to keep an open mind and dont think of yourself as older to your colleagues..Try to think you are of the same age group which will certainly make things better and easier for you plus making your stay better in your workplace..Try to mingle with your colleagues and just consider them as your colleaugues..You also try to learn their lingo by intermingling with them and think that you are inferior to them..

    I am sure they will be more than glad to be friends with you and also may learn a few things from your experience..I am sure as they are young bloods they will be hungry to learn anything new and thus will get a lot out of your friendship..So certainly you will also help them ..Dont think you will be a hindrance in their communications or talks..Just try to be friendly with them and you will see that your life will become much easier as a big burden will be removed from your shoulders and you will not have anything to wory about..

    Also at your workplace also you will feel comfortable and able to do your work with much more concentration ..I hope you understand friend and do as i say..Good luck and Thanks

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    Re: Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    hii
    cheer up, well i can understand your problemm.. but just try to grasp the enviornment without leaving your morals
    thanks

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    Re: Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    Hi,

    You must try to learn do not feel awkward about it.

    Learning is the process which can be done at any age.

    In your time there was no such technology so now it is you can surely learn it.

    If they are friendly , then do not feel awkward at all.

    Stay free and liberal, it will make you happy.

    good luck

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    Re: Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    Dear..

    It is a situation in most of the offices now a days about the age gap between co employer but in actual it is not that bad situation. If you try to mingle with them then I am sure you will not feel awkward and they also come closer to you. Its better to show some friendliness with them and try to help them as much as you can. It is but obvious that you have a good experience which can even help them in learning new things. Try to help them and allow the to learn new new things from you and also tell them that you are always ready to help them. Never show them that you are senior to them otherwise they will start overlooking you which will hamper your performance. Also do not feel shy about anything which you do not know and if there is something which you are unaware of then its better to ask and do not feel shy in asking anything as it will let you go closer to them and also you will get the chance to learn new things which you are totally unaware of.

    If you do not anything about the lingo then ask. Do not feel that if you ask they going to laugh at you as I am sure it will not going to happen. Share your experience with them and try to know more about them. You should also join them whenever they are going out so that you can mingle with them easily. Always try to be sober and carry a smile which will boost up your image as an friendly person and once you get out of this temporary feeling of ignorance you will see that you are enjoying very much with them.

    Hope it will help

    Cheers...!!!

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    Re: Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    You are 35 years old and you think that you are not young? Come on man stop thinking like this you are very young and old person are those in the age of 60 you are half of that.
    Stop thinking like that it will be better for you, i am surprised some people think like this. When your colleagues dont feel awkward while working with you then how you get this kind of feeling. You should be happy that you can learn how the latest generation is getting faster and hitech.
    These kind of thnkings are basically one sided as its only happening with you.
    Its not happening with the 20 years old guys.
    May be you are thinking like this because of your age then leave that and think like an young man then the things will work for you and also you will not feel awkward while working with them.

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    Re: Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    You will feel the same until you also turn yourself to a new technology and modern business management because all your colleagues are helpful and well working but they are working according to modern added technologies in software field that is why you are feeling awkward because you have less knowledge about latest technologies and engineering in this field so first of all I would like to suggest you that you should try to increase your knowledge in this field because if you wants to be with youngsters then you will have to gain full knowledge about new and modern techniques and you may take help of your young colleagues because they may teach you something new that may be helpful for you

    If you have some free time in morning or evening then you should go for any small capsule course to learn new management techniques and software field technologies so you will get increment in your knowledge that will make you confident while working with all those candidates and you should keep in touch with your boss to learn something new in business line. Do not hesitate while being with all those because if you will shy or feel awkward then you will loose confidence that may lead lack of capacities in your work and show that you are the senior employee in that company

    All the best

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    Re: Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    Look wherever you go, you will find young crowd , and evidently a generation gap. But such generation gap should not bother you as it is bothering you now. They might be tech savvy , but they lack experience. Due to your age, you have accumulated work experience. But they lack in work experience. Your seniority will be helpful in handling tough situations. Age of 35 is not a big deal. It is just a middle age. From now on stop thinking yourself to be old. Keep your mind fresh and young. You will feel good. There is no shame in learning anything, as learning has no age. Take help from them in technology related issues while they will be seeking your help in some other issue. Work peacefully with mutual help and friendship. Keep yourself updated. It will help you to come out of this psychological barrier.

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    Re: Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    hello friend,
    I can understand you situation very deeply .
    Dear dont feel that you are 35 age year old. 35 is just number , one should always feel that he 20 years old young man.
    I would recommend following points
    1.Add your colleagues to facebook.
    2.If possible invite them to your home for dinner.
    3.look at their interest like cricket movies talk on them.
    4.try to mix up with them, talk politely , give respect to them.
    hope everything will be ok.
    4.during weekend go with them for movie,

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    Re: Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    Could have an understanding of your short lived problem however it is you alone who will help yourself in that situation.No just one different could do anything whatsoever concerning this yet you alone who will carry your change.Firstly you are probably trying to cure the awkwardness just a little trying to obtain respite from it.Try to maintain a brain plus do not bring to mind all by yourself because old on your colleagues.Try when you consider you might be of the same get older which will will certainly make elements greater plus simpler for you as well as creating the keep greater in the workplace.Try so that you can associate with the colleagues and consider these individuals as your colleaugues..You also try to learn its lingo through intermingling using them plus believe that you'll be inferior so that you can them.

    More than likely they will may be more compared to happy to get good friends using you and also may master a few things from your experience.I am certain that since they're young bloods will have them hungry to learn whatever brand new and thus will receive a whole lot from your friendship.So certainly additionally, you will assist them to .Don't believe a person might be a drawback of their sales and marketing communications or maybe talks.Just be friendly using them plus you will notice that your lifestyle can become less difficult because a major problem might be taken from shoulders and you will then not have access to something to wory about.
    It's really a situation within the majority of the offices now a times concerning this space involving corp manager however in actual the idea is not that poor situation. If you try so that you can associate using them then I am certain that you will not experience cumbersome additionally they appear far better you. Its greater to exhibit quite a few friendliness using them trying to assist them to just as much as a person can. It really is yet noticeable that you've got a beneficial expertise which will will even assist them to in learning brand new things. Try to assist plus encourage the to learn brand new something totally new coming from you and likewise inform them that you'll be continually willing to help them. Never demonstrate that you'll be elderly in their mind normally they will will start disregarding you which ones can obstruct the performance. In addition never experience bashful concerning whatever that you have no idea of of course, if there's which will you might be not aware of then its safer to consult and don't experience bashful within wanting to know whatever simply because it enables you to get more detailed in their mind plus also you can have the opportunity to learn brand new things that you might be completely not aware of.

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    Re: Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    Sir as per the details you have mentioned you are inferiority complex state.First try to reduce it to zero, by which you can be friendly towards all and by the process you can learn new and they can learn what they don't know.
    In any field every one must be united keeping aside all the differences between then which may be due to age or which may be due to designation, salary etc.
    So, keep every thing aside and try to be a person among all.
    At this age you need to teach others but must not feel in this manner.
    Sorry sir if i say anything wrong.
    But i feel you must forgot your age and must learn before learning new thing.

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    Re: Feeling awkward to work with young colleagues

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am 35 years old and have recently started working with a small software firm. All my co workers are young 20 year old and I feel quite out of place. They are all very friendly and helpful but I feel very odd when they are discussing the latest techniques or lingo. Even if I try to learn I feel very awkward. What can I do to ease things a little.
    I can understand your problem but it is only you who can help yourself in such a situation..No one else can do anything about it but only you who can bring a change..Firstly you try to ease your awkwardness a little and try to get relief from it..Try to keep an open mind and dont think of yourself as older to your colleagues..Try to think you are of the same age group which will certainly make things better and easier for you plus making your stay better in your workplace..Try to mingle with your colleagues and just consider them as your colleaugues..You also try to learn their lingo by intermingling with them and think that you are inferior to them..

    I am sure they will be more than glad to be friends with you and also may learn a few things from your experience..I am sure as they are young bloods they will be hungry to learn anything new and thus will get a lot out of your friendship..So certainly you will also help them ..Dont think you will be a hindrance in their communications or talks..Just try to be friendly with them and you will see that your life will become much easier as a big burden will be removed from your shoulders and you will not have anything to wory about..

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