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    Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    I am working in a government organisation. Recently one of my colleagues wanted my help for a certain project. But I was so overburdened at that time that I could not help him. The boss scolded him for not doing the project well. Now I am really feeling guilty and ashamed of myself at that time. How to deal with this?

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    Re: Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    Dear,
    It is good to know about you helping nature.
    Listen friend in this case there is none of your fault so don't feel guilty.
    You are also overburdened then how can you help your friend, and as your nature seems to be very good from your words , i think that your friend will understand your problem.
    You just ask a simple sorry from your friend and tell him the reason, if he is also of good nature just like you,he will surely forgive you.

    Keep smiling.

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    Re: Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    Hi aspirant

    Its good that you have realised your mistake as many people don't even give a damn after committing a grave mistake. So this is certainly one of your good qualities. No one in this world is perfect and so everyone commits mistakes at some point in their life. Rather than regretting it, you should try to compensate for the same. You should try to make that colleague of yours feel good as he will be very depressed right now.

    Firstly you should go to your boss and tell him everything. Tell him that your colleague came to you for help as he was stuck at a certain point in his project. At that time you were so overburdened with work that you could not help him.So his project didn't go very well. You think that you too are partially responsible in his project not going well. He is very depressed right now and you want him to give him a few words of encouragement.

    Then you can go to your colleague and tell him everything and take him to your boss. I am sure that your boss will comply with your wishes and give him a few words of encouragement. You too can apologize to him for not helping him. Then i am sure that he will feel much better.

    Good luck and thanks

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    Re: Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    See it is good that you have a nature of helping your colleagues, but it is not your fault as you were overburdened with your own work.

    And this thing would also be felt by him when he asked you for the help. So the best thing is that you go and feel sorry for your inability to help him at time

    when he needed. Also make him clear that you were very busy due to which you were not able to help him.

    Until and unless you will clear and sort out things you will not be able to come out from this feeling. So just go to him and explain everything and what you

    feel for not helping him.

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    Re: Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    Dear Friend

    To help others is the best service to mankind .

    But do not feel ashamed as you were also overburdened with lots of work and if you had not completed the work on time there may be some chances that boss must have scolded you also.

    Sometimes we find ourself in such a situation that we want to help others but due to some present conditions we are unable to do.

    Say sorry to your colleague and he will surely forgive you .

    Hope the information helps as well as satisfies you .If you have any further query regarding this then please leave it here.

    All the best

    aashisranjan784

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    Re: Felling ashamed of my self for not helping one of my colleague

    Hi friend,

    I think it is good to know about you helping nature.
    Listen friend in this case there is none of your fault so don't feel guilty.
    You are also overburdened then how can you help your friend.
    As your nature seems to be very good from your words.
    I think that your friend will understand your problem.
    You just ask a simple sorry from your friend and tell him the reason.
    If he is also of good nature just like you,he will surely forgive you.

    Thanks!!!
    all the best............

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    Re: Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    Hello*******
    Dear User*******
    ++++++++++++Try this approach for this issue++++++++

    Why have you waited for such a long time. See this thing happens because of the delay from your side. If you keep on your relax then you will probably never get it. If your new company is not requiring it then also you should get it from your previous company as it will help you a lot in future. Its better to draft a mail to the HR of the company saying that you want your Experience letter in otherwise you will complain to the court against that company. I am sure they will respond only if you show some aggressiveness in your behavior otherwise they will keep on giving you a future date for your experience letter.


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    Re: Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    hello,
    dont get upset and be cool and calm and say your boss that it is your problem and you did a mistake and ask for permission and extend the date for the project,so that he may understands you and he will feel happy regarding the unity you show among yourselves.
    tell your coemployee not to worry and say him that it will be alright.
    thank you..............

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    Re: Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    Hi,

    It happens at times that you are not able to live up to the expectations of everyone close to you. You desire to be there all the time when your dear and near ones look up to you. However, my dear friend, you need to accept this fact that we human beings are not gifted with supernatural powers, and we have to be content with the limited energy and skills that we are gifted with. Situations and circumstances also keep us bound most of the times. So, do not worry, say a genuine sorry to your friend. Explain him clearly that you really wanted to help him but you were overburdened at that moment. Also, go out with him and enjoy a good dinner or lunch together, so that you guys could understand each other better.

    Thanks,
    Ritz

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    Re: Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    It is really ashamed moment for you and if there had been any other person at your place then he would have definitely felt same as you because this is the situation where you have only one choice because only a single part of the work can be done that is either help your colleague and he will get increment or care only for your own jobs and responsibilities so colleagues will take wrong thinking about you so this is very critical situation that can not be solved easily but do not worry because you are right at your place and your boss is also right at his place

    If you are feeling bad on that issue so you should go to your colleague who has been scolded by your boss on his work and talk to him about that project. First of all say sorry to him that you could not help him in that project because this is the situation when every employee should help him to take him out of the frustration and tensions because boss scolded so he will definitely take worries about his work that is not being praised by the management so you should go and make him understand that this happens in professional area and we have to tolerate everything because work is everything for the company so we have to learn more and give better performance to the boss so he will praise us one day because of our work

    You should also say that I could not help you because I was already having a lot of work that is not completed yet and I also need help but I was not in mood to ask for help because all colleagues are busy in their tasks but after completing my work and responsibilities of any project, I would help you in your other projects but only after getting free because you can understand that everyone have to provide good work and performance on right time then only we get paid so I would say that you should try to keep in touch with our seniors and also ask from boss about the project and they will definitely help you out in this situation. Project is important so boss will guide you at every stage and do not hesitate in going to the boss for help and if they suggest then your project may be very good and you will learn various techniques to apply in projects

    All the best

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    Re: Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    sir,
    it is very good to see a person like you now a days people are not bothering about the neighbouring persons.But you are thinking about your colleague.as you have lot of work when he asked you the help you cannot help him but now help him for the next project so that he can do better that project and he can get rewards from the boss.so that you can feel better.If you work in a institute you can help a person who is in need of help and when you are need he will help you.
    all the best
    thank you

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    Re: Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    hi,
    friend i really appreciate you positive nature for you colleagues.but at workplace your work is important,if you were overburdened, than its just a coincidence that your colleague asking for help at that time.there is nothing to feel guilty since you had your own business to deal with.if your friend is also good heated like you ,he will surely understand this.you carry yourself with the same behavior as you used to be with him.and try not to miss any other chance of helping or supporting him next time.this will help you in gaining his confidence back.

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    Re: Feeling ashamed of myself for not helping one of my colleague

    It's very good you have realized the slip-up as numerous individuals don't possibly provide a really just after choosing your burial plot mistake. And so this is certainly your very good qualities. No-one these days is ideal and so all people commits blunders at some point in their particular life. Rather than lamenting it, try to compensate for this same. You should try to help make that colleague connected with the one you have feel happy when he will be quite frustrated right now.

    First of all you ought to see your supervisor and let him know everything. Inform him that your colleague reached an individual to get assist while he appeared to be trapped in a certain point in his / her project. During those times you had been thus overburdened having work that you could definitely not assist him.So his / her job didn't visit quite well. You're thinking that an individual will be somewhat in charge in their job definitely not planning well. He or she is quite frustrated currently and you desire him to be able to offer him a couple of text connected with encouragement.

    Then you can see your colleague and let him know all and carry him to the boss. I know that your supervisor will stick to the desires and offer him a couple of text connected with encouragement. An individual might atone to be able to him because of not assisting him. Then almost certainly that he will really feel a lot better.
    View this thing develops as a result of hesitate through your side. For those who persist in the chill out you'll likely in no way receive it. When your fresh firm is not needing it then as well you need to get it through your past firm when it assists a person plenty in future. It's preferable to draft your mailbox to the HR of your firm indicating you want the Encounter notice in or you will protest to be able to the legal court next to that company. I know they will act in response solely when you present a number of aggressiveness as part of your conduct normally people helps keep in giving you an upcoming night out for your practical experience letter.
    It takes place occasionally that you just are unable to surpass this objectives of everybody all-around you. You desire to always be generally there all the time once your cherished and close to kinds lookup to be able to you. However, my dear buddy, you need to take the following fact that most people individuals are not proficient having unnatural forces, and now we need to be content material using the reduced electrical power and knowledge that individuals will be proficient with. Circumstances and situations as well keep us sure many of the times. And so, don't trouble yourself, claim a proper remorseful to the friend. Reveal him definitely that you will want to assist him however you ended up being overburdened during this moment. As well, date him and luxuriate in an excellent supper as well as lunch break with each other, so that you men can comprehend one better.

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