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    Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    I am not at all a rigid boss. I give enough liberty to enjoy the personal life to employees. One of my new employee’s girl friend used to send him flowers every month which is creating gossips among other employees resulting to a bad office environment. I wanted to wash this of please give suggestions.

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    Dear guest,

    It is good to know that you aren't a strict boss and you let your employee have their personal space. Now that this has led you to a situation so that there is a bad environment in the office you can follow these simple steps.

    1. Stick posters around the office space which is against gossip.
    2. Posters that say that there is no wrong in having good personal space.
    3. You can even ask your HR to create a community for counselling your work force.

    I don't believe there is nothing wrong in one person getting flowers from his loved one till he can concentrate on his work... Its the gossips that deserve to be shut. The Lindsey of your employees isn't right... So I think a counselling or a talk by a resource person should help..

    Thank you...

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    Hello Sir...

    Being in a position of boss, you have every right to implement the rules and regulations... And most importantly discipline is one of the major most factor, every employee including boss must maintain it...

    * You should strictly pass the orders, avoiding which action should be taken instantly..

    * Giving liberty is not the mistake, but it should have certain limits..

    * As he is a new employee, he should be politely warned, avoiding which a severe action should be taken..

    ThanQ...

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am not at all a rigid boss. I give enough liberty to enjoy the personal life to employees. One of my new employee’s girl friend used to send him flowers every month which is creating gossips among other employees resulting to a bad office environment. I wanted to wash this of please give suggestions.

    Dear Aspirant,

    Congratulations for being a kind & practical boss.It is good to be so,but at the same time,you must think for progress of your office/company where you are working now.

    Nothing is possible without love & affection among others & there is no word to explain the situation when love is going on between boyfriend & girl friend.But there should be some restriction in office.In this connection,you should call the concerned employee to your cabin/chamber & try to convince when he is alone with you.He should ask his girlfriend not to send flower to his office address,because of its side effects being developed in the office.

    Hope the concerned employee will be convinced & the incidents may not be continued.If not you can issue a show cause letter & there after a warning letter to the concerned employee.

    Hope there will be a drastic change & free from the incidents.

    Thanks & good luck.

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    It is good to see that you don't want to use your power unnecessarily and do care for others feeling. But in this case it would be better that you stop

    it in the initial state so that it won't become a problem for you in future. Such things actually effects the working environment and discipline of the

    office and it is your duty to have a control on it. So it would be better that you call the employee and talk to him about this matter. As he is a fresher

    he also need to know that such things do effects the working environment of the office as it becomes a topic for gossips. It is not necessary that you

    talk to him in a strict manner, as he is a new employee you can talk to him in a light way and tell him that as a boss you can't allow such things in

    the office as these things creates unnecessary disturbances in the office and it might be possible that by seeing him others also start doing things

    ultimately effecting the discipline of the office.

    You can also tell him that as due to such things he becomes the reason for causing disturbances in the office, these things puts a negative

    impression of him regarding his seriousness to the work in the office. So tell him to ask his girlfriend not to parcel any thing in the office as these are

    there personal matters so if she wants than she should send it to his house.

    Also tell him that as you don't want to make any issue of it in front of his colleagues that is why you are talking to him separately or you could have

    passed a circular instructing all the colleagues that such things are not tolerable. This will make him realize his mistake and will also show your

    sensibility in handling the situation.

    Make sure that such things are not repeated in future by giving him slight warning that in future this can be reason for any strict actions against

    him.

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    Dear sir I have seen your statement you mentioned here one of your employee receive flowers' from his girld friend every month , as a office boss you give enough liberty to your employee but this incident you do not like
    it is hampering office environment,accordingly you need suggestions to stop it.

    Dear sir, indeed you view and my view regarding this issue is same.To stop this you can call him to your chamber
    and ask him about the issue very gently that I am not opposing your love affair but if your Girl lover during the office hour disturb office environment then it is very bad for office employee as well as customer.So my request and I advise you restict your lover not to offer flower during the time of office hour she can offer this beyond the time of office hour or outside office.I think it is not a serious issue if you tell the fello employee he will understand
    the issue and stop this usage promptly.

    Thank You,

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am not at all a rigid boss. I give enough liberty to enjoy the personal life to employees. One of my new employee’s girl friend used to send him flowers every month which is creating gossips among other employees resulting to a bad office environment. I wanted to wash this of please give suggestions.
    Hello Aspirant,

    It is very good to know that you are a kind boss & don't want to harass any one.The person who has been harassed by others in their earlier life,are generally more strict than others.It seems you were very obedient,punctual & efficient in yourself in your life,that is why you had been treated well by all,which made you so kind.

    Now you are a more responsible person & have to take care of yourself along with your official & family problems,so be kind but have some soft principles of controlling wrong things.

    At present your problem is not a big one.Ask the concerned employee to get stopped the things going on in the campus.Let him say to his girl friend not to send any gift or flower to him to his office address.It is his personal matter & should not be allowed to make it official.Warn him,if it is not stopped with immediate effect,be ready to face its consequences.

    Now if the situations still is same,issue a show cause letter to the concerned employee stating the same .Depending upon his reply,take action either transferring him to some other unit or with held his annual increment etc.But I don't think this situation will arise.He may be careful after receiving oral warning from you.

    Thanks.

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    Hi friend
    Not what you have to do is that please tell to the employee that by doing this type thing are never accept in my office say to her that this is a office not an hang out place. Due to this types of gifts and flowers which is send by your girlfriend are making a gossip story in the office and the other worker are also making a gossips on this thing and as a result the environment of the office are also down day by day .so finally it’s my humble request to you that in future please don’t repeat this types of mistake otherwise I have to taken a necessary step on this matter.
    Said all this thing to the employee I am sure he will never repeat his mistake.
    Thanking you hope you like my suggestion

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    Re: Employee's girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    Hi friend..........

    I think It is good to know that you aren't a strict boss and you let your employee have their personal space.
    Now that this has led you to a situation so that there is a bad environment in the office you can follow these simple steps.

    1. Stick posters around the office space which is against gossip.
    2. Posters that say that there is no wrong in having good personal space.
    3. You can even ask your HR to create a community for counselling your work force.

    I don't believe there is nothing wrong in one person getting flowers from his loved one till he can concentrate on his work.
    Its the gossips that deserve to be shut. The Lindsey of your employees isn't right.
    So I think a counselling or a talk by a resource person should help.

    Thanks!!!
    ALL THE BEST................

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    respected sir, its very good and great that your a good nature boss because you care for privacy,freedom,liberty to your employees so that you can create a tension free environment..too much of liberty and freedom is dangerous because its very important that you always control your employees and maintain discipline at work.. sending gifts on special occasions to any employee by their friends is acceptable but every month this is very stupid and ill mannered this shows how you behave in office.. office is not home that you behave like anything there must be some rules... sir as a head of the company take some strong action warn that particular employee to behave or else he must be thrown out of the company..he needs to learn office manners,and also don't give extra freedom this will always give over advantage upon you ....call for a meeting and set some rules who ever breaks will be strictly punished.....

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    Hi aspirant

    You should definitely do something in this regard as this type of gossiping is definitely not good for your employees as they will never be able to concentrate fully on their work and this will never do their best for your company. So it is not good for the progress of your company as well. You may not be a strict boss but you should definitely take appropriate measures to do away with such kind of lame gossip.

    The best way to deal with this would be to make an announcement so that all your employees take notice. Tell them that you have been noticing that a lot of gossip is being entertained by all of them. This is resulting in a bad office environment. If you haven't been strict with them and have given them some liberties, it does not mean that they will take undue advantage of this. You hope that this will not be repeated in future otherwise the culprits will definitely be punished.

    I am sure your employees will never dare to indulge in such gossip again. Good luck

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    Hello, Firstly office is not the correct place to send flowers or gifts to one's boyfriend.This man can have a girlfriend in his personal life,but dragging it to professional life is not acceptable at all.A general order can be passed for all that no personal issues will be accepted within office premises.After passing such order,this man will ask her girlfriend to stop sending gifts to office and the situation will be under control.Any other employee will also think twice before doing anything like that.Anybody violating the order would be penalised .

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    hey,
    This is affecting the decorum and the discipline in your office. Ask your employees to keep their relationships aside while working the office. Sending gifts and flowers are okay if sent once in a blue moon, but not daily. There should be no chaos in the office because of such issues. Ask Your employees to help maintaining the discipline in the office by keeping their personal relationship aside while working there as there are many other people working there too and such activities may grab their attention and disturb them while working.

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    Sir,

    First point out and note all the issues like this.
    Then made a notice to all employes about Do's and dont's in office environment.
    Then also suggest the person to avoid these types gifties in office environment and explain the things going around him.......
    Also warn him in polite way that liberty is given to enjoy work with life and won't bear these type of things which create bad environment.

    Hope you may understand.........

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    friend,

    -you said you are giving enough freedom

    but the point you should note is that once freedom should not hurt others and also disturb others

    employees girlfriend sends gifts to him so gossips will be common

    say the employees that one should not involve in others personal matters

    hr should take care of this issues

    it will obviously spoil the work place and the mind so you can not scold the person who is getting the gifts because you should note whether he is doing the work perfectly and sincerely or not

    cheers honey

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    Re: Employee’s girlfriend sends him gifts and flowers very often in office which is creating gossip mongers

    Very little is possible without the need of like & fondness while others & there isn't a concept to go into detail the circumstance if like is occurring concerning partner & female friend.But there ought to be many limitation throughout office.In this specific link,you must telephone the actual anxious staff member in your cabin/chamber & try to tell when he is usually by itself with you.He really should question her lover to not mail floral in order to her office deal with,simply because of its adverse reactions currently being coded in the actual office.

    Wish the actual anxious staff member will be certain & the actual accidents may not be continued.If certainly not you'll be able to issue any present cause notice & following that a warning notice towards the anxious employee.
    I have seen your current report you stated in this article one of your staff member get blossoms'by her girld close friend monthly , to be a office boss you provide adequate freedom in your staff member but this specific automobile accident you loathe
    it truly is hampering place of work,consequently you'll need ideas to avoid it.

    Without a doubt you look at and also the look at pertaining to this specific concern is same.To cease this specific you'll be able to call hime constantly in your slot provided and also talk about about the issue quite delicately that will Practical goal other your current love affair yet, if your Female enthusiast while in work hours disturb office environment then it is very dangerous to office staff member as well as customer.So the obtain and also My spouse and i counsel you restict your current enthusiast certainly not to supply floral during office hours your lover can offer this specific at night time of office hours or outside office.I understand that it is certainly not a serious issue if you tell the actual fello staff member he will understand the issue preventing this specific use promptly.
    Presently your problem isn't a big one.Ask the actual anxious staff member to acquire quit the points occurring inside the campus.Let them tell her girl friend to not mail just about any gift as well as floral in order to them in order to her office address.It is usually her private make a difference & must not be permitted to allow it to be official.Warn them,when not quit with fast impact,anticipate to encounter their consequences.

    Now if the actual cases 's still exact same,issue any present cause notice towards the anxious staff member expressing precisely the same .Depending with her answer,act often transferring them in order to a few other component as well as with used her annual increment etc.But My spouse and i don't believe this case can arise.He might take care soon after having mouth notice by you.

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