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    Coworker gets disturbed when I take help from my relative in the office

    I am an employee in a private software company. One of my relative also work in the same company at a higher post. I often tke help from y relative when I face difficulties in my work. There are few co-workers of mine who get disturbed and gossip negative things about this. What should I do to get rid of this situation?

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    Re: Coworker gets disturbed when I take help from my relative in the office

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am an employee in a private software company. One of my relative also work in the same company at a higher post. I often tke help from y relative when I face difficulties in my work. There are few co-workers of mine who get disturbed and gossip negative things about this. What should I do to get rid of this situation?
    Dear Aspirant,

    It is very common problem & matter to face such situations.You need not worry.It is your good time that you have got one relative at higher post in the same company whre you are working & your relative is also kind that he helps you in your need.Let others gossip.Do your duty well & if others comment on it,just don't care for this,because if some one were at your place,you would have also joined others & gossiped about others.

    You can understand it as follows.See the opposition criticises on each & every policy of the ruling party,but the ruling party does not care for it.Here what is needed is that you must develop ability to work well independently & it is nothing wrong in getting help from your relative.The intelligent persons come nearer to others by making them to feel own by introducing caste,locality & showing relative of some VIP.

    So least bother for others gossip.

    Thanks & good luck.

    Ashok..

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    Re: Coworker gets disturbed when I take help from my relative in the office

    Dear you can never get rid of this situation because it happens everywhere and for your kind information that you should let it go because they have made a mentality in their mind about the work and most of the peoples are really worried about this situation and when you are taking help of your senior employee then they should not have any problem about this but they makes fun of you which is not acceptable for any candidate in office premises but i would only like to say that you should try to avoid this situation because if you wish to remove this, you can not because you may not change the mentality of those candidates who thinks really wrong about you and let them think whatever they want and you should concentrate on your working performance and try to provide your best to the office premises and your company and you must take help of your relative because when you take the help so all those feels jealous from you so that you should bring the best help in your work and complete support so that you could get reward and promotion in your company and if you will think only about them then you will loose your working performance in the company and this will affect your career growth

    All the best

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    Re: Coworker gets disturbed when I take help from my relative in the office


    Dear guest,
    It is a good thing that you have a relative in your office who will help you when you need help. It is not a shame to ask help from your superiors when you need it. But your problem is that the superior is your relative. This actually depends upon your nature of the problem. To ease up the pressure you can do this.
    1. Talk to your relative about this.
    2. You can always decide to do things on your own or sought the help of your relative while not at office and in the absence of your co workers.
    3. Ask the co workers to clear their doubts and problems with your superiors.

    Thank you..





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    Re: Coworker gets disturbed when I take help from my relative in the office

    Dear Friend,
    Itís a world of nonsense talk, and not worry about that the other people talking on the back of you and makes fun of all this. If you are asking to someone even to your relative it is not a bad habit. Be clear about any doubt and ask even to those people who make fun of you. Keep learning. In spiritual way I want to tell you that no one can make fun of any one. It is the thoughtful exercise between an accepter and a receiver.
    All the best.

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    Re: Coworker gets disturbed when I take help from my relative in the office

    Hi aspirant

    I don't think your co-workers should have any problem if you take help from your relative in case of difficulties. You have the privilege of having your relative at a higher post in the same company as you and so should definitely make full use of it and not shy away from doing so just because some of your jealous colleagues are passing negative comments about you. You should definitely talk to them regarding this and thus sort this matter out.

    Tell them that when you talk to your relative regarding your difficulties , you have often noticed that they tend to get disturbed and thus pass negative comments about you. You want to know what is their problem with you and you hope they immediately stop such childish and immature behaviour otherwise you would be forced to report this to your manager which won't be good for their reputation. You hope you have made everything clear to them.

    I am sure your co-workers will get afraid and will stop passing negative comments on you. All the best

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    Re: Coworker gets disturbed when I take help from my relative in the office

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am an employee in a private software company. One of my relative also work in the same company at a higher post. I often tke help from y relative when I face difficulties in my work. There are few co-workers of mine who get disturbed and gossip negative things about this. What should I do to get rid of this situation?
    First you need to understand that gossip is just a "time pass funda" so everyone do that for time pass and fun so never pay attention on that..have concentration in your work only.(because if u'll think what other thinks then what will other people think" )
    and you can try this also:
    -try to solve your problem yourself without help of your relative.
    -don't talk with your relative until you don't really need.
    -try not to ask your problem before others.
    see your co-workers are gossiping due to their jealousy because you have someone to solve your problems but they don't have so just be honest in your work without paying attention on others gossipings.

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    Re: Coworker gets disturbed when I take help from my relative in the office

    Hello there !!!

    let them do what they are doing.
    don't pay attention to those peoples who always talk rubbish and gossip about you.
    this is not going to benefit you and also to him.
    so, let them do.
    since, you are not disturbing your colleagues than no matter what you are doing.
    since your work is get done no matter how it is done. ok??

    so, try to ignore them not to pay attention to them.
    this is the best way to get rid from them.

    hope i am clear to you.
    thanks for posting in EALP.
    pushp ranjan singh

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    Re: Coworker gets disturbed when I take help from my relative in the office

    hello,
    this is very good think that there is some one who listens your voice when you are in trouble.
    you should not worry about what other people gossips about you.
    rather you should have confidence and feel proud that your problem is being solved and you have someone to take care of you.
    others just need some topic to talk about. just imagine that do they have enough time to think for you only. the day is not so far when they will ask you for some favor and at that time all negativity about you in them will turn to positivity.

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    Re: Coworker gets disturbed when I take help from my relative in the office

    It is quite common drawback & pertain face such things.You need not worry.It is your blast that you just have gotten one relative at higher post within the same company whre you're operating & your relative is additionally kind that he helps you in your would like.Let others gossip.Do your duty well & if others inquire into it,just do not take care of this,because if some one were at your house,you would have additionally joined others & gossiped regarding others.

    You'll be able to know it as follows.See the opposition criticises on every & each policy of the ruling party,but the ruling party doesn't take care of it.Here what's required is that you just should develop ability to figure well severally & it's nothing wrong in obtaining facilitate from your relative.The intelligent persons come back nearer to others by creating them to feel own by introducing caste,locality & showing relative of some high muckamuck.

    Dear you'll be able to ne'er get eliminate this example as a result of it happens everyplace and for your kind info that you just ought to let it go as a result of they need created a mentality in their mind regarding the work and most of the peoples ar very disturbed regarding this example and once you ar taking facilitate of your senior worker then {they ought to|they ought to|they must} not have any drawback regarding this however they makes fun of you which ones isn't acceptable for any candidate in workplace premises however i might solely prefer to say that you just should try and avoid this example as a result of if you want to get rid of this, you'll be able to not as a result of you will not amendment the mentality of these candidates UN agency assumes very wrong regarding you and allow them to assume no matter they need and you must {concentrate on|consider|think regarding|focus on|target} your operating performance and take a look at to produce your best to the workplace premises and your company and you need to take facilitate of your relative as a result of once you take {the facilitate|the assistance} thus all those feels jealous from you in order that you must bring the most effective help in your work and complete support in order that you'll get reward and promotion in your company and if you may think solely about them then you may loose your operating performance within the company and this may have an effect on your career growth.

    I don't assume your co-workers ought to have any drawback if you are taking facilitate from your relative just in case of difficulties. you've got the privilege of getting your relative at a better post within the same company as you {and thus|then|so|and then} ought to positively fill use of it and not withdraw from doing so simply because a number of your jealous colleagues ar passing negative comments regarding you.

    You must positively see them relating to this and therefore type this matter out.

    Tell them that once you see your relative relating to your difficulties , you've got usually noticed that they have a tendency to urge disturbed and therefore pass negative comments regarding you. you wish to grasp what's their drawback with you and you hope they instantly stop such infantile and immature behaviour otherwise you'd be forced to report this to your manager that will not be smart for his or her name.
    You hope you've got created everything clear to them.

    I'm certain your co-workers can get afraid and can stop passing negative comments on you.

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