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    Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    I am working in a software company. We have many officials parties and all the employees are required to attend them. I am not the kind of person who drinks and smokes but some of close friends are always forcing me to drink during these parties. I always refuse them but they never listen. How to deal with such a situation ?

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    Re: Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    I think that u can very easily deal with such a situation just tell your friends not to force you and even if they then explain then in a very polite manner that they are hurting you and this may effect your friendship. Make them realise that their deed is not appreciable.

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    Hi aspirant

    I think that you should always stand by your principles no matter what. You should never accept your friend's request to drink and smoke if you are against this. You also know that drinking and smoking are not good for our health and so you should not indulge in such things even when your friends force you. Its good that you have always refused them whenever they have asked you to do so and thus have not sacrificed your principles. In future also you should do the same thing.

    When the next time they ask you to do such a thing, you tell them staright to their faces that you have told them so many times that you don't like to drink or smoke as it is very bad for our health and also shortens our life span. So its better that the next time they don't force you to do so. And they too should stop such habits and not indulge in such things as they are not good for anyone. They should never force anyone to smoke or drink as it is not a good habit.

    I am sure the next time they will not dare to force you again for such a thing. Good luck

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    hi
    this is the problem at many places these days because most of the employees do consume the alcohol during the parties and they insist the people who donít take it, but donít worry, if they do so, you kep refusing them and once if they handover the glass to you, take the glass and touch it to your lips and then give it back. By this way there wont be any hard feelings for the other collegeus too

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    Re: Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    Hello,

    You must be bold and get angry on them if they force you to drink.
    You should not drink at all if you do not like.
    This is one of the good habit you have in yourself.
    People are like that they want others to drink with them.

    You can also talk to your boss about the matter.
    Tell him that colleagues are forcing to drink even if you refuse.
    Ask him whether you can quit official parties or not.
    At least sometimes you can quit going to such parties.
    Make some excuse during the party time and walk away.
    You can attend the party for some time to show your boss.
    After a while just leave the party by concerning to your boss.
    This will help you out to stay away from drinking.


    Or you can just pretend sometimes that you are drinking.
    But it may sometimes be bring in trouble so better follow above points.
    Goodluck

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    Try not to attend the parties by saying some excuses which i do.
    Even i gets the same situation every month.Always i try to say some story when they called , so, atleast they understood the situation and asked me just to come and sit .
    Even same thing may happen to you also, try to avoid them as much as possible during the part times.
    Act according to the same situation.

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    Re: Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    hello friend

    these are the problem faced by many of us,i think that this is not the big deal and one can easily deal with it.

    you should talk to your friends in the polite manner if they don't agree then you may make any accuse that you have promised your old mother that you won't drink and smoke or any other accuse.

    i understand that situation when friends don't listen to any accuse as they are not in their consciousness so at that time you can just take the glass and touch to your lips and leave the glass.

    you may also be strict to the situation and without hesitating say no to the alcohol.

    all the best
    thank you.

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    Re: Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    Hello Friend,

    Well, your colleagues have no right to force you to drink during the official partices. They shoould learn to respact individual choice and freedom. In our society every individual has their own respective taste and preference. Some like to drink and some don't and that does not mean that the person is not social, it means the person is different. If you are asked to drink you should tell your collegues that you are not interested in drinking and they should respect that. You can always take soft drinks, tea, coffee etc ta any time. If your ethics don't permit you to drink then don't drink. Be yourself.

    Bye,

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    Re: Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    hello..

    first i appreciate your goodness character.because nowadays these type of persons are very low..

    these type of parties are very usual thing.because they share the company feelings.

    you can say them in soft manner if they are not ready to listen then you can avoid them in temporarily in the party hall.

    if they are your close friends means,you can ask every time don't drink and smoke before they saying to you..

    this technique is really useful to change them to your friends.if you try to change your friends mood they will never ask you to drink or smoke..if come to that time they will run away because of the fear..

    don't fear to your friends about they behave this way.you can't say in bold manner because they are your close friends.rather than you can exchange your thoughts frequently about drinking. so many good matter is there..

    otherwise they will change your mind and you will learn to drink.

    thank you.



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    Re: Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    Hello friend..,

    It is really impressive that you want to abide by your principles. You will face circumstances like this when you are forced to do things which you don't like. You carry on with your aim, tell them that you are not interested.And of course these things are not good for health. So they should be avoided. Once an interest is developed then it can turn to be dangerous.
    If not directly , then you may indirectly convince them by saying that the intake of alcohol does not suit your health. You develop uneasiness and you want to take some other alternative. Slowly and slowly they will stop forcing you. This will not hurt their feelings and you will abide by your principles.

    Thank you.

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    Re: Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a software company. We have many officials parties and all the employees are required to attend them. I am not the kind of person who drinks and smokes but some of close friends are always forcing me to drink during these parties. I always refuse them but they never listen. How to deal with such a situation ?
    Hello Aspirant,

    It is your good thinking not to drink alcohol.It is not necessary to eat & drink all things by all persons.You can say many things to your friends in order to not to have alcohol in parties or elsewhere.You can pretend by saying that "I have allergy with its smell & If I drink,I can not digest it ,so the doctor has advised me not to take alcohol at all.

    So excuse me for not accompanying for taking alcohol.I can accompany you even for watching movie & doing other works.Even if they don't listen to you,you be away from the party by pretending the need of my family/parents etc.

    Hope you will find the solution.

    Good luck.

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    Dear friendship is at its place and personal is always personal which is not shared with anyone that is why first of all you should become strict about your personal rules and principles because until you will make yourself strict then everyone will try to interfere and force you for something that would be unavoidable for you in each circumstance so think about your person first and make it sure that you will not let anyone interfere in that and if anyone try to do that then you will behave strictly because if someone trying to force your for a limit then we can understand but if someone crossing the limit of forcing other one then you should not be more close with him otherwise he can create problems for you any time

    When you go to attend parties then try to talk your friends as less as possible because more discussion then more pressure over only one thing which will make you like them a day and try to be more with senior employees and boss and listen them and if your friends will see you then they will not call you because you will be with your boss or senior employees and if they call then go to them can just say sorry to all that you do not drink and do not want to be in this situation as you are and if they force then start being strict and they will give you drink then you should keep that and leave that place for sometime and I am sure that your friends will come to you to ask the reason then say to everyone that I want to make one thing clear that I do not drink and I will never drink in my life and this is my principle and I am not interested in friendship with that person who force me to enter in these activities because I do not like so they will understand and never force you for the same again

    All the best

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    Re: Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    I do think that you can usually uphold your current ideas no matter what. You shouldn't take your current buddy's inquire for you to sip in addition to smoke should you be versus this. Moreover, you may be aware that ingesting in addition to tobacco are generally law our overall health and for that reason you must not have pleasure in things like this even when your friends drive you. The great that you have got usually declined all of them every time they have questioned you to accomplish this and so didn't given up your current principles. Later on likewise for you to do precisely the same thing.

    Whenever the next occasion they will have you conduct such a thing, you know all of them staright to their looks that you have got said excitedly so many times you do not want to sip and also smoke since it is very bad for our overall health and even reduces the length of our own daily life span. Consequently it has the far better in which the next occasion they just don't force you to conduct so. Along with they also need to quit this kind of behavior and not have pleasure in items like they're not great for anyone. They shouldn't ever drive someone to smoke and also sip since it is season habit.
    The co-workers do not have straight to force you to sip throughout the formal partices. They shoould learn how to respact specific alternative in addition to freedom. In our society each features their unique specific taste in addition to preference. Several want to sip and some will not in addition to that doesn't imply whomever is not cultural, this means whomever is actually different. If you are inspired to sip you ought to tell your collegues that you're not serious about ingesting they usually need to admire that. You are able to acquire carbonated drinks, their tea, gourmet coffee etcetera ta any kind of time. But if your ethics will not enable you to sip and then will not drink. Be yourself.
    You may be along with your manager and also senior citizen personnel in addition to when they call then go for many years can certainly just simply declare apologies for all you don't sip in addition to should not be in this situation while in addition to when they drive and then commence becoming stringent and they're going to supply you with sip then you need to keep that product go away in which position for sometimes in addition to I know your good friends is going to come your way ought to the reason why and then say to anyone in which We want to make the one thing crystal clear in which I do not sip in addition to I am going to certainly not sip within gaming in addition to it is my own concept in addition to I am not serious about friendly relationship using that person exactly who drive everyone to enter of these exercises mainly because I do not such as and so they should fully grasp rather than drive you for the similar again.

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    Re: Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    Re: Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    Hi friends,

    I think you should not to attend the parties by saying some excuses which i do.
    Even i gets the same situation every month.
    Always i try to say some story when they called , so, at least they understood the situation and asked me just to come and sit .

    Even same thing may happen to you also, try to avoid them as much as possible during the part times.
    Act according to the same situation.

    Thanks!!!
    all the best........................

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    Re: Colleagues forcing me to drink during official parties

    there are some principles and ethics for person and a principled person should never go against his principles and ethics.. official parties are filled with alcohol it doesn't mean that you give company by drinking so as to match status or put an formality and give a dialogue that its common in the official parties its not the way you behave i don't say drinking is bad and i don't want to really comment on what is good and how to behave in official parties whether you ignore drinking its all a personal decision .. but the case of yours is totally different you are not used to drinking and your nature is sincerely not for smoking and drinking now these many years you have been following some rules and some decision that you won't drink then you must continue through your life.. unnatural things never exits in life when you are not habituated to drinking then never go near it you should never change your habits your ethics.. drinking in official parties is not a formal thing to do but it becomes a habit.. habits are sometimes so dangerous for a particular person who is not having a control and to a person who is newly addicted to it by forcing or by influence of others.. the decision you take should never be under influence when there is no for drinking say it a NO but you cannot change yourself for the sake of your friends no matter who close they are to you..

    now why is that your close friends so much interested to make you drink don't you think they also want to make you addicted to drinking are they helping you certainly not refuse their offer try to put a soft drink in glass like coke and make your friends a favor by accompanying them with soft drink if their motto is only to give them company then do it not more than that.. sometimes i do feel you should give official parties a miss by citing some issues not all parties but do find some alternatives by escaping from situation... its you that you clearly tell your friends that you cannot change your habits habits of addiction type is not good... even when they force then you politely calm manner refuse it by saying that your health will not cooperate if you drink some times fabricate a story sometimes to protect your principles you should lie.. all the best

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