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    Colleague offering to drop me home after office hours but I know that he likes me so donít want to go with him

    I am working with a private organization. One young colleague of mine likes me and I hjave come to know this through another colleague. This colleague of mine offers to drop me home after office but I do not want to go with him. Please suggest the most polite way to refuse.

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    Re: Colleague offering to drop me home after office hours but I know that he likes me so donít want to go with him

    Hi,

    Such cases are common in office.
    But if you do not want to go with that colleague than just refuse.
    First refuse him politely and if he doesn't force you then okay.

    And if he insist you too much then you must refuse him and do not go with him.
    If you do not like that colleague the way he likes you,
    then you must stop talking to him.
    And if you continue talking to him then he may think that you also like him.

    Start making distance with him.
    Stop smiling to him and do not even look at him.
    And then he will not ask you to drop home.

    And if you do not wish to hurt him then it is your choice.
    Just say no that you cannot go home with him because your family is very strict.
    He will surely understand.

    Thankyou

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    Re: Colleague offering to drop me home after office hours but I know that he likes me so donít want to go with him

    Dear,
    The best way is that you should tell him that you does not like to go with him, why you should keep him in dark.
    Tell him when you will realise it fit to go with him you will go with him till then he should not force you to go with him.
    If that person is wise and cultured he will take this response as a positive one.

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    Re: Colleague offering to drop me home after office hours but I know that he likes me so donít want to go with him

    The point is to you madam that do you like him? Or that you want to keep him out of your personal life.. These questions should be answered to your self and be clear to yourself firstly before to take any step further.. When you came to know from your colleague about his liking towards you its up to you how you react and its important that you should clear the air before some one comments any thing about your behavior.. Some people like us personally whether it might be love or respect towards any other individual.. We cannot come to conclusions about the relationships.. Now you should personally meet him on weekend and know what actually he wants from you know what he is thinking about you personally.. You should know others feelings and emotions.. After knowing his intentions and feeling then decision making is in your hands..

    Generally there are people who tend to develop liking towards others without your knowledge now this an serious matter you cannot let others develop liking towards you with your knowledge or without telling you what he thinks.. You should not play games with emotions and relationships.. Now this is very immature words from you i am sorry to tell you that you have said that he likes you and you have also said that he is offering you drop from office.. Your say is that you don't want to go .. What actually you want is there any conclusion or mind set that you have upon him you should make things clear whether yes or no don't be in two ways be one sided double talk and 2-way mentality will make things complicated to you mind it you should always have the tendency of knowing what is what? I mean don't drag the relationship further if you don't like you can say that droping me is small issue but this is certainly not the buck doesn't stop here he will tell you that he likes me then don't know how you respond to him if you will not tell what is in you mind then it would be difficult..

    These days you should not let emotions and feelings get to you and others people react in different way if you don't make full stop to others but the case is different if you like him tell your parents convince them make your feelings public and proceed it would be bad that you you go daily with him with creating misunderstanding among your self.. All the best for your career and life..

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    Re: Colleague offering to drop me home after office hours but I know that he likes me so donít want to go with him

    Hi, If you are not interested to be in the company of the colleague of yours, do not worry, no one can force you. Wear a smile and using some sugar coated words, explain him that your parents or family members might not like you going with him. Also, using the skill of diplomacy, tell him that you would not want him to take much troubles because of you, rather you would prefer going on your own. At times, try going out either a bit late or a bit early, so that you can avoid his timings of leaving the office premises. Once you would avoid him a couple of times, if he is a decent guy, I am sure he would get the message that you are not interested in his company and might stop bothering you. However, dear, if he still insists and force you to join him, then you need to be conscious and complain about him to your higher authority so that you do not have to face any sort of troubles because of him in the near future. Also, do not mingle with him a lot in the office and maintain an arms length with the guy. Thanks.

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    Re: Colleague offering to drop me home after office hours but I know that he likes me so donít want to go with him

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working with a private organization. One young colleague of mine likes me and I hjave come to know this through another colleague. This colleague of mine offers to drop me home after office but I do not want to go with him. Please suggest the most polite way to refuse.
    Hello Aspirant,

    It is your good thinking not to take lift of your colleague otherwise intimacy will develop & result may be different that you know very well.If you too are interested to develop,it is nothing wrong to develop the friendship.But it all depends upon your aim & opinion.

    The simplest way to refuse his lift to say that I would feel free to go alone to my home & as per my parents' guidance I can not accept your offer to go home with you.So kindly don't mind for it.We are like brother & sister & we will continue to be the same.

    Hope your colleague will be in his limit.

    Thanks.

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    Re: Colleague offering to drop me home after office hours but I know that he likes me so donít want to go with him

    Its not a bad thing to make a freindship with any person but before doing that you need to make some thing clear that you are only doing the freindship and not more than that, so tell him that never expect anything apart from friendship.
    If he proposes you then speak in a gentle way that you dont want to involve yourself in these things because you only need to concentrate on your work and also one thing you can say that you are already in relationship and soon you will get married , so after that he will not try to do those attempts because he will get the red signal and after that he will be stopped.
    If he want to make it like a freindship then its fine because nothing bad in that.
    You will also get the conviyance for going to home free of cost.
    Never try to ignore directly because it creates some wrong things in the mind of the person who is following you, so never do this directly because he might take that in wrong way, so always play safe.
    Best way in these kind of matter is to be transparent because once you clear all the things then there will be nothing wrong will happen with you.
    If you dont want that he will stick around you then simply say no to him wheter he take that positively or negatively, but after that he will forget you and go ahead in the life.

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    Re: Colleague offering to drop me home after office hours but I know that he likes me so donít want to go with him

    Hello,

    Well, this thing common in work place. There should be a bond of trust and friendship between colleagues in an organization. If you are not interested to take his offer then it would be much better fro you to directly tell him about that. Sometimes it is much better to clear out stance otherwise some misunderstanding can cause serious damage to the cordial relationship between you two.

    Liking a female colleague at work place is not a crime. The question is wheather you like him or not. If the answer is no then the case is closed otherwise you should consider his proposal in a more serious way. You are not the only female employee in a situation like this, there are many more in our society. So, don't worry you can sort out the situation.

    Bye,

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    Re: Colleague offering to drop me home after office hours but I know that he likes me so donít want to go with him

    The thing is to your account madam who do you like the pup? And also that you like to hold the pup through your particular life.. These kinds of inquiries must be clarified so that you can by yourself and stay crystal clear so that you can yourself for starters before to take any kind of action further.. While you reached realize through your friend in relation to his or her liking nearer their for you to decide how you will react and it is crucial that you really should pay off the surroundings before somebody reviews whatever concerning your behavior.. Many people including us all personally if it will be adore or value towards another individual.. We cannot arrive at findings with regards to the relationships.. Today you should personally satisfy the pup upon end of the week as well as know what really he would like from there's more he could be contemplating you personally.. You should know people feelings as well as emotions.. Right after realizing his or her goals as well as emotion in that case selection is with your hands..

    Nowadays you should not make thoughts as well as feelings reach you and people folks react in numerous means if you can not generate 100 % halt to people although so is special if you want the pup tell your parents tell these folks generate your heartaches consumer as well as commence it would be undesirable which you going day-to-day having the pup having creating misunderstanding amongst your current self.. Best of luck for your occupation as well as life.
    If you are not serious for being in the company of your friend associated with your own property, do not, no one can power you. Use a smile and utilizing a few sugar coated words and phrases, demonstrate the pup which your parents or loved ones might not such as you going with him. Also, making use of the expertise associated with diplomacy, tell him which you wouldn't want the pup to take a great deal problems due to the fact of yourself, somewhat you would prefer proceeding with your own. Sometimes, test moving out touch delayed or perhaps a touch early, to help you stay away from his or her timings associated with making your place of work premises. As soon as you'll stay away from the pup a couple of times, in the event he could be a decent man, I know yet find the meaning that you aren't thinking about his or her organization and will quit bothering you. Nonetheless, pricey, in the event he continue to asserts as well as make you become a member of the pup, in that case you ought to be mindful as well as criticize in relation to the pup to your better recognition in order that there is no need to deal with any kind of problems owing to the pup inside in the vicinity of future. Also, will not mingle having the pup considerably at the job and observe after a good forearms duration using the guy.

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