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    Co-Workers taking advantage of me because I am shy person and do not like to confront others

    I am a really shy person and do not like confronting people. I am one of the few people who has a car in office and many of my co workers sometimes pool with me to the office. They do not pay me anything. Even i hesitate to ask them . Recently they have started this new trend of taking my car for long drives, telling me that they are just going for a local errand. Is there any way to solve the problem without confronting them?

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    bonomali Array
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    Re: Co-Workers taking advantage of me because I am shy person and do not like to confront others

    Hello,


    Well, there is no place for shyness in work place. You have to change your attitude otherwise your colleagues will take advantage of it and believe me it will go on forever. You should tell your colleagues that it is not possible for you to lend your car to tham from now on. You should also say that if you are interested in logn drive they should hire car from Car Rental. Please don't dive undue favour to your colleagues. You have to behave like a professional at work place and don't hesitate to say "No" to other's. This will give clear signal that you are not interested in their proposal.

    You have to change according to situation. Change is a constant thing and you should not afriad of it.

    Bye,

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    Re: Co-Workers taking advantage of me because I am shy person and do not like to confront others

    hi..

    this is a common issue in most of the working area..i understand your feelings..

    some of the peoples are doing this method of travel.they are not spending their own money for travel..

    they are your co workers only not your friends..so you can tell openly to them.please tomorrow onwards come to your own vehicle or bus,etc,.because i have some personal work in that time..

    you only responsible for your car.if you give to drive them then you will be on trouble..

    or you may loose your car permanently..be careful.this story was happened to my friend

    thank you.



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    Re: Co-Workers taking advantage of me because I am shy person and do not like to confront others

    Dear friend

    First you should know that shyness is the great harm for the social life.The root cause for shyness is fear. Fear is the basic reason for shyness. To avoid and overcome shyness, first thing you have to concentrate is fear.Please Do not under estimate yourself.When you're worried, tell yourself the truth.Your colleagues are taking advantage with regard to your weakness,and using your property comfortably for their personal use.Be confident and feel comfortable when you are telling to your colleagues about the problems you are facing.Express your feelings to your friends/colleages openly and tell them that your support and cooperation may not be extended.If they asks again tell them sorry and not to encourage at any moment.They automatically realise and stop asking for the things belongs to you for the unnecessary works.But dont try break the relations, you continue your relations with them as like as previous but in this particular aspect you should be alert and refuse them.Things will come to normal. All the best.

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    Re: Co-Workers taking advantage of me because I am shy person and do not like to confront others

    Dear,Every person has his or her own nature, but if we find that others are taking advantage of that then in my opinion we should little bit modify our attitude so as to come out from that problem.Thus i will suggest you to become open person so that no one could take advantage of you. Start avoiding them or try to make this or that excuses so that they may also understand.For instance you can ask them to check the fuel when they use your car, then surely they will hesitate to take your car.And i will advise you to become frank so that you can survive in this world.

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    Re: Co-Workers taking advantage of me because I am shy person and do not like to confront others

    Dear Friend

    First of all i would like to tell you one thing that this world is not a beautiful paradise. It is a place where if you bend down, people will make you bend even further. So that means that you need to be assertive. You need to be strong and you need to strongly express what you feel. After all its just the survival of the fittest.

    So firstly i recommend you that you start saying no to your co-workers whenever they ask for your car. What the most can happen? They might call you names, Say you are stingy, mock you, make fun of you or whatever. But that will be only for the short term. On the long run you will not have to give your car unless and until you are driving it; you can make this point clear. I am sure they will stop bothering you after sometime f you continue saying no.

    You don't have to be shy in this matter, after all it is your car and you are the owner. You say no, you save fuel and also your car and also your money and most importantly your pride.

    Hope this will help you.

    Good Luck....

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