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    Co-worker coming every now and then for help thereby disturbing me

    I am an employee in a multinational company and there is high work pressure. I am facing problem because of my co-worker who comes to me every now and then to seek help in his work,thereby disturbing me. What should I do to handle this situation?

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    Re: Co-worker coming every now and then for help thereby disturbing me

    helping others is very good think but disturbing every time for each and every thing is not acceptable.. Human tendency is if your so generous and helpful then they take advantage of you they take you for granted so its very easy for them to take your help thereby he will be dependent on you always.. So don't entertain him at your cost of losing time because its not a joke working under pressure so its very important that you clear the air be frank that you cannot do anything anymore because you can help others only if you help yourself only.. Its better that you have done enough to him from now you should not do any favor to anyone.. Actually your not helping him but making him dependent on you its harmful to you and him also so tell him in frank way and also harsh way... To make him independent..

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    Re: Co-worker coming every now and then for help thereby disturbing me

    You have to handle the situation tactfully.2 things have to be kept in mind .Firstly, your behaviour should not hurt him,and secondly,the inter personal relationship that has gradually developed while working together,should not be hampered at any cost.I can understand your problem,but at the same time,I feel that this man lacks confidence,some where or the other.That is why he gets involved in problems very often,and comes to you seeking for help.If you can help him in identifying his shortcomings,or guide him to pass through certain areas,I think it will be helpful for him,and he will know how to overcome such situations. Helping him to solve a major problem will automatically guide him to solve similar problems.In that case,it can be expected that he will be coming to you less to seek help.As a colleague suggest him to try out to solve problems himself.Also make him understand that it is not possible for you to help him out every time.So it is indeed better to make his own way out.

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    Re: Co-worker coming every now and then for help thereby disturbing me

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am an employee in a multinational company and there is high work pressure. I am facing problem because of my co-worker who comes to me every now and then to seek help in his work,thereby disturbing me. What should I do to handle this situation?
    Dear Aspirant,

    Yes,it usually happens in real life.All are not intelligent.Some people grasp the matter very quickly,where as others take much time to grasp the same matter.It all depends upon many factors.

    It seems your colleague is dependent upon you & you are kind enough to help others,that is why your friend is asking you then & there.It also shows that you have much patience & kind in nature,because it seems you have never shouted at him so far.

    If you feel much disturbance,you can say the same thing to him.You can direct him to take help from your boss or from other seniors also.You can also ask him to do his work himself.

    I think he will be alright & may not ask you after telling these things.

    Thanks & good luck.

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    Re: Co-worker coming every now and then for help thereby disturbing me

    Hi,

    You should explain your problem and high work pressure to your colleagues.

    Tell it is not acceptable if they ask for help in each and every work.

    You can help them but you need to do your work first.

    You must just tell them what to do once and if they do not understand and they take your more time then you must ask them to work on there own.

    Your co workers should learn to deal with their work without getting so much help from others.

    It is not feasible to help co workers in there complete work, this may bring negative impact on them.
    They may become dependent on others for their work.

    So sometimes you must politely refuse.

    Thankyou

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    Re: Co-worker coming every now and then for help thereby disturbing me

    You are working in a multi national company.
    It is not a easy task to help the co-workers all the time.
    YOU are under the pressure of work now.you should do your work first,so you say your co-workers to ask the help of other workers as you are busy to help them.
    You try to say them in the way that they wont get hurted. And do not hurt the relational ships>


    all the best
    thank you

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    Re: Co-worker coming every now and then for help thereby disturbing me

    It can happen when some employees become too much dependent on other and thus thinks to find solution of minutest of problem through others. Actually due to your help whenever he gets stuck into any problem without thinking or trying to find the solution he comes to you so that his problem could be solved as fast as possible. You can solve this thing in many ways either by telling him clearly and making him understand that you have a lot of work pressure and thus not able to solve his problem because such things diverts your mind and thus increases your stress which making things much tougher for you, tell him to try to solve things himself or can take help from other colleagues also. Or you can tell him to bring his all problems at a single time, assign him a fix time and tell him to come at that time only so that you can listen to his problems much easily and thus can solve it properly. or you can tell him that due to work pressure it is possible that you might give him some wrong suggestions/solution which can spoil his work so it is better that come whenever you get free from work.

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    Re: Co-worker coming every now and then for help thereby disturbing me

    Dear Friend,

    I appreciate your attitude of helping others in your office even at the expense of your own work and also that you don't want to hurt that person. There are very few people these days who are so helpful to others.

    But, you should always give priority to your own work and then help others only when you have got some spare time. Here, you have to handle the situation very cleverly as to get your problem solved as well as not to sour your relationship with that person.

    So, you should talk to him nicely and explain to him the problem you are facing. Tell him that you have got too much of work load and that makes it very difficult for you to take out time for him. You can tell him to note his queries and ask it to you when you are absolutely free or you can yourself ask him if he is having any doubt.

    I am sure he will understand your problem and will not trouble you anymore. If he doesn't understand then that means he is an idiot and then you should clearly tell him not to disturb you.

    All the best.
    Thank you.

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    Re: Co-worker coming every now and then for help thereby disturbing me

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    Re: Co-worker coming every now and then for help thereby disturbing me

    When you are being disturbed in your work then you must talk to that person over this because if you have a lot of pressure in your work then you must be free from all tensions and worries while working then only you will be eligible to manage your work and perform better in the company and if you are unable to tell him directly then you should try to keep yourself busy all time and show that you are not in mood to help others and when he comes to ask you for help then you should say that come after lunch or give a long time and when he will hear it then I am sure will not think to come to you again and if comes then you should show that you are really busy in your work but help at once and say to him that if you want any help in your work then you should come during the lunch time not while I am busy in working hours because it is creating a lot of disturbance in my work that I can't afford easily so please think about the situation and come in lunch time for help so he will come that time so you can help him and manage your work too

    All the best

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