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    Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    I am working in a government organisation. Our boss not only takes interest in our work but also wants to know what we do at our homes, how do we spend time with our family, are we fond of parties etc. I think he is too interfering. How to deal with such a boss?

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    Hi aspirant

    I know that what your boss is doing right now is certainly interference but you should know that you have to always make it a point to maintain good relations with your boss. So for that you have to endure such things also. So unless the questions are not too personal you should make it a point to answer them and not displease your boss by not entertaining him. You should always try to respect his wishes.

    The next time when your boss asks you such a question you should pleasantly answer them and then you will see how friendly he becomes with you. Also you will be gaining a lot by becoming more friendly with him and not just restricting yourself to an employer and employee relation. So friend you should not think of it as something negative and thus always fulfill the wishes of your boss.

    I don't think that you should have any hesitation in answering such questions like what you do at your home, do you like partyinhg etc as these are not very personal and you can answer them like you would have done if your friend would have asked you the same. Also don't feel shy in front of your boss and try to entertain him as much as possible unless he crosses the line.

    I am sure that your boss will be more than glad if you take interest in conversing with him and that you will definitely become one of his favourite employees. I really hope that yopu listen to me and also make sure that you keep up your hard work and don't think that only pleasing your boss will help you if you lose interest in your work. Good luck for your future and thanks

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a government organisation. Our boss not only takes interest in our work but also wants to know what we do at our homes, how do we spend time with our family, are we fond of parties etc. I think he is too interfering. How to deal with such a boss?
    Dear Aspirant,

    Some of the boss is interested in knowing details of personal life of the under employees.In order to know the nature of the employees,some boss is interested to know all those things.There may be purpose of making official friendship as a family relationship.You need not worry for this.See the nature of your boss & if he is good impression of others & you,you can extend your official relation to personal relationship otherwise you need not reply with actual fact & figure of your personal life.You can say "I spend time with my children & other family members,by reading news paper,by watching television etc.

    Your reply should be in polite manner,so that he could not mind your otherwise.

    Thanks & good luck.

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    i think one should respect one's privacy its very awkward to hear this... its better don't move closely with your boss whenever he puts this question you better answer in a very bad mood i mean don't be interested in answering him.. answer him in a normal simple way... its better not to discuss about your family.. be boring to your boss and tell nonsense things when asks about your activities at home... whenever you approach him talk about work and other conversations you make every time unusual things this is the best way you can control your boss..

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    dear friend

    this is good thing that your boss want to
    know about you. i think he is creating a
    friendly environment with you all. so that's
    why he is asking you such things .so dont
    worry about this. but if you are not liking
    such thing then talk to him. dont be rude
    with him. ask him gently that sir i appreciate
    your question but i dont want anyone to know
    about my personal life.

    hope this will help you

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    Dear you should not take your boss as negative because he is not asking you something personal or in depth about your personal life, he is just asking some normal things and this things makes your boss frank to every employee and if you think that your boss is interfering then you are thinking wrong because your boss is sharing something and if he ask then you also should ask about their life but if you do not like their interference in your work then you may ignore them but this will not be good so you may say to them sir please do not ask about my personal life that what we do at our home and we may not share any type of personal details with anyone else so please stop asking this type of questions from anyone in the office premises and do not go in depth of the life of any employee being in this organization and if you will directly say this then he will stop doing this

    All the best


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    Hi friend this is totally is different situation I ever seen. In which a boss interest in your daily life rather than your job profile work. What you have to do is that clearly instructed to him/her that sir please itís a humble request to you that please donít interested in my personal life I am a employee here not a gossiped topic for you so itís good to be you that please donít interference in my or people which they are work together in this office.
    Thanking you hopes you like my suggestionÖ.

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    Hi friend this is totally is different situation I ever seen. In which a boss interest in your daily life rather than your job profile work. What you have to do is that clearly instructed to him/her that sir please itís a humble request to you that please donít interested in my personal life I am a employee here not a gossiped topic for you so itís good to be you that please donít interference in my or people which they are work together in this office.
    Thanking you hopes you like my suggestionÖ.

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    Hello,

    Dont be so judgmental! Take it on a lighter tone.Both of you work together so practically both of you are colleagues.So as a colleague he might be interested in what you do at home or how you spend time with your family etc.These questions are absolutely harmless and he might be interested in establishing good personal bond with you.There is nothing to take take this on a serious tone,and this is a very petty issue.If you change your mindset up regarding him,then it may result in good friendship between you two.

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    Hello...

    Friend , it is the thing that can have two views. On the one hand that you are saying that he is trying to interfere in you personal works, but let us have the other view in it may be your boss is trying to make a good relationship with you all . A good and healthy relationship can be good for both of you as a boss or as a employee , so may be he is thinking like this. Friend if you are having any problem against this then think one more time and if you think that it is not bearable then just talk to your boss about this issue and i think that he will surely understand your point of view.

    thanks.

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    Hey!
    Such cases are very common these days because gossip mongers are in plenty in Government organizations. They do not have much work to do and hence they always want to interfere with the lives of others. You should be strict in divulging your personal details to them. You should just avoid the situation by not giving him too many details about anything.

    You should indirectly tell him some day that how you do not like such people who interfere in the lives of their employees. You should also be strict and direct about it so that your boss understands. You will have to raise your voice against such people. Thne only they will understand.

    All the best!

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    Hi,

    There are many reason for the same...your boss might be interested to talk too much...it might be so that your boss likes to lighten the daily pressure from work what you are doing..however asking personal thinks again and again is not a good sign...

    Try to understand the body language and the attitude of your boss and then you can understand the intention of your boss correctly.

    Don't avoid always but try to avoid when personal discussion is going on..

    Try it..

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a government organisation. Our boss not only takes interest in our work but also wants to know what we do at our homes, how do we spend time with our family, are we fond of parties etc. I think he is too interfering. How to deal with such a boss?
    Hello Aspirant,

    In fact the boss should not interfere with the family matters of the subordinates employees.But some of the boss does it & it is mainly when the boss feels that the subordinate employees are too dependent upon boss or when he/she feels that the subordinate employees are different in nature,may be not so social,not adjustable with the family etc.Or he may have intention to build up a good family relation.

    You need not worry for it.When you are intersted to be close to your boss,You can say the facts & figures of you family life,otherwise you can reply him roughly.If you say him the fact to him,he may like to close to you,if he/she thinks fit for it & if you reply roughly,he may be away from you slowly in this angle.

    So see your situation & move accordingly
    .

    Good luck.

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    hello,
    this is not a situation to bother too much.its just a simple one.your boss need to know about you in professional as well as in your personal life.there are some people who are keen interested in someones personal and to know him better.its not the employee should also give all the genuine answers if he feel its somewhat more personal then directly say to your boss that 'excuse me i dint get you?'.tell him that sir you are going too depth in personal life which was too weird to answer.take permission and leave the cabin.

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    Re: Boss wants to know about so many things other than our work

    Realize that just what exactly your boss is progressing at this time is unquestionably disturbance however you ought to know that you must constantly attempt to take care of great relationships with your boss. So for that you must endure discovered also. So except the actual issues are generally not personal you should attempt to be able to respond to them without displease your boss through not really compelling him. You should always make an effort to esteem his / her wishes.

    The next occasion once your boss asks you actually such a question you should fairly respond to them as well as then you'll definitely learn how warm and friendly they will become using you. In addition you may be increasing a lot through progressively more warm and friendly using them rather than just limiting yourself to a company as well as staff member relation. So close friend you should not consider it anything negative and so constantly fulfill the would like of your respective boss.

    I don't believe that you have to have every delay within giving an answer to such issues like that which you accomplish in your house, accomplish you enjoy partyinhg for example when these aren't incredibly personal and you will respond to them like you will have performed but if your close friend might have inquired you the same. In addition tend not to really feel shy while in front of your boss and then try to captivate them wherever possible except they crosses the actual line.

    More than likely that your chosen boss is often more compared to grateful invest the desire for actually talking to them and you is sure to turn into one of his / her favorite employees. I truly hope that yopu listen closely to me and also just be sure you maintain the hard work as well as don't believe that just pleasing your boss will help you should you lose interest within your work.
    Some of the boss has an interest within understanding information of private lifetime of the actual under employees.In order to recognise the character from the staff,several boss has an interest to recognise all of the things.There may be goal of generating public companionship to be a household relationship.You do not need to be anxious for this.See the character of your respective boss & if perhaps they are great impression of people & you actually,you are able to stretch the public relation to private marriage in any other case you should not solution using precise point & amount of ones own life.You can say "I spend more time with the kids & other family members,through reading news report,through watching youtube etc.

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