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    Boss choosing me instead of a deserving employee for promotion

    I am an employee in a private firm. Recently our company will give promotion to few employees. My boss has decided to choose for promotion instead of an employee who is more deserving than me since I am close to him. What should I do? How to deal with the situation since it is making me feel guilty?

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    Re: Boss choosing me instead of a deserving employee for promotion

    Hello,

    Firstly I would appreciate your honesty,that you are aware of your own position,that is what you deserve and what not.Majority of people expect more than they deserve,and they keep on expecting more and more,and they sulk when they find their expectations are unfulfilled.Now coming to your question,you yourself are saying that your boss is favouring you despite of another more deserving candidate.If you have a scope to talk with your boss regarding this issue,then frankly talk to him on this,that is what ever you have on your mind.The final decision will surely be your boss's,what ever he thinks to be right.

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    I am impressed with your honesty. As you said that your boss is choosing you for promotion and you think that u are not fit for it, then please have a frank discussion with your boss. And also think for a while that your boss trust your capabilities,so try to figure out it also. If you are 100% sure that you cant handle the new post then don't get promoted , else if you have some faith on you then please do not let the opportunity pass on.

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    Re: Boss choosing me instead of a deserving employee for promotion

    Hi
    It's all professionalism my dear, you have to face such conditions in your entire job career. Now its completely up to you that on which side you wanna be. If you think you'll stick to the honesty then there will be a self satisfaction in you, but only if you don't feel any guilt about passing your promotion to the less deserving employer, you should go on with honesty and tell your boss that I don't want this promotion, I don't deserve it.

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    Dear this is absolutely unfair being done by your boss and if you are closing to your boss then this thing does not matters in promotion and when you also know that another one who have not been selected for promotion is better than you and can perform ever time better than you then he must be in the list of those candidates who are going to get promoted in upcoming months and if you are feeling guilty then you should closely meet your boss and prefer that person and give his name to your boss because this is absolutely right for you at this time and if you will support him to your boss then i am sure that your boss will shortlist that person because he is better than you and working in that company from years so that he must get promotion at any cost and this is your duty that you should list out his name to the boss otherwise it would not be good for your career because when you will fee guilty in your heart then you will not be concentrated on your work so please try to stop it

    All the best

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    Re: Boss choosing me instead of a deserving employee for promotion

    Hello friend,

    I think your boss is to give a promotion to her close friends .
    I think this is the not correct.
    Majority of people expect more than they deserve,and they keep on expecting more and more,and they sulk when they find their expectations are unfulfilled.
    Now coming to your question,you yourself are saying that your boss is favoring you despite of another more deserving candidate.

    So you can don't involve this mater.

    Thanks!!!

    ALL THE BEST..........

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    hiii,
    i am impressed by your honesty. really you are a great man , you know exactly what is your position and rest of the good things too. well if your boss has selected you for promotion then there might be a something you are not able too see and he has seen in you. may be he thinks you are more deserving than him . because while selection you all must had been considered so may be they made a fair decisions. you should accept it with full respect. because your boss must not be a fool he must have taken the right decisions.
    thanks

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    Re: Boss choosing me instead of a deserving employee for promotion

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    It is really pleasing to see you being so honest to yourself and towards your profession.This is an extremely rare sight which is found in the professional scenario.You should be saluted for being so honest and fair and your desire of doing justice to the deserving one.It really needs a lot of courage to do this.

    You can do many things concerning this issue.First of all,you have to be mentally prepared about the consequences because of your further acts since you may lose the opportunity to get promotion and that employee may be chosen in place of you.Set up your mind towards your goal and just strive for it to do justice.

    Approach your boss.Tell him your thoughts and what you feel.Tell about the guilt feeling that you are having because of this and ask him to do justice by choosing the right person.Listen to his words and understand his thinking point of view since the criteria for promotion may be different from what you had thought of.So,listen to your boss and work accordingly.

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    Re: Boss choosing me instead of a deserving employee for promotion

    Dear guest,Its rare and very thoughtful of you to feel so. Your boss selects you as you say that you are close to him. But my question is, are you sure? Well its alright to think so but you must have the opportunity to ask your boss about the promotion issue. Ask him if he really believes in awarding you this promotion. And tell him openly with courage that you feel that someone else deserves this promotion. If even after that your boss believes that you can do it then trust me you can do it. You are the best employee to fill that spot. Now there is no problem in accepting any promotion. All you have to do is follow the part. Why do you choose to stay back? Why do you think someone else is better than you. Guest it is time to be a little optimistic. Don't you think so?Thank you...

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    Re: Boss choosing me instead of a deserving employee for promotion

    Dear guest,

    Its rare and very thoughtful of you to feel so. Your boss selects you as you say that you are close to him. But my question is, are you sure? Well its alright to think so but you must have the opportunity to ask your boss about the promotion issue. Ask him if he really believes in awarding you this promotion. And tell him openly with courage that you feel that someone else deserves this promotion. If even after that your boss believes that you can do it then trust me you can do it. You are the best employee to fill that spot. Now there is no problem in accepting any promotion. All you have to do is follow the part. Why do you choose to stay back? Why do you think someone else is better than you. Guest it is time to be a little optimistic. Don't you think so?

    Thank you...

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    Re: Boss choosing me instead of a deserving employee for promotion

    It is very pleasing to check you being thus honest to yourself and towards your profession.This is a particularly rare sight that is found within the skilled situation.You should be saluted for being thus honest and truthful and your need of doing justice to the worth one.It very desires lots of bravery to try to to this.

    You'll be able to do several things regarding this issue.First of all,you have to be mentally ready regarding the implications attributable to your additional acts since you will lose the chance to urge promotion which worker is also chosen in situ of you.Set up your mind towards your goal and simply try for it to try to to justice.

    Approach your boss.Tell him your thoughts and what you are feeling.Tell regarding the guilt feeling that you just area unit having attributable to this and raise him to try to to justice by selecting the correct person.Listen to his words and perceive his thinking purpose of read since the factors for promotion is also completely different from what you had thought of.So,listen to your boss and work consequently.
    Its rare and really thoughtful of you to feel thus. Your boss selects you as you say that you just area unit near him. However my question is, area unit you sure? Well its alright to suppose thus however you want to have the chance to raise your boss regarding the promotion issue. raise him if he very believes in subsidization you this promotion. And tell him brazenly with bravery that you just feel that somebody else deserves this promotion. If even afterward your boss believes that you just will sleep with then trust Pine Tree State you'll be able to sleep with. you're the simplest worker to fill that spot. currently there's no drawback in acceptive any promotion. All you've got to try to to is follow the half. Why does one like better to keep back? Why does one suppose somebody else is best than you. Guest it's time to be alittle optimistic.

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    Re: Boss choosing me instead of a deserving employee for promotion

    dear friend

    if your boss is close to you and you are feeling guilty for the other employee then
    you can talk to your boss and ask him to give promotion to that employee
    and tell him that you will earn this opportunity. but you will not grab like this.

    hope this will help you

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    Re: Boss choosing me instead of a deserving employee for promotion

    Hi,

    You are a nice and honest person.
    May be this be the reason why your boss has chosen you for promotion.
    The decision is yours, you can talk to your boss about this that the deserving candidate should get promotion.
    while the mean time you can work harder to earn your promotion.
    And if the boss still gives you promotion , then you must work hard and perform better in your new position.
    do not feel guilty, because your boss must have made this decision by looking at your overall performance including your honesty and good behavior.

    Good luck

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