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    All the employees want to be friends with me just because of my good connections

    I am working in a private firm. I belong to a wealthy family and have very good connections with people of high repute. So due to this all my colleagues want to be friends with me. But I donít like this at all as I want to befriend someone who understands me and is not after my connections. What to do in such a situation?

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    Re: All the employees want to be friends with me just because of my good connections

    Hello Friend,
    In this situation you need to be bit more reserved. Since you are not reserved so its easy for everyone to get access to you and make you friend. Also be clear about your thought and whenever you gets time always explain your thought to your colleagues that you want real friendship and not the friendship which is for benefit or connection.
    Try to stay away from those people who wants to get with you.
    Thank You!!!

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    Re: All the employees want to be friends with me just because of my good connections

    Hello,

    Look, the truth is everyone is after power and money. So people want to keep connections with those things or with such persons which they consider can be a guiding force to earn wealth and fame. This is the strategy why most of the employees in your company keep connections with you. Now in order to befriend that person, it is essential that both of you share some good vibes among yourselves. It is very essential to develop a bond of trust. Without trust, you cannot move towards the next step. If that person doesn't have enough trust on you, then he may not take you or your help in the right way. Once this is done, you can easily approach him/her with what ever you have to offer. Lastly, I would say that it is very crucial to understand who is/ who are your real friend/friends!

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    Re: All the employees want to be friends with me just because of my good connections

    Hello Friend,

    Well, these days people love the person who has money and connections. Our society always worship those who has financial strength or political or social connections. There is a reason behind your colleagues sudden derise to be friend with you. You should always remember that these people are fair weather friends and should not be trusted at all. You should stick to your own principles and never hurt any of your colleagues. Your main task to to concentrate on your work at office and you should do that effectively. Time is the best judge of an individual's chracter so you should wait and analyse each of your colleagues and then based on that you have to take a desicion of whether to be friend with them or not.

    Bye,

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    Re: All the employees want to be friends with me just because of my good connections

    Hi Dear,

    Life is all about dealing with people around you in a very polished manner so that none could get hurt with you words and your desired work could get done without any glitches.

    I can understand that due to your powerful and rich connections, people get keen to befriend you. But, being rude to them or rebuking them for their materialistic attitude is not the solution to the problem. In fact, instead of making an expectation from them to change their attitude, you can always bring a change in your attitude.

    Try to maintain an arm's length with such people who believe in leading a life of material existence rather than leading a life endowed with intellectual values.


    Also, never flaunt your riches or talk about your powerful connections amongst your friends. Be a simple person and try talking about things other than money and riches in front of them. Even if they initiate a topic related to materialism, try changing the topic to work and future aspirations.

    Always make responsible and aware conversations with your friends so that even they could get a lesson to walk in the same path led by you.


    Thanks.

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    Smile Re: All the employees want to be friends with me just because of my good connections

    Friend ship is the best relation in the world.A good friend is the person who keeps more trust on you,who help you in our need,who want to make you happy all the time.
    But,most of the people uses friend ship for their benefits but we should not have that type of persons with you,these people creates lot of problems to you.These people stay with you if you have good name and wealth if it is not there they not even try to talk to you.So,you have to know who is the know who is real friend and who is not real.
    Real friend wont do any thing which is not good for you so,you have to choose like those persons to make friends.As you have mentioned that you are so friendly and mains good connections.try to be reserved when ever some people approaches you for becoming friend to you.
    all the best
    thank you

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    Re: All the employees want to be friends with me just because of my good connections

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I am working in a private firm. I belong to a wealthy family and have very good connections with people of high repute. So due to this all my colleagues want to be friends with me. But I donít like this at all as I want to befriend someone who understands me and is not after my connections. What to do in such a situation?
    Dear Aspirant,

    It is possible what you have mentioned.In fact a man can not have many friends,because being friend means you have to maintain a lot for which you may not find time.It is quite natural to think to get any sort of help from you in case of need because you are in good connection with high repute persons.

    In order to minimize the nos. of friends,you should not share time & other things with the persons whom you don't want to be friend.You should pretend for something when any unwanted person desires spending time with you.You can pretending to have some urgent work,not having good mood etc.In this way the people will slowly realize your intention & they will start being away from you.

    To my mind,you can deal as stated above to meet your desire.

    Thanks & good luck.

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    Re: All the employees want to be friends with me just because of my good connections

    Dear you are absolutely right that if we have good links and connections in our life with highly reputed people and politicians and if we belongs to a very good and wealthy family then everyone wants to be in touch with us because there is a separate thinking of such type of people that we would be highly useful for them and we would help them in completing various works of their life with the help of our connections and reputations and many times we see the same and sometimes they gets good connection with us and starts giving us work of their friends and other familiars on the name of friendship and that moment comes as we can not say them sorry over any issue because of good relations so be careful before making good relations with anyone

    First of all you should accept friendship of all the employees who wants to be your friend then you just have to show that you are too busy in your personal chores and not having enough time to give more time to friends that is why say hello to everyone when you go to the office and say bye good evening when you leave office and if anyone comes to you to get help in any official work then you should help and if anyone comes to you that there are some works laying incomplete for the past few months then you should exactly say no at that time because you do not have enough time for yourself then how can you help others and show that you are also under compulsion because your work is not being completed so they will see that he is already busy and if anyone call then have good talk but do not get so close with anyone otherwise they will take advantage of your feeling and innocence so be careful while making friends

    All the best

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